Having a sad day today..........

[lorraineb61]

Got news this morning of another family pregnancy. Whilst we had suspicions, it has still came as a bit of a shock! Coupled onto that, my sil is going for a c-section on Tuesday. My OH is working away this week so if I go to the hospital then I need to go my own otherwise wait till he comes home. I know if I don't go up I'll be talked about. And then finally, I start down regging on Tuesday for ICSI cycle no 3!!! I know that I'm just getting upset for no good reason but can't help it just now. Sorry for the offload to you all!! x

[-noodles-]

hi lorraine 👋🏻 sorry to hear you’re having a sad day - i feel the same today. i’ve defo PMT but also think it’s the time of year - so much pressure to feel and act happy when we’re aching inside.

i’m pretty sure my best friend is pregnant, so anxiously waiting on that news too. it’s weird how even when you have a feeling, the shock is still huge.

wishing you all the best on your third cycle. sending love & light

💕✨💕✨💕✨💕✨💕✨💕

[lorraineb61 in reply to -noodles-]

Hi Noodles, I think the time of year had something to do with it. Facebook is full of pictures of Xmas trees and visits to Santa just now and I find myself wondering if I'll ever get to do that too.

Does your best friend know what you're going through? If she does then ask her to prepare you first - don't announce it in a group of people. There's nothing worse, as you said, having to put a brave face on when all you want to do is cry.

All we can do is keep going and hope for the best.

xx

[louisear]

you've every good reason to feel the way you do so don't be so hard on yourself 😊 It's a hugely difficult time of year for a lot of us and for those of us going through this journey it's certainly no exception. Do what's right for you and who cares what others think. No one gets it like those in similar situations. Good luck for cycle number 3. You're incredibly brave. After one failed cycle I can't go through it again. Hope your dreams come true in 2018!

[lorraineb61 in reply to louisear]

We've gone for the Access programme so we have 2 shots left before we have to make our next plan. Do you think that you will try again or are you going down different routes now?

[E_05]

Hey, you have every reason to feel the way you are it don’t get any easier hearing pregnancy announcements especially this time of year. As for going to see your SIL I would say do what you feel comfortable and I would say try not to worry what anyone thinks but I know it’s not that easy. I couldn’t face going to the maternity ward last year when my SIL had my 2nd nephew and once I’d stuck to that decision I felt a relief. Wishing you lots of luck as you begin down reg to xx

[lorraineb61 in reply to E_05]

part of me thinks that I can use the excuse of waiting till my OH is home and then we can see the baby together. Hopefully by then she'll be out of the hospital which will make things easier. However she is a bit of a drama queen so who knows how that will go!

[Snowy76]

In the position that we find ourselves in - it seems very understandable that you're having a sad day! Please remember to be gentle on yourself and if you can plan in some wee treats for yourself - nice baths, a weepy film on the telly / box sets - whatever it is that gives you a pick-me-up make the most of it. Try and have at least one every day just now - especially when OH is away!! If you do go to the hospital, give yourself a get-out clause for when it gets difficult and have a treat afterwards...... Sending virtual hugs x

[lorraineb61 in reply to Snowy76]

Thank you - some really good ideas there - I might just well carry out a couple of them this week xx

[Jayde2221]

I say let them talk! You have full reason to not go to visit your sil in hospital if you don't want to, they will totally understand and if they don't then let them talk, I know this pain oh so well, my sister told me she was pregnant when I failed my first round of icsi and I couldn't face her in the street or anything, I avoided going to see her and if she was at my nannas I used go leave, I felt so terrible doing so but the sight of her growing belly made me feel a great loss as what I could of had, I didn't attend the baby shower or anything, I know it was my sister but I couldn't face it and if it's too much for you to visit your sil then don't go, your allowed to have a sad day or week or however long it takes! Good luck with round 3!!

[lorraineb61 in reply to Jayde2221]

Thank you. The relationship between her & I has not been the best over recent months anyway. She was one of only 2 people that we had confided in during the 1st round and unfortunately it was negative. She has fallen pregnant herself at that time but couldn't figure out how to tell me so she spoke to a friend who then told her husband who then thought it would be ok to bring the subject up infront of other family members!!! My terminally ill mother in law found out too then which we didn't want as she had more than enough to deal with at the time. So, I haven't really had much to do with her since then.

Are you and your sister ok now? It's so hard to work out what's for the best.

I just need to concentrate on this cycle now and never mind anyone else. They'll still be there once I finish!!

[Jayde2221 in reply to lorraineb61]

Exactly you need to focus on yourself in order to be successful which I really hope you are! Yea we're ok now, I was fine after he was born, it was just annoying how easy she fell pregnant she could say she was going to get pregnant that month and it worked, super fertile like my mam i suppose, she used to ask me loads of questions about periods knowing I don't get them so I couldn't answer and then used to ask me loads of questions and complain about pregnancy again knowing I didn't have the answers, but yea were ok now, I love the bones of her first little girl but haven't yet found the bond with the new baby xxx

[TTCs]

I really feel for you. I find family / close friend announcements are much harder than work colleagues, social media etc. Especially when they aren't all that sensitive and it's hard to really talk to anyone about that without coming across as jealous, been there got the t-shirt lol. Its so unfair and its ok to be sad about that.

Thinking of you, stay strong! 😘 xxx

[lorraineb61 in reply to TTCs]

Thank you. I have just taken the positive step today, I think, of de-activating my Facebook account to get me through the next couple of weeks till the festivities are over. x

[vic77]

offload away. I am so sorry u feel this way and totally understand why you feel the way you do.most of us on here have felt this way at some point. sending you much love and strength xx

[lorraineb61 in reply to vic77]

I know it's hard - me and OH ended up falling out yesterday over my "negativity"!!! I know it's only temporary! How are you anyway? x