I know this one has been asked before but I am curious to read recent answers. What have you been told about sex and orgasm during the 2ww? I was told no sex for the first week, then sex with condom ok. No information about orgasm.. so I asked last time, and they told me to avoid because of the contractions, but then I don't remember whether they meant during the first week only... and now I am too embarrassed to ask again
I am asking also because my sex drive is going up and up every day (it's been very low for weeks/months apart from a few days after my first FET last month where I "o-ed" happily in oblivion... whoops...), I am now at 11dp6dt (hCG test booked for Monday... ouf, so long).. so it's frustrating not to be able to do anything about it (on top of all other limitations...). Plus I also read that some people refrain from sex and orgasm for the whole trimester if they get a BFP, oh dear... , really? I am so ignorant...
I was told no unprotected sex from luteal stage- and no sex during 2ww. They didn’t say no orgasms though- but we didn’t do anything- just in case. It was probably just unfortunate that I miscarried hours after we first did it at 5weeks3 on our first cycle. But we weren’t going to risk it! We waiting until our scan this time. Good luck xxx
What?!? No sex or orgasms... really? My clinic haven’t mentioned this at all. No sex I can cope with but no orgasms... wow. I have some serious questions to ask my clinic!
Yes let me know what they tell you then, please (I am serious) No alcohol, no warm bath, no exercise, no sex... and no big O either maybe even. Sorry for the bad news Good luck xxx
Might as well move to a convent! I know it’s only small things compared to what we’re trying to achieve but we do give up so much. I really hope I don’t have to give up orgasms as well x
yeah I know what you mean... well hopefully if we have to it is only for the 2ww... but sounds like some recommend for the whole first trimester... sorry just warning you!
Yeah, great, thanks! Good to know for my next transfer (unfortunately this one was not successful). That will be the last too for me. :'-( Good luck to you! xxx
PS (btw it is a clinic in the UK or abroad? I am curious just to see whether there is a difference in countries...)
Oh I’m sorry to hear that lovely, fingers crossed the last one is the lucky one. It’s such a tough thing to go through isn’t it. My clinic is in the UK! x
Thanks for the crossed fingers, we'll see, to be honest at this stage I'd be surprised if I managed to get pregnant eventually. But some hope is still there. xx
Thanks! Not really too down as I was expecting (I had a difficult ET, with bleeding, sigh, as my cervix apparently is curved so the dr had to use a forcep, sob...). I read that a difficult ET lowers the chances even more. I really do not think there's much chance for me. But at least I got my lining to grow twice in a row so I am hopefully out from that pit... Hope things are going ok for you and thanks again for your care! Hugs xx
You're welcome, Im just sorry you didnt have a better outcome....lining playing ball is defo a positive!! Ouch, I had to have one of those clamp things at my mock transfer as I have a slight bend too but it wasnt as bad as I thought.....was freaking out when I saw it! Im starting to feel a bit the same as you, not sure if there is much hope but will see how this next one goes....my lining currently stuck at 6.2mm....arrgghhh!!xx
Oh dear... the bloody lining, triple arrrghhh indeed! What day are you at? last time mine was 6.4 at day 11 but then had a sudden unexpected jump to 8.5 at day 15 (maybe partly becasue I followed your advice about hot water bottle and bath I also did one hour of failry energetic yoga at home every day, without sweating though)! I found that using estradiol pills vaginally seems to work better for me (although it's not very practical). Anyway, on my side my clinic is now recommending other tests (ERA, test for trombophilic mutations [genetic testing of blood clotting risk] and immunological tests, all recommended because of "repeated implantation failure"). TBH I am not sure that 2 failed FETs are *that* bad, but I certainly do not want to put myself at risk of blood clots (argh). But I do not want to spend more money on not-so-useful tests and travels, take more hormones to just skip a cycle, etc. My period is due tomorrow (and so I would need to take estradiol again soon!) and I am not sure I should go for the last FET already this month (but then things will be stressful at work from mid-January, I am in an unsually quiet phase at work). And I badly want all this to be over... enough is enough. What to say? Anyway... big good luck to you and pray your lining behaves... why can't it ever be easier for some of us? Really big hug!! xxx
I guess I've only had 11 days worth of progynova so still time for it to change. I always seem to need that extra time for some reason, just hoping that's the case this time again. I've had all the tests done that you have apart from the ERA one and I now do blood thinners. It's worth a check, regarding the immunes....not sure if I'd just skip to trying ateriod cover first as that's pretty much all the do for it most of the time! I know what you mean I just want it to be done too!😣😥 It is hard and it would just be nice to catch a break! Thanks for your well wishes....hot water bottles from now on in.... I'll be taking one to work at this rate!!😂😂 Hugs to you too, hard to know what to do for the best sometimes!!xx
Thanks.. btw what do you mean by "trying ateriod cover first"? Also, where did you have your tests done? I leave in the SW and it's pretty difficult here to find a place other then Nuffield private hospital that does anything for me (IVF clinics only treat you if you are their patient... to my knowledge this happens only this country I have been checked out without problems by private clinics, as external patient, in Denmark, Germany, and Italy. It adds to the frustration and to the sense that this whole enterprise was a bad idea... (fuming picture). 6.2 mm at day 11 then it's not bad, specially if you say you usually need just a bit more time... !! Fingers crossed!!
