So worried

[Hope76]

I know I should be excited for my NHS 12 week scan tomorrow but am super anxious and nervous 🙈

So on the 6th October we had a private early pregnancy scan and baby was measuring at 11 weeks 2 days and was moving around and we heard the very strong heartbeat. 👌🏻

Since then had a couple of very small bleeds, straight after been sick first thing so well that has sent my mind into overdrive. Along with the last couple days just don’t feel as nauseous as usual, boobs don’t feel so sore and just not feeling like everything is ok 😢

We had bad news at our last NHS 12 week scan where they couldn’t find a heartbeat so maybe am just super anxious because of that 🙈

I just want to reach out on here as I know am probably just overthinking things and well I can’t worry my partner as he is so excited.

[Hidden]

I was very anxious before mine ( and in my previous pregnancy- which resulted in our 16 month old daughter) all my pregnancies I’ve bled in early pregnancy & been so worried attending the dating scan 😬 been beside myself with worry imagining the very worst. It’s super hard when you’ve had a struggle & experience of bleeding. Not all bleeding is miscarriages. Seeing a healthy baby with a good heartbeat after 10 weeks is a really good sign- I’ve read if you see a heartbeat at 10 weeks you have less of a chance of miscarriage- in fact your odds of having a successful pregnancy are the same as seeing the baby at 12 weeks, only most ladies won’t see baby until dating scan that’s the only difference . With COVID19 I didn’t want to attend EPU & risk bringing it home to my daughter & the dating scan I had to attend alone it was terrifying but I felt so relieved all was okay I burst into tears! Then I felt worried when I attended my appointment with my midwife as I was 15 weeks & she said we might not hear babys heartbeat- I was scared but heard baby straight away! I think we will always worry being a mum is a lifetime of worrying !!! I know there is nothing anyone can say to ease your mind but I am thinking of you & really your scan goes well ( I am sure it will do) I look forward to seeing your scan update ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻😊 xxx

[Hope76 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you that has really helped give me some reassurance. I think I just need to get back on my positive pants. Up to now been fairly positive most of the time think it’s just knowing now the scan is so close. I will be so relieved tomorrow when we see our baby 👶. Thanks again 😘

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Hope. I can fully understand your concerns. The tiny bleeds might just be down to placenta development. I'm sure your scan will go fine and you will get to see a baby. this time with teeth and a lovely white backbone. Try and keep busy until tomorrow. Thinking of you. Diane

[Hope76 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane for your kind words 😘

[Ranchu90]

I will think of you tomorrow🤗. I am sure everything will be fine😁 Try just for a bit to stop worrying and think positive, enjoy these beautiful moments that now I am just dreaming of. Be happy that you reached 12 weeks I even didn't had my transfer yet 😂🙄🤪

Good luck for tomorrow and update us with your positive news 😉

[Hope76 in reply to Ranchu90]

Thanks so much and you are right I need to remember done well to make it to 12 weeks 👍

Good luck with your transfer x

[Peony85]

Hi Hope, I don’t have any advice as I’m a few weeks behind you, but just wanted to say I’ve been feeling very similarly. Last week at 10+1 I had a scan as I was doing NIPT (electively), and the baby measured 10+3. Now this week I’m getting anxious again waiting for the results and also worrying about next weeks 12 weeks scan. I just think with everything we go through with IVF and especially those of us who have had a lot of failures (me 🙋🏻‍♀️) I just find it really hard to believe and trust that things could finally go right for a change. I had a miscarriage in February and while I’m past the point that it happened I am still feeling really nervous. I just keep reminding myself each pregnancy is different. Wishing you all the best tomorrow xx

[Hope76 in reply to Peony85]

Yes that’s a good way of looking at it each pregnancy is different 👍

I really do hope everything works out for us both. I never felt like this at all with my first pregnancy. After a miscarriage it is very hard not bl to be anxious though isn’t it. Wishing you the best of luck 😘

[Cinderella5]

Hey, just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow! I think we always fear the worst when we have been through a lot of shitty times and it brings all of our fears and anxiety to the surface going to scans. You're right, you probably are overthinking things but we all do it....me included, its perfectly normal for us to feel like this. Let us know how you get on, thinking of you!xxx

[Hope76 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks Cinderella am sure all will be well but as you know we always have that nagging doubt.

Hope all is good with you and your 2 wee miracles 😘

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hope76]

The fear never seems to go away does it! All ok this end, I hope.....Im nervous for next week. Thinking of you today.xx

[Georgie17]

Good luck tomorrow. I felt the same leading up to my 12 week scan and all was fine. I understand the worry as I still worry every day and will continue to do so until my babies arrive but try and keep positive. I’m sure it will all be fine. Xx

[Hope76 in reply to Georgie17]

Thanks Georgie, glad your 2 miracles are fine 😘 🌈. Always worried as you say but we have to remain positive 🙏🏻

[Florencehill]

My heart goes out to you. Ive never made it to 12 weeks but I think I would feel similar. Only natural. XxX

[Hope76 in reply to Florencehill]

Thank you my lovely. Feel strangely calm this morning. Away to pull on my positive pants and go see my baby 😀👋👶🌈🤞🏼🙏🏻

Wishing you so much luck going forward. Just read your latest update, your new consultant sounds amazing 👌🏻 Regarding the embryo glue, I never had it with my first transfer and it stuck. I had it with all the others with only 1 successful transfer. I doubt it makes a difference, plus I have never had my progesterone levels tested. Sounds like you have made a lot of progress 👍

[Florencehill in reply to Hope76]

Thank you. This guy knows what he is doing. Hope your scan went well? I feel positive at the moment, and fitter than I have been in along time. Lots of good wishes to you xxxx

[Peanutchips]

Thinking of you for tomorrow. I think it’s only natural to feel nervous after everything you’ve been through to get here. I’m sure things will be totally fine though. Sending loads of positive vibes xx

[Hope76 in reply to Peanutchips]

Thank you, pulling on my positive pants this morning and off to see my precious miracle. 🌈🤞🏼🙏🏻

Will update on here. Hope you are keeping well, wishing you so much luck in the rest of your journey 😘 x

[Countrymouse56]

All the best for today. I’m sure all will be just fine 🥰

I think we just fear the worst because we have been through so much to get here. Thinking of you xx

[Hope76 in reply to Countrymouse56]

Thank you 😘

I know, promised myself to start enjoying this pregnancy after today .....

Wishing you so much luck, just read your recent update sounds like you have some top quality embryos growing nicely. Will you go for transfer soon ?

[Countrymouse56]

Thank you 🙏🏻

I’m on the way to transfer now. I’m convinced they will call soon to say that there is nothing left 🤯 I will do an update post later 🍀🤞🏻🙏🏻💐Xx

[Hope76 in reply to Countrymouse56]

Fantastic, just relax & think positive 😘