embryo thawing worries

[LizzieT91]

Hi everyone, I have posted a few times through this journey as google can cause so much extra stress and it feels more comforting and reassuring when it is coming from people who understand and have been through these situations themselves!

I am currently doing a frozen transfer cycle with transfer due to take place on Monday (3 days time). I have one day 3 frozen embryo ( 8 cell grade 2) and a frozen day 5 blastocyst (3bb). The plan is to thaw the day 3 tomorrow and hopefully get it to day 5 and transfer that, my clinic say it is good quality and they are expecting it to thaw well but if not they will take the blastocyst out on the morning of transfer. This is my first transfer and I am so excited and grateful to even get to this point after a unexpected and extremely upsetting bump in my ivf journey earlier this year but I am also incredibly anxious about the thaw. I know survival rates are positive but after a really rough journey I struggle to think positive incase it gets taken away again. I am so scared they may not survive. Please does anyone have any success stories or advice to help me get through this weekend? Thank you

[Rcs11]

hi Lizzie, I’ve had 11 FET (day 5’s) & never had a single issue with thaw, so good luck.

In terms of mindset, I found it incredibly useful to read a book called ‘trying to get pregnant & succeeding’. It changed my brain from negative like ivf would never work to seriously not even doubting it’s ability to get me pregnant (I am now 4+6 so very early but I am pregnant!!)

Good luck my dear x

[LizzieT91 in reply to Rcs11]

That is so reassuring to hear, thankyou!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy, sending lots of good wishes your way!! X

[Hopeful24]

I had one day 6 frozen embryo and it was half rejuvenating (some cells) and half dead on thaw they transferred it anyway but it was negative after 2 ww. I was so surprised at how it thawed as they didn’t think there would be an issue. It was very disappointing. It does happen but try to be positive you have 2 chances for one to thaw out correctly so that is positive in itself

[DLPhope789]

Hi Lizzie

I had an FET on Monday and I was worried about the thaw, but it had actually gone up a grade by the time we arrived.

Fingers crossed for you x

[LizzieT91 in reply to DLPhope789]

Thank you for that, I really hope I am the same! Wishing you all the luck for your 2ww x

[Londonlady2024]

You should be having a day 3 frozen transfer NOT thawing it til day 5.

You only have only one day 3 embryo, best to transfer them you have your day 5 which can stay frozen.

[Dragonfly1111]

Hi LizzieT91, sorry to hear you have had such a bumpy journey so far. Just to say I am also waiting for a frozen transfer on Monday. I have 1x day 6 embryo that will be defrosted on Monday morning. I completly hear you and am also feeling very stressed! It is a huge process and think so natural to be feeling these feelings even though they are really scary. Be kind to yourself this weekend and 🤞🤞🤞for Monday xxx

[LizzieT91 in reply to Dragonfly1111]

It’s good to know we’re in the same boat! It’s so hard when you want to be excited but are scared to be incase it doesn’t work out. I wish you as restful a weekend as possible and will keep everything crossed for you on Monday too!! Xx

[smartens93]

I’ve had two previous FETs and both of the embryos thawed really well good luck and giving you lots of positive vibes and love!

[LizzieT91 in reply to smartens93]

Thank you 😊, that is reassuring! X

[Twiglet2]

hey- like others I’ve had so many frozen transfers I have lost count now but never had an issue with the thaw (but still always a worry on the day of) the thing that calms me is when it isn’t the only embryo left as I know they have another they can thaw if something were to happen so I would take comfort in the fact you have that day 3 and then the next 2 day 5s so you’ve probably a higher chance of winning the lottery than not having something to transfer with all that 🤗💜 if that makes you feel better? Xx

[LizzieT91 in reply to Twiglet2]

That does make me feel a little better thank you! My day 3 was actually better graded than my blastocyst was on day 3, I know we cannot rely on grades as things can change so much but it’s keeping me hopeful that this one might be ok too 🤞 xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to LizzieT91]

That does sound promising 🤗 Any reason they aren’t putting it back at day 3 lovely? And keeping until day 5? Xx

[LizzieT91 in reply to Twiglet2]

They only do day 5 transfers for frozen cycles for some reason, it would have been better for a day 3 transfer as it would be put back today but the waiting continues! Xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to LizzieT91]

Ah I see! I’ve let my day 3s go to day 5 even with fresh before so at least you aren’t waiting the 2 weeks if it wasn’t going to be a blast but this one sounds very promising! Good luck for Monday 🤗💜

[Spicycurry]

I have had a frozen transfer and the thawing success rate is high nowadays. My clinic said 98%. I know it’s difficult but if it is an 8 cell embryo day 3, that is a good quality.

[LizzieT91]

Thank you for all your positive and reassuring comments! I have spoken with the clinic this morning and my day 3 embryo thawed perfectly and hasn’t lost any cells which they say is very good. I’m so happy it survived thaw and just hoping with everything I have got that it keeps fighting until Monday! X

[fidgetmcgee in reply to LizzieT91]

Wishing you and your little embryo the best of luck! Hope the weekend isn’t too hard waiting and you’ve got some nice things to distract you

[JoleneR]

I had a day 3 embryo that was thawed and developed into a top quality 4AA by day 5 (it didn't implant, but probably down to age).

The majority of my blastocysts have thawed fine, which is typical, so try not to worry.