Devastated

[Feverdream]

Completely devastated that the ivf failed. I have 3 good embryos frozen but I don’t think I have the strength to continue with transferring them each month then waiting in agony.

[sazzle2680]

I’m so sorry Feverdream. I know exactly how you feel having just had yet another failed FET (double transfer - 5AB and 4BB).

Like you, I’ve 3 left in the freezer but I just can’t see the point in continuing after 4 have already failed.

I’ve literally done everything asked of me and more. It’s just so unfair. 😔

Sending you the biggest virtual hug xx

[Feverdream in reply to sazzle2680]

I agree. I feel like i’ve done everything and there’s just no reason for why it failed. And I see so many women try and try on here and I think they have such strength because after everything I’ve been through and all chance stacked for me to have a baby I just can’t see the point. I hope with time we will both feel better and more positive xxx hugs

[sazzle2680 in reply to Feverdream]

That’s what makes it so hard. I can’t possibly think what the clinic will now suggest I do. It feels like I’ve literally exhausted all options....and I’m a big believer in ‘if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got’ which in this case would just be more BFN’s and heartbreak.

How long do you have to wait until you hear back from your clinic? Mine are saying they’ll review it at a case review next week so I’ll have recommendations after that.xx

[hannahkc]

So sorry Feverdream 😔 this is sad news, youve really been through it. Sending lots of love 💜

Just wondering if you have had a review yet with your clinic? It may give you some answers which could help if you did decide to give it another try. A lot is down to luck, as you know and for some of us we fall short on luck sadly! But that said what works for one woman varies to the next.

It's a tough process to go through and only you know how far you want to persue it , look after yourself and good luck!Xx

[Bing84]

I share your pain. Our FET has just failed too. We only have 1 embryo left so you’re in better position to than most to have a good number left. We just have to keep going and see it as getting one step closer xx

[Lisichka]

So sorry to hear that your FET failed, Feverdream. It’s devastating. Do something nice for yourself, take all the time you need, then have the review meeting with the doctor, see what their suggestions are. It is good that you still have 3 embryos left, you have 3 more chances! I know how hard it is, I’ve had 4 FETs and still no baby, but I know that with every transfer we get closer. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

[PenguinBlue]

I’m so sorry to hear about your failed transfer. I was in the same position in the summer and it is very disheartening. Pls just give yourself some time to heal - you definitely need it after the emotional and physical pain we go through. There is no rush for you to start straight away and perhaps you will feel different in a few weeks.

The great news is you have some great frozen embryos waiting for you to receive them when you are ready! Wishing you lots of luck and hugs xxx

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Hi Feverdream i just wanted to say im so sorry and i know how painful it is. This is literally how a broken heart feels. I had days i couldnt even talk because i knew i would just break down so i was happy i was working from home then.

Also i am happy to see you have still frozen embies and maybe this isnt what you want to hear now but they are there and who knows one day you will be ready to take a chance.

So dont beat yourself up. Take as much time as you need to grief, if possible go on a lovely road trip or long walk with your partner. Be nice to yourself lovely xx

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I'm.so sorry to hear this....after my two fails I just tried to take it day by day, ivf is such an emotional rollarcoster. Keep going you have 3 more chances and next time you won't need to go through protocal from scratch, the review with your clinic will help you decide the next step look after yourself- ❤ X

[Katrina13]

My advice would honestly be to give yourself some time. I know we all worry about how time will affect our chances but actually once the littlies are frozen as long as you’re in good health age doesn’t matter as much as you’d think. Take some time out, get normal life back for a while then reevaluate what you want to and can face doing.

By the way, I am sat typing this, aged 45, and 39 weeks pregnant from a natural cycle FET. I couldn’t face the drugs so I didn’t.. but this little very low grade blasto was determined!