How do people cope with the unknown

[SandR123]

Sorry if this is a bit depressing. Just finding it hard to find someone to talk to that can relate with who is going through ivf. Iv had 2 failed fet cycles had to do frozen due to covid hitting in march when we were suppose to be doing a fresh cycle. I was suppose to be getting married in July too so on top of the stress of the ivf re organising a wedding moving it to next July then focusing on my fet cycles which I suppose I thought well least something might be a positive this year but 2 failed now I just lost all hope and not even having my wedding to look forward to as who knows about next year. They have no explanation on why they are not sticking everything seems to be fine. I'm just feel like iv totally lost who I am what I'm even doing and that I'm just pushing my partner away as i feel so guilty just feel so down and I hate feeling sorry for myself and no matter what my friends or family say its not what I want to hear feel like I'm going crazy. Sorry to rant just so frustrated with myself.

[elsie15]

I know exactly how you feel. I feel empty too and I feel like no one understands. It’s like I just don’t even want to allow my head to think about what is going on.

We had a break from it and at the time it seemed like the worst thing in the world but looking back, it did me and my partner the world of good. A break seems like the worst thing in the world but all this stress is not helping your body (we really underestimate what it does on the body).

I really send all positivity your way and hope it works out for you xxx

[SandR123 in reply to elsie15]

Thanks for your reply ❤ its so hard isn't it just seems the past year have just consumed all my energy and all I can think of everyday and trying to open up and explain to people its so hard just feels like a lonely journey.

Aw good thats maybe what we need.

Thank you so much means alot good luck in your journey too 🍀 Xxx

[elsie15 in reply to SandR123]

I can really relate to you. It does consume you. We had the break and it felt like the worse news to be told but it was the best thing for us xxxx

[Jem04]

I completely understand we have been doing this for 5 years now and I’ve struggled all the way through, don’t think anyone can understand unless they have been where you are. I found counselling helped and trying to be kind to myself about how I was feeling, allowing myself to cry when I feel like it. It is exhausting and I find it hard to hope at times, but you do find hope again from somewhere. Take care and be kind to yourself x x

[SandR123 in reply to Jem04]

Thank you for your reply. Aw that must be so hard we have only been on this journey for just over a year already feels a life time. I have just started counselling and it is sort of helping I know I need to give it time like the whole process you just want to fast forward and skip these bits. Thank you so much for the advice just nice to have so many people that understand really means alot xxx

[ashbb]

I'm a bit further behind than you but feel how you've just described.

The not having any answers to explain why it's not happened is so so tough and unfair.

We're two years married and i feel the pressure of feeling left behind. All I've wanted for the past few years is to be a mummy.

I'm sorry you're feeling how you feel but know that it's completey understandable. I also recommend counselling/therapy. My husband is about to start his own therapy as well. It means we can keep being there for each other through this.

Xxx

[butterfliez]

Hi sorry for all your going through the ivf journey is so draining isn’t it , it takes hold of you not only physically but emotionally & trying to stay positive all the time is such a chore after endless bad news ,

I can relate in a way to how you feel , I had a fet planned for sept after having to freeze in March because of covid literally only 2 days away but lockdown hit , then our 1 embryo failed to thaw , we were absolutely gutted , I couldn’t help but think if we’d had a that chance of it being the fresh transfer back then would it have worked but we will never know ...

That’s why this forum is great to share our experiences good or bad & have others relate to our situations, because unless your going through this people just don’t understand do they.

Hopefully getting all your thoughts & feeling out on here will help you in some way & give you the strength you need to carry on with the next step x