How to keep going on this rollercoaster

[Rainbowdreams82]

Feeling completely deflated and lost tonight. The never ending wait to hear from our clinic is almost unbearable. I had thought I’d have heard by now and been in as we had started our protocol before lockdown. That coupled with the school uncertainty & today being told I have a P7 class after have a discussion with my head teacher where she said a P7 wouldn’t be a good idea with disruptions from me going out to appointments or being off. Just feel like it’s another hurdle and finally lost it today. Been trying to stay positive through lockdown but this limbo feeling and work stress has finally unleashed the endless tears. No idea what to do. I thought after all the heartache this would surely be our time but it just feels so beyond my reach and out with my control and it hurts so much. All you ladies are amazing and such a great support and I just needed to write this all down somewhere

[Twiglet2]

Hi rainbowdreams🤗🤗🤗 so sorry to hear you are feeling like this and I completely understand why you would be! Everything is so out of our control at the moment from every day life to IVF!! What’s the latest for your clinic? Have they put anything on their website etc.? If I remember correctly you were going for first fresh cycle weren’t you? Some clinics are starting only with frozen cycles (I know mine is mainly because they don’t have their anesthetists back from redeployment to carry out egg collection quite yet) so perhaps that’s why you haven’t heard? So you would be priority as soon as they start if you had began protocol.

Try not to worry too much about your work it might be that a lot of your appointments can be done before 9am and your egg collection etc might fall on a school holiday or weekend so if it helps try to just worry about one step at a time and not meet trouble halfway .... that’s seems to have really helped me when I just focused on the next step in front of me. And if you need a couple of days off for treatment then so be it. The school will cope, they have coped with far worse lately and this is too important to worry about that element. Sending you lots of hugs and I hope you hear from your clinic really soon lovely 😊💖 you got this and you are doing great with the wait! xx

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Hi lovely. I have felt like this since march when i had my CP. it was the longest period in my life. Initially i was told the clinic would ring me. Then I started ringing my self with every cycle (because they are taking new patients and im afraid my frostie will be forgotten). If you are on a short protocol its worth to call every cycle day 1. If you are on long protocol just keep ringing untill you have dates. Im a introvert but i think just ringing helped me through it. Hope you feel better soon. Please be your own best friend and if possibly try not to worry about too many things (i know its extremely hard when you also hve a career) xx

[ttcemmie]

Sorry to hear this lovely. So much stress and uncertainty and too much going on. The limbo is awful and it feels like some clinics are just taking a crazy amount of time to get people's treatment back on the go. Be super gentle with yourself and cry if you need! It gets overwhelming at times. The heartache gets overwhelming. Here for you. xxxxx

[Southwestcat]

HI, So sorry for the stress and uncertainty , indeed before i heard the clinic had reopened and |i had dates |I could barely cope with it any longer. I personally would ring the clinic , they have a responsibility ( as per HFEA guidelines) to keep you as updated as possible so that can you can at least have some some sense of a time frame, esp as you had commenced treatment b4 the lockdown, hopefully you can get some information really soon, and much better days come really soon, xx