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The end of the road

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OTD today and for the 3rd and final time I got a BFN.

I can’t try anymore. My body and mind are done. 5 years of trying and I have to accept it’s not happening.

Thank you to all you wonderful ladies who offered such great support.

I wish that all your dreams come true. Xxx

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XOXO13

I’m so, so sorry to hear this 💔

It sounds like you’ve been through so much in five years, it’s only natural that you feel like this today.

This journey can be so tough, it plays with your emotions and really challenges you mentally and physically. It’s unfair and heartbreaking that it doesn’t always work out the way that we’d hoped it would. To go through this means you’re a resilient person, and I hope you know that.

Take time to grieve and heal and look after yourself. Sending you lots of strength and hugs 💛 xx

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L400ynd in reply to XOXO13

Thank you lovely. You are right. It’s mental torture. I didn’t for a second think that with 3 go’s that none of them would work. I guess that’s the optimist in me. Well that took a beating today. 🙈.

I just need to adjust my life. I’m so lucky to have my wonderful husband and family and a niece who absolutely adores me. Just need to concentrate on that and allow myself to cry.

Thank you for reaching out. ❤️ Xxx

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XOXO13 in reply to L400ynd

Of course, allow yourself to cry, be sad, be angry... whatever it is, let it all out. I’m assuming you’ll have a follow up with your doctor to discuss their thoughts and I know you’ve said this is it, no more but I hope they can at least provide you with some answers to help with some closure. Wishing you all of the best moving forwards 💛 xx

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Hope4another

I'm so very sorry to hear this 😢. Sending lots of love x

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Miracle43

I’m so sorry.This journey is so tough, emotionally, physically and financially.

You are so strong, brave and amazing. Please remember that xx

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L400ynd in reply to Miracle43

Thank you sweetie. ❤️❤️

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PurplePiggie

Thinking of you and sending lots of love 😘 xx

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CharlieW1985

What a brave decision to make.. I too feel how you feel. I am starting my very last cycle in May. You are one strong lady! Xx

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L400ynd in reply to CharlieW1985

Sending you all the strength, love and luck in the world. ❤️ Xxxx

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RhinoCat

So sad 😔😢 toughest journey ever! Sending love and hugs 💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💖💖💐💐💐💐💐

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Jenclarke

I'm the same hun being doing ivf for 5years and nothing I can't do it any more I've had enough now it's just to much pain and heartache sending hugs and loves xxx

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L400ynd in reply to Jenclarke

Sending you lots of love. It’s so unfair. We will still have great lives. Maybe different than planned but still great. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Xxxx

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Italy300618

Hi lovely, I'm so sorry to read your post, was so hoping this would be your time. Sending you lots of love and hugs at this difficult time xxxx

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L400ynd in reply to Italy300618

Aww me too lovely. I really thought we had it this time. It wasn’t to be. I will never understand why but I have to accept it. I will look out for your progress ❤️. I hope you are feeling good. Xxx

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muststayhopeful

Sending you lots of hugs. Such a very difficult time. Thinking of you xxx

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Queenr

I’m thinking of you hun! I’ve also been trying for 5 years but this is my first round of Ivf. Just rest up and have a peaceful few days. Love xxx

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Lovemylion

I'm so sorry to hear about your BFN. It's crushing. Give yourself some time lovely to process everything and see how you feel. Xxx

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FluffyPink

Just wanted to say how sorry I am this is happening to you. I’m on this journey 4.5 years and it is a huge chunk of a life, spent on a project that has brought so much sadness. As others have said, take some time to begin to process the grief from your many losses.

At the age of 40 (before I met my husband) I had assumed I would never be trying for a baby. I found this book was full of empathy but also made me really excited for the alternative life I was going to be living (and still may live!)

bookdepository.com/Living-L...

Sending you huge hugs 🤗

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L400ynd in reply to FluffyPink

Thank you lovely. My husband and I said earlier today that although this isn’t the life we planned we will make it awesome. We have each other, that’s the main thing. I have the most adorable miracle niece that lights up my life in every way. I’ll check that link out. Thank you.

Good luck to you. I hope it works out as you planned. Xxxxx

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Core

So so sorry to hear this 💔 I hope you have lots of love and support for your decision around you xx

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L400ynd in reply to Core

Thank you sweetie. That is the one thing I have in abundance. I have a wonderful family on both sides. I’m sure I have plenty tears left to cry over the coming years but I know they will all be there when i need them. ESP my sister. She had to go thru ivf to have my niece so she knows how heartbreaking it can be. She’s been a tower of strength. ❤️❤️ Xxx

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