Third cycle worries

Hi ladies

I haven't been on here since our 2nd failed cycle in august as I just needed a break from all things fertility and IVF related, I'm sure many of you know how that feels. You just want to feel like yourself again, before all this started. It's also the reason I'm well into cycle 3 and haven't been on here, I guess I just wanted to try and focus on other things, although of course you're not really fooling yourself that it isn't the most important thing right now of course.

Anyway, I had my EC yesterday and 4 eggs were retrieved, which is half the amount of our first fresh cycle (the 2nd try was a frozen) I was disappointed but trying to just be positive that any were retrieved at all, then this morning the embryologist has just called to say only 2 have ferilised 😔 If they, or one survive my transfer will be tomorrow (Day 2)

I am trying to remain positive because I know it only takes one of course, I guess I've just been really thrown by how few embryos we have ended up with compared to last time where 7 fertilised and 3 made it to great quality blastocysts and 2 were transferred on day 5. I know every cycle is different but I was on a slightly higher dose of menopur this time so (perhaps naively) thought we get more eggs, not so many less. Of course those great quality ones didn't work anyway so I know that's not key, it's just been a shock that this time is so different.

Sorry for waffling, any positive stories of day 2 transfers would be much appreciated! Xx

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  • Hi Georgina - I just wanted to wish you luck with your transfer tomorrow, I hope everything goes well for you. I had a 2 day transfer in May and got a BFP. Sadly this ended in mc later but it was still considered a successful cycle. I remember googling a lot at the time and there were loads of success stories with 2 day transfers so try to stay as positive as you can :) good luck x x x

  • Hi MommaBear

    So lovely to hear from you, thanks for your reply, how are you getting on? Your message has made me feel better so thank you, I think it's just the shock that it's been so different to last time. Just a tense day now worrying if they'll still be ok tomorrow 😕 The things we have to endure..really hope you're ok xxx

  • I know I remember waiting for the phone calls, it's agonising and completely out of our control which makes it worse! But I'm sure everything will be just fine for you :) I am well thanks, we start treatment again in January, have everything crossed for everyone to be posting BFPs, scan pics and baby announcements on this site in 2017! x x x

  • Hear hear to that! Glad you are well, enjoy xmas before it all starts again for you. Thanks for getting in touch xx

  • Hi Georgina - I'm sorry I don't have experience of a 2 day transfer but I just wanted to wish you the best with your treatment. Really hope you get a positive result. xx

  • Thanks so much city74 😘

  • It''s hard to stay positive after previous failures. Hopefully your embies will do well and result in a BFP and baby/babies.

    Good luck.

  • Thank you Pm, it is hard. I think it's only natural like you say after 2 failures but I keep being told to think positive, I'm not helping myself if I don't etc. I think it's self preservation really.

    Thanks for your wishes, how are you doing? Are you considering adoption or just moving on with life? Hope you are ok xx

  • Bless you for remembering. Generally OK, it's been hard and things continue to trip me up. Adoption isn't for us so trying to move on. I had some counselling to help cope with the failures and ceasing treatment. I'm hoping that this new year's eve is happier than last year (3rd and final BFN test date).

    When is your OTD?

  • I remember you and all the lovely ladies that were on here at the same time, it was so helpful to me. I can imagine it's been so hard for you, I'm always wondering if I can continue it it doesn't work again, it must have been a really difficult decision. We're undecided about adoption, I used to work in child protection and have seen how damaged some children are 😢 Glad you've had some counselling, did you find it helpful? I know I have throughout this rolllercoaster, although I was sceptical at first.

    I really hope it's a great xmas & new year for you and 2017 brings joy & positive things.

    My OTD is the 1st Dec, I had my transfer earlier today, which went well. Only 2 of our 4 fertilised so we've had both transferred so we have no frosties but just glad to have got this far and hoping we won't need any.

    Thanks for getting in touch xx

  • I'll keep my fingers crossed for a BFP. There are a few names I recognise from when i was going through treatment so I wanted to reply when I saw you'd posted.

    The counselling has helped and I have been reading a book that's been useful.

    I've returned to my studies and trying to keep positive and move on with life.

  • Thank you Hun. You have a great attitude although I'm sure it's not easy. Wishing you lots of happiness xx

  • Hey Hun. Wishing you all the best my love. Try and stay calm. I know it's easier said than done. Let us know how you get on xx

  • Thanks lovely, had my transfer today..only 2 had fertilised so both have been transferred (I'm 38) I will do, hope you are well? Xx

  • Well those 2 could be the ones Hun. Good luck for the dreaded 2ww. x

  • Hi lovely, just wanted to wish you lots of luck and baby dust for this cycle. Stay strong and positive. Big hugs xxx

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