Think it is over 😪

[Jenny246]

I started bleeding and I am just devastated. I know I can try hold out hope, but unfortunately I know it is over - there was a lot of bleeding and am just at week 5. Why is life so unfair, so much heartache in this ivf journey, and through it all we have to keep pulling ourselves up again, find some hope, believe it will happen one day. Yet all these years of ivf treatment it is life being on hold. Feel like I am just on a merry-go-round, of treatment and treatment, but never getting to get off. Being stretched in every way. Thank you for being here to share my thoughts.

[LegoBatgirl]

Keeping everything crossed for you, hope you can get an appointment with your clinic. I had a pretty heavy bleed and passed big clots at 5wks 4 days, just got to 11wks 5 days today so I'm hanging on there! I don't want to give you false hope but it might not be over x

[Jenny246 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Thanks so much LegoBatGirl ... it gives a glimmer of hope. Wishing you the very best in your pregnancy x

[Mellyboo111]

Sorry that you are going through this. But did you go to the emergency room to confirm or your doctor. Because last Friday i woke up to my bed full of blood luckly i had mattress cover unless i would have to get rid of my mattress. When i went to the ER and did ultrasound my babies where still there. I was just bleeding from my cervix. Just keep hope till you see your doctor . After being on this forum i realize that bleeding in ivf pregnancy seem to be common than i thought. Good luck

[Jenny246 in reply to Mellyboo111]

Thank you Mellyboo. Thanks for giving me a little bit of hope. That must have been so scary, but glad all is well for you. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy going forward. X

[Jenny246]

It warms my heart your kind encouragement and words, replying so quickly. No, it is not confirmed yet, it was too late to get an appointment. I just want to stay in bed and rest/cry. The blood is very red, and quite a lot. Both your stories gave me encouragement, deep down it just feels it is over, but will keep my fingers crossed. Good luck on your journeys and thank you for being there ❤️

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Jenny246]

Really hope it works out ok x

[JoyfulStar]

Hi Jenny246, I don’t have any experience of this unfortunately but just wanted to reach out and let you know that I will be hopeful for you and will keep you in my prayers🙏🏾

[Jenny246 in reply to JoyfulStar]

Oh thank you. Wishing you all the best in your journey too x

[JoyfulStar in reply to Jenny246]

Thank you

[N-A-58]

I had a huge bleed at 5+5 weeks. It was a SH. I now have a 2.5 year old.

[Jenny246 in reply to N-A-58]

Oh thank you for letting me know. I hope maybe it is a SH. If it is, there anything one can do to stop the bleeding? I am lying down as much as I can. I dread every time I get up or have to go to the loo.

[N-A-58 in reply to Jenny246]

I really thought it was over, honestly. I laid down a lot. It’s not proven but I didn’t think it would hurt. Best of luck.

[Running79]

Hi

I had a bleed the day before my 7 week scan. Thought it was all over. Had brown spotting, red blood, dark red blood then brown spitting.

The clinic told me to wear a sanitary pad to monitor the amount of blood loss. When I was scanned I was amazed everything was fine and I like N-A-58 had a subchorionic hematoma

Lots of ladies bleed varying degrees in the first trimester- it’s not always bad news, hang on in there and speak to your clinic

🤞

[Jenny246 in reply to Running79]

Thank you Running79. That gives me a little reassurance as I have a bit of all colours in spotting and bleeding. I keep my fingers crossed, as in amount more filling panty liner than sanitary towel (except when going to the loo). I could only get a scan next week, but I cling on to hope. I wish you the very best too and hope your next trimesters are smooth xx

[Running79 in reply to Jenny246]

🤞

[Debrakay1704]

Thinking of you and keeping everything crossed xx

[Jenny246 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thank you Debrakay. I wish you the very best too. This is such a rollercoaster ride xx

[Riyam1]

I was five weeks, woke up a pool of blood in the morning, it was just the claxene injections and aspirin that I was on , my baby is 4 years old today , never thought there was a baby inside me after that blood .Please book a scan and see .

[Jenny246 in reply to Riyam1]

Hi Riyam, thank you for sharing and it makes me a little more hopeful. So glad it ended well for you. I could only get a scan next week, but till then I keep fingers crossed

[ki50]

Bless you, I haven't yet started my treatment so can't share similar stories of hope so just wanted to say hang in there and fingers crossed that everything is still OK x

[Jenny246 in reply to ki50]

Hi ki50, thank you for caring and when you start your journey I really wish you the very best xx

[3700jane]

I had some bleeding when I was pregnant with my little one. Admittedly it wasn't much but reading this thread it seems like it happens a fair bit. The not knowing is hell and clinging to hope is exhausting and the only alternative is consuming low points. I'm so sorry to read your post and wish there were something to say. It's cliche to say when you get your little bundle of joy it will all be worth it but obviously that is also true. Have lots of hug and tea even if it's decaf. I've had a low week after IVF this month. Get yourself in the sun this weekend and find something that makes you happy. Best of luck x X X

[Jenny246 in reply to 3700jane]

Thank you 3700jane. Yes it really is such a journey of emotions this fertility treatment. It is awful that we are so many that have to endure it, but really appreciate the support here. I will just try and relax, lots of hugs as you say from DH and hope that the sunshine stays around this weekend. I am sorry for your low week, and hope you take care of yourself too. I hope that your journey will be positive, but I know each setback is tough. xx

[Jujumama83]

Fingers crossed for you! I had a heavy bleed lots of clots at about 5 weeks and was certain it was over but at my 6 week scan baby was fine. My consultant said the pesseries I was on were making my cervix soft and that’s what caused the bleed. My LG is 6 months old today so there’s still a glimmer of hope x I hope you manage to get a scan soon and have the same luck. x

[Jenny246 in reply to Jujumama83]

Thank you for reaching out. It is encouraging to know that it can end well. I hope that I have that same “luck” x

[Littlepeax]

So sorry to hear this ❤ praying all is well for you xxx

[Jenny246 in reply to Littlepeax]

Thank you littlepea. That means a lot xKnow you on a tough journey too

[BECIO]

Heyy i don’t have any experience of this but can’t totally relate to your experience of IVF it’s so hard and exhausting having Hope and trying to be positive! I really hope things work out for you xxx

[Jenny246 in reply to BECIO]

Oh Becio, thank you for thoughts. It is of course awful that we are so many on this perilous journey, but I am thankful that we can support one another x

[Msze]

Do you have cramps with the bleed? If not, you may be fine! I bled on and off my entire first trimester! And felt like you do now every single time. I never had cramps though and it was always okay.

[Jenny246 in reply to Msze]

Thanks Msze. That must have been so scary to be bleeding on and off in your first trimester. I don’t have cramps, but I do feel “different”. I didn’t have any symptoms, but even before the bleeding started I just felt that something had changed. Still you have given me hope. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy x.

[Trying1234]

Hi Jenny I also wanted t say I had a huge bleed at this time too. Red with clots, but it was ok. They said it’s really common with ivf. So don’t give up and I hope its good news xxx