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A crampy Christmas! *update in comments below*

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Woke up on Christmas Day to cramping and spotting. Spent most of the morning crying at the unfairness of it all.

I'm fairly sure that I'm out. Have called 111 today and waiting for doctor to call me back as need to know what is happening, I'm just scared it's another ectopic.

Infertility is so unfair and others seem to get pregnant so easily.

I hope everyone else had a better Christmas than me! xx

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Dunla profile image
Dunla

I’m so sorry to hear this Hollie. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that all will be well xxx

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HollieW in reply toDunla

Thank you lovely xx

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Dunla in reply toHollieW

How is the spotting this morning?

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HollieW in reply toDunla

The same as yesterday. It's only there when I wipe (Not everytime) but was slightly heavier this morning when I woke up xx

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Dunla in reply toHollieW

Hopefully doctor will be in touch with you very soon and you can get some answers xx

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HollieW in reply toDunla

Me too!! Xx

Hi Holly - is it red or other coloured? I think you are five weeks? It’s so normal to have spotting and cramps. Also did you have one or two put back?

It doesn’t mean you are out, it could be any number of things. I am cramping loads and some weird shooting pains too - it’s so easy to think the worst as we are so used to disappointment over the years but it’s about time it was your good news time you deserve it so try and stay positive and spend today resting up xx

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HollieW in reply to

I am just over 5 weeks and had 1 embryo transferred. It feels like my period is coming and I can't help but fear the worst. It's dark red at the moment but that is usually how my period starts with some dark spotting before my period comes. I know spotting and cramps can be normal but I have just got this feeling it's over. I am resting and waiting for doctor to call to find out what to do. It's so stressful and worrying! Xx

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Oh hun I’m so sorry - good luck with doctor - I am not even religious but praying you are wrong and it’s just the embryo making itself comfy 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Sending hugs xxx

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HollieW in reply to

Thank you! Xx

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aamiller405

Sending you positive vibes and hoping that things will be ok xo

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HollieW in reply toaamiller405

Thank you lovely xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m not going to be able to stop you from worrying but I hope that the doctor is able to xx

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HollieW in reply toTugsgirl

Yes if they ever call. I was promised a call back over 3 hours ago 🙈xx

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Lou7744

Aww.. I’ve got everything crossed for you that it’s a blip🤞 Sending you positive thoughts 💕 xx

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HollieW in reply toLou7744

Thank you xx

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Em2405

Really hoping that everything is ok for you. Impossible not to worry so not going to bother saying it. I have everything crossed for you. Sorry this is happening to you. ❤️❤️❤️🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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HollieW in reply toEm2405

Thank you xx

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Missy_22

Hold fingers crossed for you my lovely xxxx

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HollieW in reply toMissy_22

Thank you xx

As above, I really do hope all is ok x

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HollieW in reply to

Thank you. I'm going to a&e now as waited over 4 hours for out of hours doctor to ring me and I can't wait any longer. I'm hoping at the least they will do a blood test so I know where I am xx

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Em2405 in reply toHollieW

Hopefully they can reassure you. Hope it’s all good news. Fingers crossed 🤞🏻 for you. Trying to keep the faith is so difficult. Let us know how you are doing. Thinking of you xx

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HollieW in reply toEm2405

Thank you. A&E is packed but had triage and they are going to have urine sample and blood test to rule out water infection and look at HCG levels. I know what my HCG level was on 17th December so if it's gone down of not increased very much then I know where I am xx

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Em2405 in reply toHollieW

Hope you are not waiting too long lovely. Such a stressful time. Glad they are doing some test and taking care of you. Xx

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HollieW in reply toEm2405

Me too. They have moved me to early pregnancy unit now so fingers crossed I will find out more soon 🤞 xx

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Ebonynelly

Fingers crossed that everything turns out well dear.

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HollieW in reply toEbonynelly

Thank you. Me too 🤞 xx

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HollieW

Thanks for all your support ladies. Have had HCG test and was 16,000 so moving in the right direction (It was 177 last Monday). No infection and my abdomen is soft. Cramping and spotting has now stopped (At least for the moment). I have a scan booked tomorrow to see if the pregnancy is in the right place as that is my biggest concern and worry. Fingers crossed all is okay 🤞. I have had hell of a couple of days! Xx

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Saya85 in reply toHollieW

Oh that's such good news

I was just going to say your symptoms don't sound ectopic related and quite normal otherwise

I had bfp on Monday and then had a full bleed straight after- bright red and a few tissues worth and then it just very slowly lightened and eased off during the day.

