Scared

[Judy18]

So we have just been given our dates and plan for our frozen transfer after we had a failed fresh transfer in Feb. I am excited and trying to be positive but am so nervous about getting another negative and if i will be able to cope. My husband is supportive and says we have to be positive and that we will get through this but doesn’t seem to get that i am scared (he is very good at compartmentalising). I know half of this is him trying to be strong for us. I know we want this and i really do feel for all of you that are waiting (i have been thinking of you all and wishing for positive journeys) but i just want to stop feeling scared.

Love and hugs to all xxx

[Mup80]

Hi Judy, it's my 1st cycle and I'm scared too. But let's face it, I don't think it will go away until I hold my little miracle in my arms. But I have to take 1 day at a time, or at least try to do so!

Good luck to you x

[theotherblonde]

Hi Judy, what you are feeling is very natural. Your scared because it means everything to you for it to work. I am due to have my first transfer in July so I haven’t experienced a loss of it not working (not yet and hopefully won’t) but I would encourage you to be positive. If it works for others on second attempts then there is no reason it won’t for you. There may have been a issue with your embryo from previous attempt and this time it will definitely stick. Maybe ask for 2 embryos to be put back if you have them? Look forward to it and see it as a new beginning. Your pregnant until proven otherwise. Be sad if it doesn’t work but sadness is scheduled for then not now when your supposed to be joyful and full of hope. Good luck

[Sunshine92]

This feeling is totally normal! I felt exactly the same going into our second round, mentally I wasnt sure i could cope with a loss again. But while going through it those fears went away for a while, you feel like you’re doing something to help achieve you’re dream and I was so focused on that... next medication, next injection etc.

Until the TWW .. which i think we can all agree is the worst part of this process. Feels like the 2 year wait. Thats when all of those feelings crept back.

Keep yourself busy, have lots of things planned over your next cycle (well as much as you can with most things still closed and restrictions in place). Get lots of rest and try and think positive. Wishing you lots of love xx

[KiboXX]

Hi Judy,

This is a completely normal and natural feeling to have when you want something so much. I wrote a very similar post to this before my last transfer in January (it was my fourth transfer but first frozen one). It’s terrifying to think about it failing but try not to focus on that and just focus on your next step. I found that really helped me. Wishing you all the luck in the world for transfer ♥️ xxx

[Twiglet2]

I think feeling nervous about the cycle is perfectly normal, it’s a huge thing for us and a lot depends on it! Hopefully the scared feeling will be joined by hope and excitement for you too 😊 the amount of people on here who have had positives from their frozen transfer after a failed fresh one is a lot so hopefully you will be one of them 🤞🏽 good luck 🤗 xx

[Judy18 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you for all of your kind words. I am trying to be positive. I am hoping that this will be our turn. Surprised by how many injections there are for a frozen. On them for a month! Good luck to everyone! Xx