So after continuously bleeding over the weekend I contacted the clinic. They have said unfortunately this may indicate it hasn’t worked but i still have to wait until test day (Saturday). I know it is over.
We have nothing i. The freezer so back to square one with stimming and egg collection. I just hate that you have to put so much hope into the process only to have it squashed again and again.
Feeling really low and angry.
Xxx
I’m really sorry for you Judy! My FET jus failed too so I know exactly how you are feeling 😞😞 sending you loads of hugs and be strong... xx
Awh Judy, so sorry to read this 😩 the whole process is a torture. I wish there was an easier way. I’ve tried to tell myself it’s my body sorting out whether or not the embryo is healthy or not, it’s just not a quick or pleasant process . More no’s than yes’s and definitely more hurt than joy. Take it easy on yourself this week and enjoy the treats that lift your soul. I know your pain, wishing you quick processing and reflection so you can feel brighter again soon. Love and hugs of complete understanding ,
Rhinocat 🦏🐈💐
Thank you RhinoCat. I just don’t know how to keep picking myself up anymore. I know it will get easier but feel a bit hopeless at the moment. Thank you for the hugs. How do we keep doing this? Xx
It’s ok to feel hopeless in this moment and you don’t have to rush feeling strong enough to stand and keep going just yet. Now is the time to sit and recover . If you want to keep going your heart will allow you but right now , just feel the feelings of it, but know that they will pass, just like the rain clouds. Brighter days will come again , just right now it hurts too much to even think that.
You are here , you are ok.
Just breathe breathe breathe and let the tears of pain out.
You poor pet.
It’s a tough tough day, but you know tough days and have learnt that tough days end ..... eventually .
Take it easy on yourself sweet Judy 💐 you are strong, you are brave , you are a survivor.
So much love and hugs 🤗
I’m so sorry. Hope you have plenty of support xxx
I'm so sorry- fertility treatments can be so horrible and heartbreaking. All my last cycles- fresh and frozen- have ended in early bleeding and I'm finding it hard to deal with. The last two times it started 4 days after transfer which meant I only had three days to hope and dream about a good outcome. Then you have the hopelessness of the clinic not giving any reasons of solutions to deal with the problem. What kind of cycle did you have (fresh/ frozen/ natural)? Take care xxx
I had a frozen cycle. I asked the clinic some questions but like you said they said i had to wait to speak to a doctor in a consultation appointment (goodness knows when that will be). Sorry that you have also had the same issues. I am sure we will get there in the end but the hopelessness does suck at the moment. Sending big hugs xxx
I somehow managed to get a follow-up appointment for next week but I am worried I will get the same old "it's just one of those things". I also have this weird thing where I seem to want to have so much information that I can tell when the consultant is saying nonsense. So I spent this past week (since our last cycle failed) obsessively googling. The last time our consultant said that it may be that my progesterone is too low (he put me from 2x Cyclogest to 2x Lubion) but when I called when the bleeding had started to ask if they should measure my blood they said it didn't matter and it should be high enough. I find this frustrating because Ivf is so much guesswork- surely the little things we can actually test for are really worth doing.
Please don't feel hopeless. Every cycle gone wrong will help to improve the next. Do take care of yourself. I tried not to get too sad but after 5 days I couldn't help it and spend an entire day sobbing. I felt so much better after that. Big hugs back xxx
Sorry to hear this Judy18. You know you have the support here if needing to vent etc do what you need to do xx
So sorry this has happened to you. The same happened to me earlier this month. We have nothing to freeze either so it's back to square one. I totally understand what you are feeling xx
I am so sorry you are going through this as well. It is hard. I am trying to be positive but feel a sense of loss too. How are you coping? Sending hugs xxx
I'm okay. I'm trying to stay positive. Lucky to have a good partner and a few close friends who know about the IVF which are looking out for me. How are you? xx
Yeah, my husband is fab and i too have a few of amazing friends who are brilliant support. Also don’t know what i would do without you guys on here. Helps to speak to people who understand how it feels. Makes the journey a little bit easier. Hopefully our wishes will come true soon xxx
I am so sorry Judy18. There really is nothing that can prepare you for a negative result, regardless of how many times you’ve been through it. It quite simply sucks. Big hugs and you know where to come if you ever need support.
I’ve just read through your posts and I’ve noticed you started bleeding 2 days after transfer. I’m no expert but surely this shouldn’t be the case. I would question the clinic as to whether transfer was actually done at the right time? I know this doesn’t help your situation right now but it might be worth asking(which I’m sure you will anyway) xx
All over the place, don't know what to think
Pregnancy success over 40??
UK ivf clinics over 40 
Grief over what should have been
is it over? Brown spotting past few days 
