Transfer nr 4 = BFN 💔

Hi all

Havent been very active here lately. But just wanted to update some who i follow.

Sooo.. so far had two icsi rounds each producing 8 eggs and 2 blasts. Had two fresh and two fets.

2 chemicals, 1 mmc and now a bfn.

Only thing i did different was a long protocol fet.

Its bloody hard to regroup this time.. I need to start looking for a new clinic. Here in Manchester i really am left with two clinics care and create.

Many congratulations to everyone who had their BFPs! It does give hope. ❤️❤️

[muststayhopeful]

Wishing you best of luck xx

[Hidden in reply to muststayhopeful]

Thank you xx

[Millbanks]

Ah love - so sorry to hear that. It absolutely sucks.I don't have any experience of either clinic but it sounds like a good plan to move on - there's still a few tests left - would you consider PGS testing? I've seen a lot of BFPs on here recently (probably) due to PGS... sending lots of love xx

[Hidden in reply to Millbanks]

Thanks lovely. Both times we hd one blast and the second blst was always frozen last minute so number wise i never dream of pgs testing. Def something to consider. Hope you are ok xx

[Millbanks in reply to Hidden]

Yes it's tricky to know exactly what to do. The fact that you are getting pregnant is hopeful though - have you had your immunology tested? xx

[Hidden in reply to Millbanks]

Thanks love. This is why im frustrated with my current clinic. I have autoimmune thyroid. I did my nk cells but biopsy didnt survive so might redo that one. I wanted immune protocol but clinic said no (covid time no steroids etc etc). That ideally is my next protocol x x u considered it??

[Millbanks in reply to Hidden]

Ah yes of course - I remember now (sorry my memory is rubbish). So my mum has an autoimmune disease and they say that if something is in the family then it could be likely that you have raised NK cells - so I didn't have the biopsy but I am going to have the blood test done. My clinic said that by the time we transfer next (likely June) it should be ok to use steroids - I'm very keen to give it a go. xx

[Hidden]

Gutted to hear this, always cheerleading you from the sidelines.

I have been to a different Care and always really rated them but they were never keen to do additional tests/try new things.. could just be because I am so old and they have given up on me! It may be different with each clinic though. Really hope you find some answers and your rainbow baby xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Aww thanks. Its hard to get answers. That is one reason im looking to switch as my current clinic doesnt offer anything different. I practically begged for blood thinners and progesterone shots and didnt get it. Hope we both find our next step and our baby. Hang in there u kind soul. Xx

[Ranchu90]

....I have no wise words for you right now as I am also experiencing difficult times but I am deeply saddened that it didn't work this time...This is so hard 😭😥 I am sending you my love and a big hug.... I understand what you feel ....💔

[Hidden in reply to Ranchu90]

Hi Ranchu. . Thanks! God knows u been through it. U know us being silly early testers. When i didnt get it 6dp i knew it! I pray from the bottom of my heart that the embies and u are doing well 🤞

Xx

[GiantPanda]

So sorry to read this. I was with Create in Wilmslow, so msg me if you want. I moved on after a year, but then I'm a bit of a lost cause I think. Give yourself time, and be kind to yourself. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to GiantPanda]

Thanks lovely. Ive seen your posts and i understand why u moved on. It makes sense and im willing to do that too. I just want to give it another shot with a different clinic first. Xx i will message you x

[GiantPanda in reply to Hidden]

Definitely give it every shot you can. We got told from the start DE was our best chance, but we spent 3 years and god knows how much trying everything first. Xxx

[Lots8788]

So sorry to hear that hun. Big big hugs to you. Here if you want to talk xx

[Hidden in reply to Lots8788]

Thanks lots. Im sure you know the feeling🥲maybe u and i need more than 4 transfers hey. Xx

[Lots8788 in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately I do hun and yes maybe we do lovely. We never know whats round the corner ai. xx

[Lovemylion]

So sorry you had a BFN. It's so heartbreaking after all that you've been through. Hope your looking after yourself xxx

