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No point to this post really, and I might sound like an ungrateful cow haha. This Christmas I have received quite a few cards with baby pictures all over them and they are adorable and I am grateful for the cards obviously but with just having a failed cycle and trying to conceive for so long I think I'm loosing my mind or just becoming to sensitive. Hoping there will be a time where I don't tuck them behind something 😂 just finding Christmas harder throughout this process and starting to think I'm becoming a slight monster haha. Hope it's not just me! Wishing everyone a merry Christmas and that 2021 is our year x

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Don’t worry, it’s not just you! It’s hard to receive cards with baby pictures or hear of other pregnancy or baby announcements when you’re going through this journey - it’s tough!

Sorry for what you’re going through. I’m there too, it’s tough but hopefully 2021 will be brighter for us all xx

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Rain415 in reply to XOXO13

Thank you for the reply, just finding this year tougher than most to put a smile on my face. So decided to get the wine and snacks in and worry about eating salmon and avocados after Christmas for transfer. Good luck for your next steps! X

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XOXO13 in reply to Rain415

I can totally relate, it’s tiring to put a smile on your face when inside you’re not feeling it. In a way, lockdown allows us to just be ourselves. Enjoy the wine and the snacks ... I’ve done the same with cheese!! Good luck for your next steps too 💫🤞🏻 Xxx

Unfortunately every parent thinks their child is the most beautiful thing that has ever existed, and they can't fathom why everybody else would be so disinterested in their frankly average looking babies 😂 I had a card similar and I did think-- why would I want a card with your child on it?! Then I remembered how many parents I met as a teacher, and how annoying some of them were. I just don't think I'd ever be the kind of person to think my child was anything so special that they deserved a place on someone's fireplace, but hey ho, that's why we have recycling bins 😂

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Rain415 in reply to Zebedee1971

Hahaha this did make me laugh! My thoughts exactly.

Is this a thing? I’ve never sent baby photo cards to family and friends? Daughters first Xmas I did a Thankyou card with a photo on but to aged aunts/grandparents etc It’s very insensitive as you just don’t know what the recipient is going through plus I’m sure you see photos of their little darlings on social media all the time anyway?

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Rain415 in reply to Ivfgotadream

Exactly, I understand for parents or grandparents that don't have social media and would really appreciate it. I've noticed this year I have received more than usual so don't know maybe it's because lack of seeing people due to covid. 🤷‍♀️

You’re not alone I promise, it’s so hard to remain positive or happy when things are so tough. Don’t be hard on yourself, it’s ok to feel down at times when things feel a real struggle. I bought 2 big packs of cards and didn’t write a single one, I just couldn’t face it this year, I feel as though this years miscarriage and chemical pregnancy have made this Christmas so much harder. Sending you all the love this Christmas and positive vibes for an amazing 2021 for you xx

Thanks Lisa, makes me feel less alone in all of this! I know what you mean it's so tough. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage and chemical. And same for you for 2021! X

Awh hun I get exactly what your saying nearly all my friends have now got children and I'm feeling so left behind and with my wedding being delayed it's just shit isnt it - but I'm trying to think in ways of the best is yet to come and the best things always take the most time to come those thoughts have kept me going along with a card holder on the door which allows a lot of space for hiding particular cards lol merry Christmas and yes 2021 will be better I just know it 🥰 xxxx

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Rain415 in reply to Saladgirl86

Haha a card holder is a good idea! I love your positive attitude! I'm trying to get mine out more. Sorry to hear about your wedding that sucks. Hope everything works out next year!

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Saladgirl86 in reply to Rain415

Thanks hun you too and sending lots of baby dust - try and be positive as I was negative for years but it destroyed me now I just take everyday as it comes but trust me I get really bad days too - keep smiling chick xxxx

I'm with you 100%! So far I have received pictures of my friends kids as Christmas cards, happy Christmassy family pictures with their gorgeous babies on WhatsApp andy favourite one... A family picture with a new baby announcement arriving on June 2021 which was meant to be the due date of my miscarriaged pregnancy🤦🏻‍♀️ I appreciate you need to tell me you are pregnant (again) at some point, but could you be a little bit more sensitive??!! Hard to be happy for others when life is being so unfair to us. Bring on the wine🥂🍾🍷🍸 and merry Christmas my warriors 💪💪

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Rain415 in reply to TrendyDove

Exactly this! A baby announcement is a new one I've never heard of! Bloody hell! I'm guessing they knew about your miscarriage as well? I can't believe how insensitive people can be but without realising it. Yes! Bring on the wine and new year.

Good lord, I can’t believe people actually do this! I mean wtaf? 🤦🏻‍♀️😆Even reading some of the responses on here of people’s stories, I’m really appalled at the insensitivity some of you have been subjected too. I see plenty of baby announcements on social media, which, you know - delighted for you, obvs! - but, thankfully, have never had anyone send me a picture of their news in the form of a Christmas card, birthday card or any card for that matter (!) and quite frankly, if they did, I’d might tell them where they could bleedin stick it. 🙄 Best of luck with your next steps. Enjoy Christmas - you deserve it! 🧁 🥂 also, I could accidentally let the cards fall into the roaring Christmas fire? Just saying!? 😂

I have received one or two over the years but this year it has become more of a trend. Thank you! And it might have to happen 😂

This might be the best topic ever. Totally agree!

My worst is SIL sent us xmas pressies - a set of coffee mugs plastered with pics of her newborn. I promptly threw them away and made my DH answer the question as to why they didn't exist when asked 10 mos later - freak dishwasher accident (his side his problem). They even tried to replace them - at our cost. We said "no" then his parents were going to pay. The drama! We agreed no more exchanging xmas pressies EVER. Even if I had no issue in the world why would I want a set of mugs with you child on them?

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Rain415 in reply to Jumpppy

Hahaha you have got be kidding, why do people think that's a good idea? 😂 freak dishwasher accidents cant be helped! I thought my in laws were bad giving me a baby onesie with 'worlds best mum on' when we weren't pregnant and unfortunately the cycle failed.

I can relate, Christmas always makes us reflect on the year and all that is lost. I can relate to your pain 💐🎄 take it easy and protect your heart as much as you can 😘🎄💐

Definitely not just you. It's this time of year that having a child is most magical. I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews that I'm spending Xmas day with and my little sister is pregnant again. I love them all dearly but this time of year is so so hard. No one understands and it was this time 2 years ago now that I had my 3rd and final failed cycle. That's a memory in itself I won't forget. Hoping some miracles happen for us all this year xx

I think I threw away 3 or so particularly tough ones , and I love Christmas cards ! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

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