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8th transfer bfn😔🤯

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Title says it all really I know it’s early (6dp5dt)but after doing this 2ww 8 times it’s fair to say I know how my body works I called the clinic today as I’ve 2 Frosties left and was hoping for a fet before Xmas but they are fully booked

I just feel so defeated my embryo was a 5aa hatching blast and if these top grades are not working what chance do I stand 7 years of ivf and so many losses are definitely taking it’s toll

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I’m so sorry to hear this. It absolutely sucks. I’m just wondering if you’ve had any tests done like ERA/ALICE/EMMA? I know a few people who’ve altered their timings and it’s helped. In the meantime I would give yourself lots of love xxx

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Olivialinney in reply toMillbanks

I haven’t but it’s something I’m going to mention to my nurse and try to see can I get some testing done because I only have 2 Frosties left before I give up I really don’t want to lose them xxx

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Having done this 9 times...I know you have heard and thought this before....it’s still early (this is true in your case give it a few more days). I have had 5 transfers and 4 retrievals and my results came in yesterday negative, I can relate with the heartbreak but keeping hoping even when there seems to be none.

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Olivialinney in reply toAnn_

So sorry about your bfn. I’ve had this so many times but for some reason it hit a little harder this time I’m just really starting to find it all quite traumatic now and have a breakdown every time I go into have a transfer and I’m not really a cryer but I can’t seem to control myself I just can’t help but think of how many times I have been in there and still no baby at home😔I don’t understand infertility. I hate it. But I will fight on maybe some day we will catch a break xxx

So so sorry to hear this! U r a true warrior, i pray you get to book the fet in soon and have a beautiful bfp this time xx lots of love and prayers

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Thank you xx

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Have you tested? Or are you spotting? Sorry to pry, its just that its quite early?

I tested bfn day 5, yesterday which was 9dp5dt i have a really really faint frer ..

its not over yet hopefully, hang in there xx

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I’ve been testing my trigger out so 4dp trigger was still there and it was 10 days since I injected it. And from yesterday it was negative. I know it’s early but I know my body so well now having done it so many times I always had a good bfp at 5 dpt with my 3 previous pregnancies. I don’t even have a squintier I’m actually embarrassed at the amount of tests I’ve done and how many more I ordered 2 days ago xxx

Congratulations on your bfp 🤞🏻your line gets stronger xxx

Im not that hopeful, did an internet cheapie this am which was bfn not even a squinter on that! Going to use frer tmro fmu but dont have massive hopes... should have a stronger bfp by now😭

Im sure you know your body better than anyone

And you’re right to feel this way when you usually get strong bfps at 5dp5dt which is quite early. Still i have some hope for you, I pray this cycle is the anomaly and you get a bfp soon cx

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So sorry about your bfn. It’s the worst

Will you try again? Do you have any Frosties ?

I’ve picked myself up abit this morning. Having been through so much although disappointing. I’m going to be fine xx

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leo1980

Sorry you are so distressed. Did you have your embryos tested? I had very good looking hatching ones - all had abnormalities. In addition to ERA/EMMA/Alice testing might be worth to check Embies are ok and then next steps. Don’t give up yet.. sending lots of love

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Olivialinney in reply toleo1980

My clinic doesn’t do the testing as I asked after my daughter passed due to severe chromosome problems. I’m definitely going to have a good think about what to do next xx

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Uffculmedolly

I’m so sorry to read this, it’s totally rubbish for you . Have you asked your clinic for further investigation or tests to see if there is anything different you could try. Failing this, I personally would look to change clinic. Sending hugs x

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Olivialinney in reply toUffculmedolly

I’m definitely going to get more testing I still have 2 more embryos and I don’t think we will do any more fresh cycles but if we do changing clinic Is definitely something we will be considering xx

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Tweeteaha

Have you done any other tests hun?

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Olivialinney in reply toTweeteaha

Yes. It’s another BFN x

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Tweeteaha in reply toOlivialinney

I am really sorry hun

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Uffculmedolly in reply toOlivialinney

So sorry to hear this, sending hugs 🤗

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jengi

Oh I’m so sorry hun. This is devastating for you. I hope you get a new plan in place soon. Xx

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Core

Sorry lovely only just seen this, how are you doing? Devastated for you are you still on meds till OTD? Or have you come off them?xx

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Olivialinney in reply toCore

I stopped them today. Had some spotting yesterday so af is on the way

Have you tested 🤞🏻when is your otd xx

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Core in reply toOlivialinney

OTD is Tuesday think I will probably test tomorrow, I think testing is the worst part!xx

So sorry to read this.... hope you are coping ok and hopefuly you get more answers when you do the testings.. its so difficult to not know where things are going wrong.

Keep strong, tou have 2 frosties which is something to look forward to xx

Lots of love x

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