Thinking of everyone going through a mmc

[hifer]

Hey,

I know there are a few that have been through a miscarriage in the last couple of weeks and a few that have opted for surgery. I had an MVA this morning so I totally feel for you all. The procedure really wasn’t very pleasant and my husband couldn’t join me which was less than ideal. However the procedure doesn’t last too long and the staff were so lovely and kind. The after effects were short lived and nothing like the discomfort of the procedure itself (for me at least). Make sure someone can meet you at the hospital/ clinic after to give you a hug!

I just wanted to send you lots of love and hope that you have a speedy recovery and I’m holding your hand in place of your significant other!! You can and will get through this and it’s just a part of your journey.

Xx

[Kelz2020]

Sending you love and gentle hugs. I’m so sorry. Xxx

[hifer in reply to Kelz2020]

Thanks hun x

[Solly-44]

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. Thinking of you xx

[hifer in reply to Solly-44]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

So sorry 😢 for you and all the girls going through this. X love

[Picalilli99]

So sorry. Its tough enough as it is but I imagine it must be extra tough doing it without your husband there with you. Well done for getting through it lovely. Sending big healing hugs ❤️ Xx

[hifer in reply to Picalilli99]

Thanks for your kind message xx

[F_J_762301]

So sorry you had to go through this i had surgical management of mmc but under a GA so no memory and thankfully very little discomfort afterwards, though the emotional effects stay with you for a long time. Take it easy and look after yourself xxx

[hifer in reply to F_J_762301]

Sorry you had to go through this. My last one was a GA and I think that is preferable!! Hope you’re ok and sending love xx

[Tulips1978]

Sending love and hugs and I am so sorry you have had to go through this. I went through this 3 weeks ago. It’s not pleasant but it’s over soon. I was very lucky they allowed my husband to be there with me but I think that’s because that morning at my scan they told me there was no heartbeat so it was a lot to take in. Hope you recover well and look after yourself. Xx

[hifer in reply to Tulips1978]

So sorry for you too hun. Sending lots of love xx

[Lots8788]

Sending you love and hugs hifer xxx

[hifer in reply to Lots8788]

Thanks xx

[CLDxxx]

Sending love Hifer. Take good care of yourself 💞

[hifer in reply to CLDxxx]

Thanks x

[Wehavethis]

Sending you the warmest hug Xx

[hifer in reply to Wehavethis]

Thanks hun x

[Hidden]

Sorry to hear you had to go through that. Sending you big hugs! Xx

[hifer in reply to Hidden]

Thanks hun x

[Hope4040]

I had this last year and felt pretty traumatised afterwards.

Your so strong. Sending you lots of love. X

[hifer in reply to Hope4040]

So sorry to hear that. Did you have an MVA under local? X

[Hope4040 in reply to hifer]

Yes I did. I can’t imagine going through it by myself though so your very very brave.

I didn’t have the best of recoveries after either. When I got home I was ok initially, just a bit shaken up but it was the day after I woke up in the middle of the night in pools of blood and having the worst pains. I was then rushed to hospital and had to stay in for a couple of days.

I know this can happen when your have the medical management too and that’s why I opted for the mva. They wouldn’t do one under general - this was the only other option. Xx

[hifer in reply to Hope4040]

Oh god you poor thing, that sounds horrendous!! Not what you need with all the emotional trauma that comes with a miscarriage anyway. I don’t think I’d have an MVA under local again. They did do them under a general at my hospital but were very reticent to do it and actually I didn’t want to be in a ward at the mo anyway. It’s really very unpleasant isn’t it?! Anyway, done now. Sorry again to hear of your experience xx

[Hope4040 in reply to hifer]

I definitely never have that procedure again knowing what I know now! Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hope4040]

Thinking of you too!!xxx

[Hope4040]

But just like many others we are strong individuals and we get through it, give your self time to heal and start again.

If I’m honest I started the 2nd treatment far too soon after this one. I hadn’t allowed myself the time to get over it properly.

I then took a break for 7 months before this last round. It was the best thing I could of done as having 2 miscarriages within 3 months of each other really messed my head up. I was in one of the darkest places.

It’s true what they say - times a healer. You’ve just got to keep the faith and not give up hope xx

[hifer in reply to Hope4040]

Agreed time is a good healer and sometimes we just need lots of it to get ourselves back on track. The problem is sometimes we just feel like we want to get right back to it as often time isn’t on our side but you’re right to take time out and get into a good place again. I’ve also been through some dark times going through IVF so I totally know how you feel and rushing through/ into treatment when you’re not emotionally ready is not a good plan! Xx

[Hope4040 in reply to hifer]

I know exactly how you feel i didn’t have time on my side either. I’m 40 in 2 weeks time. All I could think about last year was that I was going to be turning 40 and time was running out. But it does happen and you can get pregnant in your 40s. Xx

[Hope4040 in reply to hifer]

How are you feeling this morning? I’ve been thinking about you x

[hifer in reply to Hope4040]

Ahhh that’s so sweet of you, thank you! I feel better this morning thanks hun. Was really starting to feel a bit rubbish last night and felt really hot all the time. Have actually slept though and generally feeling brighter. Obviously cramping still so just taking it easy. So sweet of you to check, thank you xx

[Hope4040 in reply to hifer]

That’s good xx rest is the best medicine!

It was so hot last night 🥵

[hifer in reply to Hope4040]

It was. We have air con in the flat though which was on super low and my husband was cold which was making me really anxious as I was roasting. Anyway feeling more ‘normal’ today. Thanks lovely xx

[KDA0510]

Hi Hifer - I’ve been thinking of you. Glad the procedure was straight forward for you and no complications. My local hospital only offers ERPC (under general anaesthetic) and not MVA - so I’m booked in first thing Monday morning which I’m grateful for as I really would like some closure and move forward.

Sending you lots of love and hoping you’re taking some time out to rest xx

[hifer in reply to KDA0510]

You’ll be fine under a general. I had a D & C under a general and it was much more preferable to an MVA under local! I totally understand about closure. Will be thinking of you on Monday and hope you’re in and out pretty quickly. The staff were pretty understanding about it being difficult circumstances so hopefully they will put you at ease and look after you well. I’ve not actually got dressed yet today so taking it pretty easy!!! Wishing you all the very best xxx

[RhinoCat]

Sorry to read this, sending hugs 🤗 tough times 💐

[hifer in reply to RhinoCat]

Thank you x

[Mimi1010]

Hi- i feel for you; i went thru 2 miscarriages last year In 5 months

[hifer in reply to Mimi1010]

I’m so sorry for you! That must have been awful. I really feel for you xx