Just venting

[MrsN23]

Hi all,

I’ve been on here a while, but it’s the first time for me to post. I’m just so fed up today, not sure why. We’ve been ttc for a few years, and we eventually started IVF back in February. We got to collect the eggs (2 embabies in the bank- yippee) but then it got cancelled after egg collection due to the pandemic. I was hoping my clinic would have contacted me by now to arrange my FET but still nothing! Anyone in the same boat in South Wales NHS?

Anyway, what’s got me fed up is the fact that today I saw a heavily pregnant woman smoking outside the hospital. And I honestly can’t believe that the universe would allow someone who obviously doesn’t care about her unborn baby to become pregnant while we all struggle along!! Argh! It’s annoyed the hell out of me!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi MrsN. Oh dear! It's so annoying to see someone abusing themselves like that, when you desperately just want a baby of your own. Sadly not much we can do about that. Do keep an eye on the HFEA website hfea.gov.uk for when your clinic is to re open. They are tending to use stored frozen embryos first. Good luck! Diane

[MrsN23 in reply to DianeArnold]

Will do! Thank you Diane X

[Bunnys123]

It’s okay to have bad days and I almost allow myself to embrace the sad days. Have a cry and watch something good on TV and eat something delicious. I then tell myself the next day is a fresh day. I had a bad weekend and just let myself wallow really. But today is a new day ❤️ And we’ve got this 🙌🏻

[F_J_762301]

Its completely normal to have days like this, like Bunnys said allow yourself a little wallow and start afresh tomorrow. The good news is clinics seem to be prioritising treatments that got cancelled, im not in your area but i know thats what my clinic is doing. Has your clinic got a website? Keep checking or maybe give them a call in a few days or so to find out whats happening. Good luck xx

[JoP32]

Grrrrrrr, this sort of thing really boils my piss!! I get how you feel! This whole process (infertility) feels so unfair and then you see something like that and it magnifies those feelings. I’d have been just the same as you! Xx

I really hope you can get going with your FET soon! The FET process is way quicker than a fresh round so once you get thd go ahead it’ll hopefully not feel like toooooo long before your transfer.

Very best of luck with your next round! Xxx

[MrsN23]

Thank you all so much for the support. You were all so right in what you said. Today is a new day and I finally feel sane (ish) again! Sometimes all you need is someone who understands to tell you everything is going to be ok! Thank you all xxx

[LunaLovegood11]

It is just so UNFAIR! Unfortunately nature doesn’t care and fertility has no relation to good parenting... Sending hugs x

[Itsalongjourney26]

Where our treatment was, the maternity ward was right beside the fertility clinic and this was a daily occurrence - it used to drive me absolutely crazy! Allow yourself to feel sad and angry, and then pick yourself up again when you feel ready. We’re all there with you x