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End of the road - its BFN.

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Feeling pretty devastated today. Just dared to hope that this might be our chance.

We're 99% sure thats it with my eggs. Considering seeing the guy at Lister again when we're back in the UK next month to get a final opinion but one of the leading consultants in NZ told us there is really no hope back in Feb.

Came home and cleaned the house and threw some stuff out. Next thing is 'Operation - $@&¥ this shit, lets go travelling'.

Hopefully you 2ww ladies get some better news.

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crlnbr

Sorry dear about your failure.. Are you probably considering donor egg in that case? I think that's not a bad option either. Don't lose your hope anyway.. Every person on earth must be happy and i believe you'll be supplied with an opportunity to have all that makes you happy.. x

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Mantaray75 in reply to crlnbr

Yes, we will consider donor egg but probably in Europe. I think we'll leave it until next year which is gonna be hard but its that much more difficult from NZ. We also need some time out from this whole craziness. x

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crlnbr in reply to Mantaray75

Sure I understand that.. Those 3 months that doctors tell about having between ivf attempts are often not enough.. I mean that may be enough to renew your physiological condition and AF.. but not psychological one after having several attempts in a row.. I believe that won't make a problem to find some good clinic and have successful outcome there x

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emu2016

Sorry to hear this Mantaray. Big hugs and love x

So sorry to hear this mantaray....big hugs sent your way & take care xxx

Sorry to hear this sending you huge hugs

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Georgina78

Oh no Mantaray I'm so so sorry, I've just searched for your name as I really hoped it would be your time today. Sending huge hugs over the miles and I think you should definitely book a good trip and forget all this heartache for a while if you can. 💔 for you xx

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Mantaray75 in reply to Georgina78

Thanks. We won't be travelling until next year cos need to save and also wait for our permanent NZ residency in case we want it in the future. In the meantime we have a trip home planned for next month for my sister's wedding - I can't wait.

How are you doing? x

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Georgina78 in reply to Mantaray75

Oh I hope your trip home goes really well and it's therapeutic to be surrounded by family & friends again.

I'm up & down but we have some nice plans this weekend so hopefully that will help & just some normality and fun with my hubby. Have been a bit reclusive with friends & family but I need to just face everyone now. Thank you.

Hope it gets easier as the days go on xx

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pm27

I'm really sorry to hear about the BFN. It's so unfair. Sending lots of virtual hugs your way.

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_MrsC

So sorry to read this. How devastating for you. Take some time for yourselves and then choose to do something that will hopefully bring some joy. xxx

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Nemobaby

So sorry to read this, I feel the same, bfn for me too today 😢feeling sad and angry xx

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Mantaray75 in reply to Nemobaby

Sorry to hear your news. It just sucks doesn't it? Are you planning on going again? x

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Nemobaby in reply to Mantaray75

It sucks big time! I like your idea of travelling though, it's good to have a plan. We will try again, only had one frosty so have to start a fresh cycle, going to use the same clinic but now we'll have to pay for treatment, we're lucky that we have some money put by and as they keep reminding me 'age is not on my side' so I'll get back to it all as soon as I can, not looking forward to it but not ready to give in yet xx

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Cinderella5

Sorry to hear this Mantaray75 ! Get looking at destinations for your adventure, something good to look forward to! Big hugsxx

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Mantaray75 in reply to Cinderella5

We've already been discussing it! x

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Tugsgirl

Sorry to read this. It really is so unfair xx

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sipidania

Bugger. So sorry to hear this. Sending positive vibes and the travel idea sounds like a fantastic idea. Xx

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Mantaray75 in reply to sipidania

Thanks. Need to have something else to plough my money into now its not IVF! How is your pregnancy going? x

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sipidania in reply to Mantaray75

It's going ok thanks. 31 weeks now so despite the ups and downs of our various diagnoses we are getting excited about meeting our little one. I have 4 more weeks of work as with her heart they may want to get her out early but am hoping I get at least a week or two to prepare myself. Buggy arrived this week and cot comes next weekend so it's all starting to feel very very real....

Oh babes....we all know this shit too well had hopes it would be ur time.

Am 😐

Brush itself off take a good deserved holiday and when ur ready make a new plan. I done a cycle at the Lister 7 k later he didn't have anything to say wasn't impressed at all...

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Mantaray75 in reply to

I wonder if it was the same guy. When we saw them in December he seemed fairly positive. I think I just need closure. I think if he actually said we should try with my eggs I'd be a bit shocked, and also wonder how we do treatment in London when we live 19,000km away. x

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CountryCat

Nooooooooo! I had everything crossed for happy news and am so gutted for you. Life is a bitch. You deserve better...we all do 😟 I am so sorry xx

My husband and I have decided to plan an overseas holiday if this doesn't work, so travelling is not a bad thing to plough your energies into. Look after yourself 😘

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Mantaray75 in reply to CountryCat

We're not just planning a holiday. We're planning a 4-5 month trip! x

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CountryCat in reply to Mantaray75

Even better! Xx

So sorry to hear this, BFN's are so cruel. Take time out and look after yourself xxx

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sipidania

Also - I know Lister are well rated but I can also recommend our London clinic if you were considering an alternative. Message me if keen

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emden6

Sorry to hear this thinking of you x

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embiemomma

gutted to read this, I hope you get honest answers if that's the route you decide to take... In the meantime enjoy operation f#&* this shit! Xxx

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72cloud9

So sorry to hear this Hun xxxx

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