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Baby stopped growing...missed MC

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Hard to believe. I had convinced myself fully there would be a heartbeat. I did everything right, the acupuncture, worked less, tried to remain positive inspite of all the anxiety each of us live through. I received affirmations from people I barely knew, the nurses at my doctors office, that things would be more than ok “she is a fighter”. I had packed things to head into work after and then upon ultrasound a smaller sac and no heartbeat, could still see the tiny baby and fetal pole. I asked my doctor like 5 times if she was sure it’s over and “yes, so sorry” there is no known reason and now we are to consider a mock cycle to check timing and do steroids next time? I’m at a loss, literally.

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Lovemylion

O no. I'm so sorry to hear this. With all the anxiety it just makes it that much harder.....especially as you want to believe it won't happen to us. I also had a mmc recently. Tomorrow would have been my 12 week scan. Just look after yourself. Its helped me to plan my next cycle to try and gain back some control. I've put brief plans in place and now I'm taking a step back and just trying to do stuff I wanna do in the mean time. I've been doing some online art courses which has been a welcome distraction. I hope you've got a lot of support. Xxx

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Ivferrr in reply toLovemylion

Sending you so much love, I’m just exhausted and sad...I’m sure I will jump back when I can, just very depressed feeling now. They are asking if we want to do a mock cycle to check timing of My ovulation but I don’t know if that’s indicated as I did get pregnant, fuck it’s so confusing. I am grateful we still have 3 frosties

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Ivferrr in reply toLovemylion

You are strong and lovely 💜

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Lovemylion in reply toIvferrr

I know its such an exhausting feeling. I wonder why they want to do a mock cycle if you got pregnant? It's hard to make sense of what theyre telling you when your going through this. Perhaps just call them back when u feel ready. This journey is so hard. You will get through this though! Xxx

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Ivferrr in reply toLovemylion

Well an ERA is what it’s called. Is that the same as a mock cycle? I had this weird anxiety before we implanted that we missed my ovulation time, but I did get pregnant. Apparently baby stopped growing at 6 weeks so I’m unsure. If anyone has thoughts or wisdom on this please don’t hesitate to share

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Lovemylion in reply toIvferrr

Hopefully someone might be able to shed some light on this but don't hesitate to contact your clinic for more details in why you might need to do this. Good luck hun xxx

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PurplePiggie

Feeling so sad for you, so sorry you are having to go through this ❤️ x

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Fertilityjourney

I'm so sorry. Take time and take care of yourself. Xx

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Rainbowbaby92

I’m really sorry to read this 😔 I feel so sad for you it really is the hardest and most unfair process 😕 I hope you have lots of support around you. Make sure you give yourself time to grieve and do things you enjoy. Sending you all the love I can xxx

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LisaBeatrix1980

I’m so, so sorry. I wish I could say something to make it better for you, but I’m thinking of you, take care xx

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Patches86

I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending love and strength x

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ashbb

This is devastating. I'm so sorry for the loss of your wee girl. ❤️

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Ivferrr in reply toashbb

Thanks and love to you and all

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Peanutchips

I’m so so sorry. This journey is so hard. Sending so many hugs and strength to you ❤️ xxx

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Duchess2018

Big hugs x

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Sammy246

I'm so sorry to hear this, they are the most dreaded words that they are sorry and there is no heartbeat. I would say take this time to grieve your beautiful loss and when your feeling able to then speak to your consultant about the need steps. Sending you a virtual hug and love xx

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Celloheggy

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had the same news on 3 October. It’s utterly heartbreaking. You will cry a lot, but you are strong and you will get through this. Sending you lots of socially distanced hugs xxx

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Ivferrr in reply toCelloheggy

My heart is sad you have been through the same, I will continue to find hope for sure

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Chantysal

Ohh nooo. My heart breaks to read this. Im deeply sorry. Stay strong . U have done everything right sometimes its just not in our hands. Sending u tight hugs

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Ivferrr in reply toChantysal

Thank you 💜

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Chantysal in reply toIvferrr

thinking of u. i hope ur doing ok

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Chasingdreams20

So sorry to hear your sad news 🥲

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Rainbowhope

This is a heartbreaking post. I'm so sorry. X

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Purpledoggy

So sorry to read this, how sad. Sending you many hugs xx

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry for your loss! Life can be very cruel indeed. Take some time to grieve and when you are ready you can consider the options they are suggesting with a clear head. Hugs.xx

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SandD2020

* Hugs * I'm sorry. I'll know in 7 days if it's over for me too :-( <3

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Ivferrr in reply toSandD2020

I will pray for you and baby; love and all the baby dust for you sweetie

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Shelleybean

I’m so sorry. There are no words. Look after yourself and sending you the strength to continue your journey if and when you feel ready xx

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Baggit

Been through exactly this before and it was terrible. I can feel you, and I’m so sad that you have to go through this. It’s sucks and no one deserves this. Try to get through your grief early so you can move forward for the next steps without wasting much time.

Wishing you all the success for the future cycles dear. Take care of yourself.

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Ivferrr in reply toBaggit

Thank you friend, I am feeling all the feels but growing hope. We will parents no matter what that looks like

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Lots8788

I'm so very sorry. Massive hugs to you x x

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Lisichka

So sorry to read your post. Sending you strength and lots of hugs. Take your time to process what happened and when you’re ready, meet with the clinic and discuss a new plan. Thinking of you xx

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nT455

So sorry to hear this. Must be heartbreaking :( Sending you lots of virtual hugs. Xx

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SuzyL123

I’m so sorry to hear your sad news!😪 we’re 7 weeks on Christmas Day so have to wait an extra week until our scan, I’ve stopped feeling sick already and just started getting tummy pains so not sure if it’s over for us!😬

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RhinoCat

I know this pain 😭😢🥺😩 please take time to process and cry 🙏🏻💐💐💐💐

Im so sorry. I know the feeling very well and it still hurts. Sending all my love xxx

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Ell493

I'm so sorry it ended that way 💔 Hugs xxx

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Purpledoggy

So sorry for your loss, how cruel. Hugs xx

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