Anyone else pissed off with the ‘motherhood dare’

[BetsyBo]

Just a rant- my Facebook is FULL of mums nominating other mums to post pictures which sum up what makes them proud to be a mother.

I’m so upset and pissed off with them all 😂

Just needed to rant to people who understand my irrational behaviour of purposefully ignoring these posts and crying about it in the bath 😩🤦‍♀️🙈

I feel so angry with them! Not their fault I know, but I am just sensitive to every reminder that I’m not privileged to be a mum yet 😢

[ttcemmie]

I didn't know about this at the moment. My facebook is full of mums complaining that their kids are at home all day (because of the schools being closed). I find that annoying enough! I am also in a sensitive place right now. xxx

[BetsyBo in reply to ttcemmie]

Yeah, I’ve seen loads of that too. 😩

It’s one extreme to another. I don’t feel particularly sensitive and it’s upsetting enough as it is, so my heart goes out to you dealing with this with everything you’ve got going on.

I know the answer is to probably stay off social media but it annoys me that people aren’t a little more emotionally intelligent tbh xxx

[Sunshine92]

Yep! I also have one friend that had 2 kids under 2, she keeps posting pictures about ‘check on your friends with toddlers during quarantine, with lists of how hard it is’ and mom memes 🙄

Whilst i have no doubt its tough, i think of the women who are home alone who’ve had their fertility treatment cancelled until goodness knows when, who would love to spend the quarantine with their babies.

Women who have recently miscarried with NOTHING to do or NOWHERE to go to take their mind off the awful thing they’ve been through.

Fertile people are so wrapped up in their own bubble its quite frankly irritating 😒 xx

[BetsyBo in reply to Sunshine92]

I completely agree!

It’s so SO frustrating - I often feel we’re a population of people that are ignored and overlooked. With everything that is going on atm, this has only confirmed all of those beliefs tbh. 😞 xxx

[Jessy1280]

Yes littered over my fb too. Totally hurtful even from friends who know about my miscarriage and recent third failed cycle x

[Hidden]

I read more about infertility lately and visit here than social media. Insensitive people will be insensitive people. We cannot change their minds. No matter what you do. We post maybe mothersday picture when there are people that lost their mom. Etc etc. We will never change what others think. But we can change how it effects us. The sooner we understand this the sooner we can be at peace. Sorry i dont want to be insensitive i get it it hurts me too. Especially when pregnant women complain abt their ‘awful’ days and indigestion and sore bodies. I used to think do you know how it feels to pump yourself up with hormones and feel 10 times more hormonal than usual. To feel depressed as shit and people wishing they were dead after a bfn? They might get it for a sec and apologies and then continue being insensitive. Im just saying please be kind to your self thats whats under your control. ❤️ typing this while my neighbours screams to her two year old toddler haha (not sure to laugh or cry)

[Hidden]

Your post made me put a comment on my Facebook page. I think that the problem is if that you haven’t suffered like the women on this forum then people don’t know and understand how something like this can have an effect on women in our position. I have to say my post has been well received and hopefully it opens peoples eyes to the world where not being a mother comes easy if at all. Hope you are doing ok x

[Core]

I’ve seen this and know exactly how you feel! Half tempted to put up a photo of our embryo and all our needles. We have so much to be proud of and are working so so hard as mothers in waiting xx