Me again and my usual worrying and craziness! I just wanted to know if anyone understands how I feel or if I've completely lost my mind at last!
We are very lucky to get a BFP last week and we have a scan booked 5/1/21 but I have spent hours online looking at all the things that can go wrong at first week scan instead of enjoying this time. I've spent so long over the last few years reading other ladies stories and seeing so many heartbreaking stories at the 7 week scan that I've almost told myself that this is going to happen to us. Almost like it's inevitable that it will happen as we can't possibly continue to have good luck.
I hope this post doesn't upset anyone in any way, I know how incredibly lucky we are to get this far and I'm so grateful for all the support people have shown me on here. Thank you all xxx
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Hi Hun, itโs totally normal to feel like this - the best thing to do is stay away from google/internet and honestly enjoy the whole experience wishing you the best x
Iโm still in my 2ww so super nervous but praying it all works out for us x
Nope, completely normal! Honestly I just felt like I'd lost the plot. I couldn't concentrate on anything and was scatty as heck as all I was doing was worrying. I still have my moments but I have gotten a bit better the further I have gotten on. Its so hard not to google and I know people will tell you not to, and you know not to but doing it is another story. All you can do is get through each day as it comes.....I literally went to bed at night thinking Ive made it through another day. Gee whizz I sound nuts but its true!! Ha ha ha xxx
Awwww pebbles, I know how you feel! Iโm past my viability scan but I feel the same way as you โค๏ธBUT.....when you say that we canโt possibly continue to have good luck.....you know what: we canโt possibly continue to have bad luck either!!! ๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป๐letโs keep positive, either way we have no control of whatโs happening in our bodies and surely the calmer and rested we are the better it is! Keep strong love! Xxxxx
So many congratulations on your wonderful news! Its proof that it can work! Its really helpful to think about it like you've described, we can't keep on having crappy luck ๐. Good luck with everthing xxx
Hi lovely, it's so normal to feel this way but there are actually so so many more positive outcomes than negative ones, it's so hard with IVF as we tend to skip over these stories. Stay positive lovely, you've got this. Xx
Thank you for replying. I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get good news at your scan. Its so bloody unfair! I really hope that you're taking care of yourself (or someone is!) and I hope you get the luck you deserve next time xx
Sounds like we are at exactly the same point, I think i am 5 weeks exactly today. I could have written this post myself and it's made me feel better that I'm not the only one feeling like this. Constantly reading negative stories and scared to death of the scan.
I'm just keeping it in mind that there are so many more positive stories following a BFP than not.
For me half the battle is believing this is actually happening.
Hopefully Christmas will be a nice distraction to help the time pass xx
Congratulations on your BFP! That's wonderful news. I wonder why we do this to ourselves? I keep wondering if more woman experience mmc via IVF or whether I just feel like this because I'm constantly on these sites driving myself mad!Every day I remind myself as I look around that all the adults and children I see were all conceived somehow so it must work more times than it doesn't!
Thank you ๐, you too. I think it's because we have gone through so much to get to this point. From what I've read mmc etc is no higher, I suppose maybe the reason for needing IVF may have a part to play in those things happening sometimes. Things like chemicals may be noticed more in ivf because we are testing so early and so aware of what's going on every day. I'm also reminding myself that there may be more negative stories on forums as people need support.
I'm fine generally, struggled quite a bit with the bloating, my stomach muscles have been sore from it but I was high risk ohss. That's starting to ease now. Other than that the very ocassinal cramp and I've been having day time naps now and then. Oh and I wake up every morning around 5am absolutely starving ๐
Ahhh welcome to the club! We finally had a heartbeat at 7 weeks (3 years trying, and all pregnancies lost before 7 weeks previously) and just had our 12 week scan where we got told our little one was perfect โค๏ธ never ever thought we'd get this far and this is the only time I've ever felt like we could actually be a mum and dad. Like the girl above said, bad luck can't last forever. Yes, some people get bad news at viability scans but lots like me get the best news possible. There's no reason why the latter won't be you. Keep positive! Try to enjoy your Xmas as best as you can, and hopefully 2021 brings you the best new year gift xx
Normal, I was so worried before my 7weeks scan...looking at stats, medical reviews etc. for HOURS on my sofa. Or at 3am, wide awake and anxious. I thought it was too good to be true and something will go wrong...
So scared I went to another scan at 8weeks last weeken. Strong little heart still pumpingโบ๏ธ
I know the odds are in our favour now but after years of disappointment, MC, heartache and worries it's hard to shift our outlook
This little life is so precious and it doesn't help to know that if it doesn't work now it's back to square one.i think I will never stop to worry until the birth.
Its totally normal! I spent 20 weeks of my pregnancy googling โmiscarriage stats at 6 weeks, 7 weeks, 8 weeks and so on. And after 23 weeks googling โchange of survival 24 weeks, 25 weeks etcโ. The worry never really went for me. I think like you say, you wish so long for this to happen you canโt quite believe it to be real and see so many heartbreaking stories on here.
But for every heartbreaking story there is one of hope. Try and distract yourself, keep off google & keep busy! Hopefully the rush of Christmas will make the 5th seem like its not too far away.
Hi I wrote a similar post to this before the 7 week scan. I think when you have struggled to conceive it is really hard to trust that this could really happen. I am 19 weeks now and still worry and have wobbles but have started to feel the baby move which helps. The stories online don't help but remember they are the exception. Those who have straightforward pregnancies don't tend to write about it. Congratulations on your pregnancy and best of luck with your scan Xx
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wishing you the best x 
Thank you to all you ladies 
IVF for second child- why is it so hard!?!
More waiting..
***Sensitive*** After so much heartache she is finally here ๐
