Hey 😘 lovely people
I am 7dp5dt and had decided I want to test on day 9, OTD 12dp5dt on Tuesday but now I feel the NEED to know aaargh think I might cave tomorrow. Part of my logic is that if it's positive now then there is a better chance of a birth and if it's not then I can at least process it over the weekend. Feeling stupidly hopeful but I am normally hugely pessimistic so this glimmer of possibility is killing me 😭🤦♀️😱 xxx
Update: I'm going to wait, thank you ladies 🧡🧡
Hi, I totally feel you! Also on my TWW and OTD (11dp4dt) is tmr. I did cave on 9dp3dt and tested in the morning. While it was a happy strong positive and gave me hope, it also drove me crazy and now I’m testing insanely obsessively (like 3x a day). Having had a chemical on my last transfer, I’m terrified things won’t progress and traumatized by the possibility of sthing gone wrong, scenarios like twins, ectopic and molar pregnancies popping into my head, driving me further up a wall. Whichever direction you decide to go, this process never gets easier…Lots of positivity and sticky dust to you! 😘
Hey Grace thanks for the message and congratulations on your BFP that is wonderful news 🧡 I can imagine your anguish after the chemical but I'll be keeping everything crossed that this goes swimmingly for you, and you are right whatever we do is fraught with emotion xx
Try not to test - hard to do but you can do it Keep busy - read a book -go for long walks Eat well -drink plenty of fluids - if on medication take as directedGood luck for OTD
Janet
The only problem is that if it's too early to show - and it's negative, then you won't be any better off than waiting until Tuesday - because you'll still be hoping for it to change.It's an absolutely hellish wait but I honestly think waiting until OTD is the way forward
Best of luck, whatever you decide! xx
As a serial early tester I can honestly honestly tell you testing early really doesn't help AT ALL.
- if its a strong positive you celebrate for all of 5 mins then panic that something might go wrong, get more and more stressed and then test almost every day, panic its not getting darker quick enough, panic it might be getting lighter etc etc and its horrible!!!
- if its a weak positive you panic its a sign something is wrong, its not dark enough, and you get more and more stressed and test every day and panic as above
- if its a negative you cry decide its failed and get really really really down. You think 'well at least I know' and cry again and think 'at least I have closure and resolve to move on'...
... only then your head will start saying 'but its so early - I must still be in with a chance, there is late implantation' you will google 'BFN 9dpt" and find as many good news as bad news stories.. you will then get really stressed and become a serial tester and test every day in case it becomes positive..
..and then repeat all of the items above.
One amazing girl on here who went on to have her baby told me she would never test early and just stay in her 'happy optimistic bubble' until test day. We once did a cycle at the same time and she had that happy bubble to the end and I stupidly tested early and went through all of the above items and ended up having a chemical - and hers was BFP.
DO NOT TEST EARLY - enjoy your little bubble until a definitive test day. Good luck xx
This is honestly the best response ever. Yes to all of this! Think you’ve summed up the tww testing anxiety perfectly 🤪
Thanks Daisy, you have really logically gone through all the possibilities and I can see myself doing each of them, this way madness lies! I guess I hadn't been looking at it as a happy bubble but rather a bubble of torment, I need to flip this attitude around, thanks for your message 🧡
This is all so so true. Will never test early again. Thanks for reminding me the special hell that it is!