Sorry I meant steriod cover....typo!! Prednisone....I can let you know what protocol I'm getting given....I posted on someone else's post. I had my tests done in Greece so they are a bit cheaper over there. I'm classed as a relatively low risk but I'm sure I have an immunity problem from allergies to the sun, recurrent mouth ulcers etc.
My clinic said it won't hurt the embryo just how comfortable I was with big ovaries.We have not done anything naughty yet since 3 days before egg collection so 12 days which is so not like us 🙈. I did also have thrush too from the pessaries though and generally very sore inside.
Louise
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Thanks... but sorry to hear about the soreness, ouch. Hopefully you will feel better soon... good luck xxx
I did refrain from orgasm in first trimester because in a previous pregnancy I experienced horrible cramping after an O in very early days. I miscarried that pregnancy but it wasn’t due to the O- it just was unpleasant and a bit scary. In second trimester I had really high sex drive.
Hi there! During 2ww both my private clinic and my nhs clinic has said no sex and no big O! You obviously have to be careful following egg collection if you have unprotected sex, your ovaries need to heal from being stabbed and poked so as not to get an infection, and you have to hope that they managed to retrieve all eggs with none going stray. They say no big O as the contractions can impact on implantation (I know naturally people carry on) but until you get a bfp is it really worth the risk given all you've been through? As hard as it is and as frustrating as it is that this journey takes away the nice things from us, I tell myself, it's just a little longer and if it doesn't work out, I can do all I want then. If I were you I would ask your clinic xx
Sure you are right, I am not saying I cannot hold off... but it's a bit puzzling this drive getting stronger every day. Well hopefully at some point I can so something about it, but as you said I will not risk it. Thanks! xx
My clinic gave me a list of do's and dont's and although they didnt mention O, they did say word for word "Vaginal rest- nothing in vagina: no tampons, no sexual relations of any kind until otherwise specified". Ha ha ha So we have always gone on their advice as its too much to risk guilt wise. Havent ever gotten any further so cant advise on after that.xx
Interesting wording it sounds their main concern is infection or something like that. Well if they ever mention the big O let me know, I am interested And good luck! xx
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Actually "no sexual relation of any kind" is also a big ambiguous especially when paired with "vaginal rest"... ergh... well ok I am not going to inquire further
I was advised no to all! Sex, orgasms the whole lot! Apparently orgasms help initially with getting the sperm upto the egg, but after that they can they interfere with implantation. As I have suffered recurrent mc I’ve also been advised no sex for 12 weeks. Just wish I could get to that point. For me, I’m completely the opposite! Lol! Used to have such a good sex drive and now after transfer I don’t let my hubby anywhere near me! Think he’d have to go a full 9 months it it ever worked for me 😂xx
BFN... c'est la vie. One more left for us. I do not think this will even happen, but I am keen to be over the whole IVF process soon, pregnant, or not. All the best to you! xxx
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Really sorry to hear that - posted my response before you posted that - apologies if it came across as a bit insensitive x
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No worries... I really would have been surprised if had not been negative. We are exhausted by the process and do not think it will happen for us. Ok we still keep some hope for our last one, but try to be realistic. For myself, as my hubby is/was the one really keen on having children, I just hope to get to the end of the process (pregnant or not) healthy (physically and psychologically). I will be hard of course to come out with nothing other than a life experience, but at the same time one cannot protract this indefinitely (I will be 45 in March, enough for me!). Best wishes to you! xx
Oh I’m so sorry to read this. I completely understand where your coming from. Here’s hoping you saved the best till last and your little miracle arrives xx
Indeed, let's hope so. If not, at least I can look forward to getting my 'normal' life back, which is no small thing! xx
I was told to crack on and not worry about it! Orgasm or not! I was also told I could carry heavier items after ET 'if it was normal practice'... so I could do my 2 hour commute on trains and tubes lugging my laptop bag around if I was used to it.. the only thing my clinic were red hot about was no baths or swimming due to risk of infection - anything else goes according to them! Good luck x
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Wow fascinating... someone needs to do a study on different recommendations by clinics Thanks! Crack on!
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