I had cramps too all day

And then nothing (!) I think unfortunately at this stage it is quite common and still a lot of implantation

Every time I lift something I'm scared it'll start off again

Really hope the best for tomorrow xxx

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HollieW in reply toSaya85

Thank you. I think I'm just hyper alert regarding ectopic pregnancies even though I haven't had the symptoms I have had previously. I just need the reassurance more than anything. Hopefully the scan will reassure me! It certainly is not easy and after everything we've been through you'd think we would catch a break!

I hope your cramps settle and like you say it's just implantation bleeding/cramps. It's just such a worrying time and thank God for this forum is all I can say!! Xx

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Em2405 in reply toHollieW

So glad they have given you a little bit of reassurance. Got everything crossed for you for tomorrow. I’ve had terrible cramps but fingers crossed no blood yet. Hope everything is well tomorrow. Keep us updated. Rest up tonight 🤞🏻❤️🤞🏻❤️ xx

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HollieW in reply toEm2405

Yes the HCG levels have reassured me a bit that the pregnancy appears to be developing but cannot help but worry when cramps and/or bleeding are involved. I won't be late to bed tonight that's for sure as I'm exhausted! I hope your cramps settle xx

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jannah in reply toHollieW

I hope it's going well...I know it's been 4 months but all I could is scroll down to read your message...I was so freaking out but it's good news...I felt for you hun just stay positive which helps. Good luck

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HollieW in reply tojannah

Thank you. I am now nearly 21 weeks but it has been a bit of a rollercoaster xx

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ALLY81

What a time youve had!!! Good luck for tomorrow hope everything is ok xxx

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HollieW in reply toALLY81

I know. It's been really awful and spent most of yesterday in tears. I'm not out of the woods yet but I do feel a bit better about things xx

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Ebonynelly

Glad that things turned out well. Hoping the scan tomorrow turns out good.

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HollieW in reply toEbonynelly

Thank you. I have my fingers crossed as it's been a bumpy ride to date! 🤞 Xx

Oh wow. What a time of it you have had. So glad the bloods came back as they did and you got some reassurance.

Big hugs to you xx

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HollieW in reply to

Thank you. I was pleased by the bloods result. I've never had them that high in any of my pregnancies at this stage which gives me some reassurance but hopefully the scan will help reassure me too. It's been a rollercoaster couple of days xx

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Really hope you get a good night's sleep tonight xx

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HollieW in reply to

Me too! I did have a nap after I got back from hospital as exhaustion set in. Fingers crossed for tomorrow 🤞xx

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We shall all be waiting and praying for you xx

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HollieW in reply to

Thank you xx

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Girlmeetsworld

Goodluck! Stay positive. Must have been such a scare waiting in a+e. Let us know how it goes tomorrow xxx

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HollieW in reply toGirlmeetsworld

I've had better days it's fair to say! Thank you for your kind words I will update everyone after scan tomorrow xx

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Scarlett13

Good luck with scan. Thinking of you. It’s an extra rubbish time of year xxx

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HollieW in reply toScarlett13

Thank you and hope you are okay xx

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baby2016

Sending you lots of luck for you scan today Hollie. Your HCG levels are definately reassuring. Least then scan will put your mind at ease. There’s so many things to think about in these early weeks and it can become so stressful. But try to remain as calm as you can xxx

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HollieW in reply tobaby2016

Thank you. It's been incredibly stressful but am trying to keep it together! I'm hoping the scan will reassure me and I have another booked with the clinic on 3rd January. It's just such a worrying time (as you know!) Xx

Hi just be aware at 5w there might not be much to see they’ll prob want to see you again in 2w hope everything goes well x

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HollieW in reply to

They did tell me that but fingers crossed I can see something 🤞xx

Hi Hollie,only just read your post. How are you today, did the doctor come back to you? Xx

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HollieW in reply to

I'm okay thank you. I went to a&e in the end as 111 never came back to me! HCG is now 16,000 and no infection. I'm having scan today to see if they can see anything as given my history they want to check it's not ectopic xx

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Your HCG level sounds positive, fingers crossed for your scan today, hopefully it will give you some reassurance xx

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HollieW in reply to

Yes they have given me some reassurance. Hopefully the scan today can give me some more! Xx

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Kizza07

Ive had two gushes of blood but nothing ln a pad just twice when i went for a pee had brown discharge when i wipe and stomache pains im high risk of ectopic and should be scanned at 6weeks bit they have me in for at 8weeks and im panicking and scared ☹️

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HollieW in reply toKizza07

I would go to a&e if you are high risk of ectopic. The worry alone will be stressful. Although I am still not out of the woods seeing a doctor and having blood and urine tests did help put me at ease xx

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Kizza07 in reply toHollieW

Im going to phone epu today see if i can have my appointment brought forward hope everything goes well for you xxx

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HollieW in reply toKizza07

I think that's sensible. When I went to a&e they referred me straight to epu and you can then speak to the right people xx

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