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Can't get over the blues. Tested negative today 7dp5dt. I tried telling myself it's too early, but that statement just feels like empty words right now. IVF and infertility sucks.

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RhinoCat

Defo test on your real test day too though ...... then you’ll know if it’s your real result or not. It’s such a crappy journey. Hold tight 😘💐💐💐💐💐💐

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Zetp73 in reply toRhinoCat

Thank you 😔🙏

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woohooh

I’m sorry. You’re not out yet. But I know how it feels to be disappointed over a BFN. I was there just a few weeks ago. Hang in there. Try to occupy your mind and here’s hoping that your beta tells a different story.

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tulipa8

It is perfectly natural to feel the way you do but you are not out until AF shows up. It is still a bit early to test. HCG hormone doesn’t appear until implantation has occurred and that takes an average of 9 days. Hang in there!! Hoping for the best for you!

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fors5621

I am so sorry. How many IVFs did you have? Don’t give up, I hope your next try will be a successful one! I know how easy it is to fall apart and just drown in your sorrow. I was so depressed during my last IVFs… It took the whole year to put up with the thought that IVF wouldn’t work for me. I could have spent all these years differently, I could have enjoyed my life! I felt like a disappointed child, scared, and lost…

I am sorry for such a long message. I’d like to put down one of the best lessons I learned during my infertility journey: not to concentrate TOO MUCH on fertility problems and be open to new options. It’s worth to try all the additional procedures like embryo glue, maybe some genetic tests. My case was the most difficult, I think because we had to turn to surrogacy. Anyway, I am so grateful there is always a solution to any problem. One just has to be ready to choose this option. Good luck with your future attempts!!!

I'm very sorry for your loss and I know exactly what will be going through your mind right now sending you hugs if you need a chat I'm here xx p.s. seeing a psychologist is also a good idea!!!

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Zetp73 in reply tofors5621

Thank you 🙏

I can feel how much your struggles have affected you. You are so strong

It was my 4th attempt, and I am founding myself thinking about surrogacy from time to time… But I don’t think we have enough money for this…

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fors5621 in reply toZetp73

I can recommend you going abroad. I’ve heard of a possibility to try IVF a few times (I don’t remember the exact number) and in case of failures, there is an option to switch to surrogacy. I am talking about my Ukrainian clinic, but I am sure there are a few more countries with good conditions. You can freely pm me for any questions.

Hoping for the best for you!

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Zetp73 in reply tofors5621

Thank you x

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Mrs_MT

Dont give up yet!! It is still early and you are still in the game. Pretend you never tested as this test really doesn’t count. I’m crossing everything for you! Xxx

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Zetp73 in reply toMrs_MT

Thank you for your support!!! I am so stressed, but I'll try to get myself under control x

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Egilbertpatt

Try and hold off testing again now until your test day if you can, I tested negative day 7 post 5 day FET and then tested positive on day 12, it doesn't necessarily mean you're out of the game xx

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Zetp73 in reply toEgilbertpatt

Oh gosh, thank you so much 😘😘

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