Scared

[muststayhopeful]

I’m having a bit of a panic today. A day 6 4BB embryo was transferred two weeks ago and I have a positive pregnancy test. A day 5 5BB was transferred in nov and we ended up having a missed miscarriage. Obviously I am super grateful about having a positive pregnancy test but I am so so scared. I’m scared of another ectopic (I’ve had 2) I’m scared of another miscarriage. I’m just so scared 😔😔 I’m trying to be positive and make positive choices ie sleep, diet but it’s really hit me today 😞 xx

[minnesota_girl]

I'm sorry you're going through this, I think one of the hardest aspects of infertility is that it robs you of those simple moments of happiness because we know there is a long road ahead, and we've experienced the heartache.

I started a journal so that I could start to tell myself I was pregnant and that started to help me. Even if I just wrote a couple of lines a day.

Congratulations on your positive test and I wish you every success along this road 💕💕

[muststayhopeful in reply to minnesota_girl]

Thank you so much. You are so right. People who don’t experience infertility have a positive test, have their 12 week scan and boom they have a baby. But for us it’s so traumatic. I’m trying to remain optimistic but my gosh it’s hard! Thank you for your advice and kind words xxx

[Clover5]

It's so hard hun but you've got to just think that every pregnancy is different and this little one could be exactly where it's supposed to be and it's your time 🙏I know how scary it is after having an ectopic and looking for all the signs it might be another one as I've had 3 of them. Try and enjoy being pregnant and hopefully the wait won't feel as long waiting for your scan to confirm all's well. Sending love 💕xX

[Weareback2]

Hi, just wanted to say that what you are feeling is very common with infertility, and like others hqve said people who concieve naturally have no clue how hard or stressful the journey to getting pregnant can be. I felt the same and honestly couldn't relax and enjoy the pregnancy. I had a very easy pregnancy (which i am very lucky) however i felt if i had some sickness, or symtoms it would be reasurring thay everythibg was ok. I couldn't relax or even buy anything for the baby until i was 20 weeks for fear for the worse. Wishing you all the best of luck! Xc

[ChloeDE]

I was the exact same. I had a missed miscarriage last march. We transferred again last July and I still couldn't let it sink in. You always think the positive test is the end goal but then you realise there are other hurdles. Ours ended up successful. Hope yours does too.

[Abstar]

I had 3 ectopics two of which resulted in both my fallopian tubes being removed. I've just finished 3rd cycle of IVF after two BFN and just had one embryo transfer. I completely understand your anxieties try to relax, stay positive and have faith and pray. Whether you are religious or not have faith and if you are pray. The embryo that was transferred on day 6 I was told on day 5 that there was no chance of development. I'm sure everything will be well just be strong for your little one x