Hold on… my OTD is the same as yours… 🤞
Hi I'm also in the same boat I'm 8dp5dt FET and from days 5 to 7 I had cramping and twinges headache etc now today nothing. I am truly driving myself insane symptom spotting. It is so difficult. My clinic says OTD 14days after transfer which is 1st September 😭😭
Oh Artist the symptom spotting is utterly consuming 🤯 I need to chill the F out! You poor thing having to wait until then, there is such huge variation in how long it is to OTD its really bizarre..... I hope you get a BFP 🧡🤞🧡🤞
I'm the same day as you and dying to test soooo bad it's killing me haha x
I know I haven't tested yet. Have you any symptoms? I don't really have any apart from cramps which I think is from the progesterone I'm on crinone and Lubion injection. X
My belly has started sticking out like its bloated but I don't like actually bloated if that makes sense lol before I had the shakes in the mornings in early pregnancy and I had them 2 days ago and then again today so it's giving me a bit of hope 🤞🏼 I was so close to testing today bit I'm guna resist until Monday 🙏 I'm also on lubion injections and cylogest pessaries what is crinone? Xx
That sounds so promising for you. Crinone is the same as cyclogest just a different name I think. I hope that I can resist until then. Wishing you so much luck 🍀xx
I’m literally the same as you! Thought I would wait until 9 days but I’m getting a stiff back, mood swings and I’m certain my period is on its way! Testing tomorrow to get it over with and so I can get out of my own head! I was great for 6 days but now im over it 💖
Judith I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, hopefully those are positive signs, so you are 6dp a 5dt? 🧡🥰🤞
Thank you darling! It came back negative which I felt it would from the past 2 days. Now to figure out the next step! I hope yours is a sticky one x
Ah bugger I'm so sorry, I guess you will keep doing the meds until OTD? huge hugs to you x
That’s ok, I was expecting it! I’m not as upset as I thought I would be, last time I was a mess. Mmmm I Probably should “as it could change” but I’m very aware that won’t be the case x
Do you have a plan for your next step? x
We always said 2 rounds and that’s it, the dr said it should happen in 3. Saying that before this one ended I was over it and just felt that I’m done with it, fair play to everyone who does round after round but for me that’s just not our life. I’ve spent a year working On myself and body for this and id like some normality back. We need to find a fertility counsellor to chat to and see how we get over this again and accept it. Adoption would eventually be the next step xx
Hang in there of you can!!! Its so hard but whatever the result it will be result on OTD. Testing early might just bring more anxiety.
Good luck try 🥰🤞
I've been talked down from the testing precipice 🧡 thank you ladies for sharing your thoughts and experiences 🥰 It has helped hugely and I'm going to wait. You have helped me understand that there is just as much torment on the other side of an early test and I am going to try and keep positive. I saw my therapist for the first time in person today, joys of covid, and we did a hypnosis session. It really calmed me down and she got me to visualize not just the embryo or being pregnant but meeting my baby and holding him/her, it was so emotional, my fingers were properly tingling. I never let myself picture these things as it seems like tempting fate but after doing it I feel a lot calmer. I know what will be will be so I just have to keep going. Thanks for all the support, you have helped me get through today xxx
And good luck to everyone whenever you decide to pee on that stick 🧡🤞
I know it’s so hard, but really try your hardest to not test early. It’s so tempting and a horrible 2ww, but if anything I think it might fuel anxiety or unknowns. I have had 3 transfers and each time the 2ww gets harder but through literally gritting my teeth I have always waited until the test day. Like others have said distraction, distraction, distraction. Hide your tests/ give them to your partner to keep hold of. Just try and wait. As much as we overthink and analyse testing early won’t change the outcome either way and (I think) it’s better to know for sure on the right day. But equally you’ve got to do what suits you. That’s just my perspective and experience xx
I always test early and for me personally it’s the best thing to do as I need time to process things. I have to go to work on OTD and I just couldn’t face the negative and go straight in being ‘fine’ at work. I tested 5dp5dt and each day since (today is 7dp) and all BFN. I know it could change but it probably won’t and I find the time to adjust helps me. I know I’m in the minority of people with my approach but I just couldn’t handle the 2ww otherwise. Best wishes for a positive outcome xx
I always tried to test in the nearest weekend to test day after having a bad mid week test at work meltdown. Do what’s right for you 🤗 whilst I have tested positive at 8dpt that turned out to be a Chemical it also still showed positive on OTD so it wouldn’t have saved me any heartache has I waited.
8dpt has always given me the true result and I used to beat myself up about ‘caving’ and advise others not to as well in hindsight it did help me personally process things at the time I was ready to test/know 🤗
Good luck whenever you pee on the stick xx
It's definitely best to hold off if you can. I started bleeding heavily between 8dp5dt and 11dp5dt so decided that I would test last Saturday instead of waiting until my OTD on Monday because I was expecting the worst and didn't want to be upset whilst trying to work. I done two tests Saturday, two Sunday and three Monday, all of which came back with those beautiful two pink lines (which I've never seen before). I decided on Monday I was doing no more tests for all of the reasons listed above by Daisy1245. I just know I'll obsess over whether there's anything wrong, whether the lines are darker etc. I'm also trying my best not to google every single twinge, pain or cramp too. Instead, I'm trying my best to just enjoy knowing that I am pregnant for the moment and see what my first scan brings in 12 days time. Testing early doesn't help at all. If it hadn't been for me bleeding and the nurse at my clinic not sounding hopeful, I would have held off until OTD. Wishing you the best of luck for your 2WW and OTD 🥰 xx
Best to wait or take the test and disregard the results till it’s the correct time to test. It’s tempting but it’s also an emotional rollercoaster. Bear in mind the results could be affected by trigger shot etc…Good luck!
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