[Hidden in reply to Lovemylion]

Thank you dear xx

[Core]

So sorry to hear of your BFN, good luck in your hunt for a new clinic xx

[Hidden in reply to Core]

Thanks lovely xx

[RhinoCat]

Awh Mimisami 🐐 so sorry to read this 🥺😣😖😢 sending huge hugs. It’s the hardest journey ever . You are such a trooper 😘💖💐 4 transfers and all the parts of each journey must be so tough. I’ve done half of what you have and I feel punctured at times. Sending huge hugs of support. Hope you can take some time to digest this sad news before you find somewhere that better suits your needs 😘💖💐

[Hidden in reply to RhinoCat]

It would be soo nice to catch a break isnt it. . Im sure there are many tougher journeys the girls had. It brings down the strongest im sure. Its a b*#*$!

Thanks for your lovely words💐💐❤️❤️

[RhinoCat in reply to Hidden]

Absolute b#%%^*t! Only the strong ones put themselves through it! Constant BFNs are so painful 😥

Sending hugs and hoping you are finding ways to look after yourself 😘💖💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💐💖💐💐💐💐

It’s not fair 😘💖💐

[XxjustmexX]

Sorry to hear about your bfn, hope you find a new clinic and you finally get your bfp. I am with care fertility (not Manchester) but they’ve been great xx

[Hidden in reply to XxjustmexX]

Thanks Lovely. That sounds great x x x

[hifer]

Ahhh really sorry to hear that. It is bloody hard to regroup. Are you just not happy with the care that you’ve been getting? If so, definitely right to rethink and look for a new clinic. Hopefully people in Manchester can give you some advice. Xx

[Hidden in reply to hifer]

Thanks hifer. Hope your doing great. Yeah its the lack of trying a different protocol xx

[Chel91]

So sorry lovely, it's so hard. Big hugs to you!! 💗 Hoping a new clinic will give you a new plan that will make the difference🤞🏻 xx

[Hidden in reply to Chel91]

Thanks lovely for your kind words in this this dark time. Hope u feel tad better xx

[PenguinBlue]

So sorry to read this mimi, I really hoped this would be your time - sending you lots of love and strength xxx

[Hidden in reply to PenguinBlue]

Same here lovely i was very positive so it was a slap in the face. A reminder nothings is guaranteed xx hope your well x

[Italy300618]

So so sorry to be reading this lovely, its so unfair. I can really recommend care fertility, for us they really changed everything and the outcome was sooo much better than our previous clinic. Wishing you lots of luck for the future xxx

[Hidden in reply to Italy300618]

Thanks so much lovely for recommending. Im so glad it worked for you ❤️

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this ! Sending you lots of love and well wishes, you are so strong and will pull through! Been through the same 3 times and its devastating, this forum is full of ladies who can truly relate and understand. Im in Leeds and only have one clinic to go to, with covid couldn't even to venture to manchester or sheffield! I feel u ! Xx

Lots of lots and prayers

[Lillilly]

Oh no I’m so sorry. This is such an unfair and difficult journey. Regrouping your thoughts and how to move forward must be so difficult. I’m sending you lots of hugs. Xxx

[Vhee]

Oh dear😩 i’m so sorry you are going through these disappointments. This journey takes a lot from a person and i’m in awe of how strong you still sound. I’m wishing you all the best and I pray sooner than you think you shall have a positive news 🙏🏻💝💞

[Ivf2020A]

So sorry I know this is an older post, but wanted to say im sorry your having a tough time, im hoping you are feeling a bit better now though. Your always so helpful to the ladies on here so just wanted to show my support and to say keeping you in my prayers IA.xx

[Florencehill]

I'm just catching up Mimisami as you know I've been 'away' for a while. Would you consider going abroad? You know my story. I've come to realise that my clinic are very good, their after care has been great too. The only part of my IVF I had in the uk was the ALICE and EMMA. Which Im sure played a part in success.