Missed miscarriage update. Pills? Op?

[Capps8]

Thought I’d update anyone I interested with my frustrations!

7 and 8 Wk scans showed no heartbeat from FET after BFP. Local hospital wouldn’t accept those scans so today I’ve had a 9 week scan. (4th scan to yet again confirm no baby!)

Last week I stopped progesterone and started bleeding. I really thought I’d passed, but scan today shows I still have a sac left. No Doctors can see me until Sunday due to staff Covid-shortages.

I’m finding the dragging on so frustrating. I’m also terrified for any pain that I am about to experience. I was dead set on a general anaesthetic but now contemplating the pills on Sunday to just get it done. If I go for the op it could get cancelled due to the staff shortages.

Do the pills make the pain worse? Is it like labour? I’m winding myself up about it all!

Thank you Cathy.

[Bexarama83]

Hey Capps. I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I had a natural miscarriage a few months ago at 8 weeks. I didn’t need medical intervention, but if I could’ve had a d&c, I would. The pain only lasted a few days, but all in all, it took 3.5 weeks to clear out. It kept coming on in waves, every few days. Severe cramps and heavy, like really heavy. If I were you, I’d take the pills to try and push things on. Best of luck for the future. xx

[Capps8 in reply to Bexarama83]

Thank you for your reply and I’m sorry for your loss xxx

[RS43]

Hi Capps8,

I’m really sorry the hear this. I had a MMC at 9 weeks last month and it’s the worst thing to go through. I was told that surgery would be the best option for me due to the size of the sac. To be honest I’m glad the decision was made for me but I think I would have opted for the surgery anyway as it was quick and over with in a day. It’s frustrating about the staff shortages, covid is a b****!

I was told that the pills would be quite painful and that it would drag things out so I was put off by this. Also if it is anything like the pill they give you before they take you through to surgery then I would imagine it would be quite painful at times.

Good luck! X

[Capps8 in reply to RS43]

Thank you for your reply. I’d prefer surgery but they have to do a Covid test/ wait 48hrs for some reason and my hospital is sooo short staffed they said each day it could get cancelled. I’m tempted for the pills as I can get them tomorrow but a bit scared at the same time. Im so sorry for your loss too x

[Hidden]

So sorry for your loss. Have had a couple of missed miscarriages and I have always opted for surgery. I have had some natural miscarriages too and wish I could have had surgery that time as well. For me I just wanted it over and done with physically so I could focus on trying to heal mentally and deal with things. Hugs xx

[Capps8 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, Yearh it’s been 2 and a half weeks now since we found out no heartbeat. I just want it done so I can start recovering and getting my mindset ready for another FET.

[sunset212]

Hi Capps. I am so sorry to read about your loss. Having experienced one back in 2018 before going on to have my son I did the wait for several weeks to see if I would expel the pregnancy naturally but didn’t. I decided on the pills. It’s actually a pessary the second medication which softens the cervix and allows the contractions so to speak to commence. I won’t lie it is painful but for me didn’t want to do the surgical route as there is a small risk of scarring in a condition called a Asherman’s syndrome which can make it harder to implant in the future if you were unlucky. The medication route I felt was the second best course to natural. Mine was all over after after 2-3 hours. It is effective 90% of the time at under 8 weeks. Best wishes. Xx

[Capps8 in reply to sunset212]

Thank you for your reply. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m concerned I can’t get the op till the end of next week and it’s just going on and on but the pills I can get tomorrow. I am 9wks +2 days today.

I am a bit scared how much it’s going to hurt. But I have a little girl so thinking it can’t be as bad a full labour (can it!?). Thank you.

[sunset212 in reply to Capps8]

No it’s not as bad as labour hun I am really sorry your going through this difficult time . It’s like a very bad period but turned up a few notches. Well that’s from my personal experience. If you are more comfortable with the op next week I would not add more emotional drain and go for the surgical option if you are leaning towards that . Will be thinking of you. I hope you get a positive outcome on your next transfer xx

[Judy18]

Hi Capps8. I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a miscarriage in November and opted for the D&C because I didn’t think i could cope with the emotional side of the other options. Bit of pain afterwards but manageable. You just need to do what feels right for you lovely. Sending you a big hug xx