3rd failure; low AMH; don’t know what to do…

[p226]

My third transfer also failed, my AMH was 0.49 before the transfer and I think it would have fallen further after this cycle.

Don’t know if I should go for another IVF cycle with my own eggs or go for a donor cycle or just drop the idea of having a child of my own all together, may be we should just adopt! My AMH was 2.1 before we started our first IVF and has fallen so low in just 3 cycles. I wonder if I didn’t get pregnant with good quality embroys what are the chances of it happening now with egg quality going down and me getting older

Things looks so dark at the moment, I was so positive that it will happen but the reality is sinking in that I may never get pregnant.

I feel lost, heart broken and just don’t know if I can ever be positive about any decision from here…

[Orla9298]

My amh used to be 2.2-2.7 ish, and after 5 retrieval’s it’s now about 0.5. I ended up moving to donor and have my baby now, and I must be crazy but I’m now going to try another retrieval with my own eggs. You could consider a tandem cycle - although it would be expensive. I think it’s cheaper to do that in cyprus, and quite common - that way you cycle along with a donor and can choose the best embryos - and you’re having one last go with your own.

Moving to donor is a massive step, although I have to say, once you do it, you’ll be so glad. I wouldn’t change a thing about what we went through, as my DE little girl is so perfect that i recognise if we hadn’t gone through everything we had, she wouldn’t be her if that makes sense. Donor eggs will give you such a better chance as us low amh ladies often really struggle to get pregnant, and holding your little one is so healing, I promise.

We also had a surrogate in the end, so I had a tiny element of feeling odd - like I’d just been handed a baby that isn’t even mine. It wasn’t a bad feeling - just one that I noted, as she’s also not my eggs and I didn’t carry her - but now I don’t really even think about her being DE or surrogate.

Big hug, I know how you are feeling xx

[p226 in reply to Orla9298]

Thank you for sharing with me everything that you have gone through.. we are evaluating donor and surrogate and I am warming up to the idea of it.. it was difficult to accept at first but i think I am trying the strength slowly

[Orla9298 in reply to p226]

It may be worth trying donor eggs transferred into you first before surrogate. We did a donor round and transferred 2 good embryos into me which failed, which is why we then did a new donor round and tried surrogacy. Best of luck with your journey and stay strong, strength and perseverance will get you there xx