Positive but Scared!

[Bobbins233218]

I had a miscarriage in July, picked up on viability scan. We we straight to our next round and used our Frozen embryo! Today we got a positive test but I am so scared it will happen again! When I rang the clinic they said ‘do you feel different to lay time’ and it’s playing on my mind that I should! I get back ache every now again but otherwise that’s it! No other symptoms yet…is it too early? Or is it already doomed? I just feel so worried!

[FrancyItaly]

So sorry for your loss and congratulations on your BFP! Hun it is normal to feel this way! I had a miscarriage too in September and waiting for a FET, I’m already worried! Try to take one day at a time, it will go well! 🌈

[Bobbins233218 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Sorry for your loss too! It’s soooo hard, to remain positive but to not get excited! Good Luck for your FET, it will soon come around! x

[FrancyItaly in reply to Bobbins233218]

I hope so! For now it’s planned in a month! Happy and scared at the same time! 😱

[MrsOrangejuice]

Congratulations! I had two BFPs on back to back fresh transfers. The first one I really 'felt' pregnant and the second nothing really. They both ended the same way around 6 weeks. Went straight into a FET and bar what I think may have been implantation cramps a day or two post transfer (but possibly coincidence) again nothing. I got an early BFP (only tested as I thought it was all over and I sort of wanted to get it confirmed) the HCG was so much higher and rose really well compared with the previous two. But even then I still didn't really get any symptoms until a good few weeks later. Then they really hit. Early on I think most symptoms are the meds but you can also get used to those so they lessen too, which of course to me meant it hadn't worked. So I don't think the symptoms or lack of at the early stage necessarily mean anything, and I think they can vary even between pregnancies. If you can, try and enjoy your positive (I am a complete hypocrite on this and am still worrying every day at 16 weeks but still try - it's a new embryo and it has every chance) x

[Bobbins233218 in reply to MrsOrangejuice]

Thank you for your reply! It’s good to hear that you didn’t really get symptoms yet either. I spose we are always trying to find some to make us feel better! Huge congratulations on your pregnancy, hope you are managing to enjoy it! X

[MrsOrangejuice in reply to Bobbins233218]

Thank you, i'm not sure the worry will go and I am a constant symptom spotter (good or bad) but I am very happy at the same time. Wishing you every success x

[Zebedee1971]

Just to say it's normal to be scared and nothing anyone will say here will make it better. BUT just because you've had miscarriages before doesn't mean you're destined to always be unsuccessful. Wishing you lots of baby dust. I hope this little one is your perfect rainbow baby 🌈💕

[Bobbins233218 in reply to Zebedee1971]

Thank you for your kind words x

[kelsbels88]

Congratulations and sorry for your previous loss… I am still early days too and am trying to live in the moment and enjoy this time where I am pregnant. As someone else said your previous experiences do not mean that you are destined to always have bad experiences. Lots of luck and baby dust xxx

[Bobbins233218 in reply to kelsbels88]

Thank you! And to you too xx

[pink_lemon]

I get no pregnancy symptoms, except for bloating. Not sure if that makes you feel better. Same symptoms with previous two pregnancies I lost as the current one that got the furthest so far. You don’t have to feel awful for things to be ok. Everyone is different. Pregnancies after miscarriages are hard and stressful instead of joyous, but hand in there and take it day by day. 🌈

[Bobbins233218 in reply to pink_lemon]

Thank you, it does. It really is hard! Wishing you the best with your pregnancy! X

[Twiglet2]

Congratulations 🥳 it’s really early for symptoms and even then it doesn’t really tell you anything, especially with the hormones we are on! What a silly thing for them to say 🙄🙈?? I had more symptoms with my chemical pregnancy at first than with my successful one, it was until about 7 weeks they properly kicked and some people get none at all. I won’t say don’t worry, as you will, but do try and relax often if you can, I found the mindful IVF app helpful at your stage and also watching comedies 🤗 congratulations congratulations congratulations again 🎉 💜 xx

[Bobbins233218]

Thank you! Will definitely try the mindful app and comedies are probably just what I need! Thank you again xx

[Hoop123]

Congratulations 😊 🎉 this is super lovely news!! And gives me a bit of comfort for when I go into my next transfer after our loss in August, so thank you for sharing. I think you're a bit early for any real symptom spotting as our meds are pretty intense as it is so please ignore the clinic (maybe it was well meaning! But it was a silly thing for them to say!).

Sending lots of love to you and your little bub and I hope you get a smooth ride ahead 💕💕💕 xx

[Bobbins233218 in reply to Hoop123]

Thank you! Sorry for your loss too! Xx

[Positivechangeplease]

Sorry for the loss I’ve been there too. I’ve also had the BFP from ivf this time. And I did have different symptoms - I’d say it’s too early but around the middle of week 5 I got sickness which I didn’t have at all the first time around. That said I’m not sure how much weight symptoms do or don’t figure. But I definitely wouldn’t worry about it yet. Easier said than done!

[Trying6years]

Hey, so sorry about your loss, just wanted to say congratulations and hope this one works out! I got my positive yesterday and although it is my first so I haven't experienced loss, I am already worrying about that first scan. So I can imagine your worry is even more so! I don't think anyone can take that away but I hope you continue getting good news. My symptoms I think are down to meds, possibly worse since the HCG is kicking in, I try tell myself not to worry about them but when I have sore boobs etc one day and not the next, of course I do worry. So basically just saying - you are not alone, it is normal to worry - we didn't 'just fall pregnant', we have all had setbacks and invested a lot of time and emotions (money too for us) into this long before we got positives, it is natural to feel like so much is riding on it and therefore worried. Here if need to chat xx

[Bobbins233218 in reply to Trying6years]

Thank you so much! Congratulations on your positive too! People who don’t have this experience just don’t know what to say either…this group is great for just reminding us that we’re not alone! Fingers crossed for both of us, and same, here if you need to chat anytime. Xx