Losing hope

[MagicTourmaline]

Dear Ladies,

Is anybody here having issues with their fertility clinic?

I am very upset as I dont feel like i get the support i should be getting... Everytime I need to talk to them or get in touch with them I get so stressed out if I can hold of them at all... The communication with them causing me more stress then the whole process all together...

The way they are, makes me feel like its just a waste of time... all it seems like just delay after delay after delay (not covid related)... no clear communication... tests after tests, more medications to react to the test results but instead of progress things are getting worse then what we have started with...

I dont know if its just me, my approach to it but i never felt so hopeless in my life, its difficult to go through all this time after time and I have no faith in my clinic at all... I never thought Id ever be this way but i cant wait to get a break from it all...

Is it normal?

I am looking to change my clinic after taking a little break after my next transfer, is there any clinic in the south east somebody would recommend?

[IVFat40]

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time with your clinic. There are times when I've also felt incredibly stressed out by the lack of support or individualized care from my clinic (and yes they can be sooo hard to get in touch with). IVF is so hard anyway, it's extra difficult when it doesn't feel like our clinics are on our side.

[Lancal]

There are terrible clinics out there. Changing clinic, when the one you’re with doesn’t feel right, could be the best decision you ever make. Definitely investigate new changing.

Best of luck. x

[Lacryacky]

Hi MagicTourmaline, I know how you feel. We had the same worries with the clinic we started with. I felt so stressed about even going there, everything was made/done in a rush, I didn’t feel that someone take the time to really talk with us, I was so disappointed, felt like at a market, didn’t trust them at all in the end. We looked to started again with someone else.

[Beclp]

Hey x I was in the same boat.Was with our old clinic for 6 months and didn’t feel confident there.

It wasn’t the communication as much as the care we were given which we were not happy with.

We jumped shipped and the new specialist is much better.

I think that’s important to trust the clinic you are working with.

Communication appears to be a common issue with fertility clinics unfortunately.

The whole process really takes it out of you and I give so much credit to anyone travelling this road.

Good luck with your decision 🙏

[Bella_Bee]

Sorry to hear it.. We pay waaaay too much to be treated like shit so move! Happy to suggest an expensive but really effective - and really fast working - clinic in London by PM.

[RebeccaTheo in reply to Bella_Bee]

Could you dm me & let me know too please? My fuse is getting quite short with the clinic I’m with.

Thanks!!

R x

[MagicTourmaline in reply to Bella_Bee]

Yes, I would appreciate that thank you...

[Babyhope8]

I want to tell I faced same situation. So far changed 3 clinics. I felt even after changing clinics this issue persists.

[Fruitandflowers]

Yep, felt the same with my NHS clinic - they took forever and there was very little communication. Including one cancelled round due to the first lockdown, we probably lost two years with them. Then when my first transfer ended in a chemical earlier this year, the receptionist told me I hadn't had a real pregnancy and someone would be in touch. I took three months for them to call me back for a debrief. By then we'd gone private and started treatment. Now that we're paying, I've been disappointed by the clinic as I expected so much more, admin is terrible, everything costs extra, they took zero notice of my past medical history. On the plus side, they just agreed to everything I asked for but the only reason I could even suggest anything was from doing my own research and the incredibly helpful advice from women on here. All they ever want to do is cancel and do X test (at £££) and further delay.

Since I had another chemical and started to get cross, email questions and request doctors to recheck my results and specifically review X, Y and consider Z, they have actually been much better. It shouldn't need this and it's really stressful second guessing what you're being told and feeling like it's all on you, but I guess they are just so busy and pay attention to whoever shouts loudest.

When I hear about the care other people have received it makes me regret, but we are in a rural area and we don't have much choice. If I was in London, I would have changed ages ago.

I hope you're able to get the right care. 🍀

[MagicTourmaline in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Thank you very much for your reply...I feel exactly the same way as you...

I get they are busy but or dont take more on that what they can handle or if they have so many patients then they can afford more staff... Well... in my little world id think that should be the case...

I am waiting for my FET and if that doesnt work i will need to find a different clinic coz this is making me give up after losing 2 years...

I wish you all the best with your journey...

Thank you for taking the time to reply...