Desperate- Age 21, AMH 8, egg freezing halted

[BarneyandPatsy]

I joined a month or so ago.

I could cry. Found out my AMH is only 8. Heartbroken. My whole life seems pointless. I had an appointment at clinic to start 2, 3, 4 rounds of egg freezing. I’d have 10 if I need to.

I was going to start a round in the coming weeks but now everything is halted because of Coronavirus. So now when? Week by week month by month by reserves will decline. I’m heartbroken, depressed, sad

I’m at home at the moment taking time off to start all my rounds of egg freezing be returning in September for my final year at university. Everything is ruined. My whole future seems pointless. Every aspect. I may have to give uni up as I can’t cope. When can I have a career as my life will be taken up with this monster that’s hit me? I’m a year into a relationship. What if he takes off because of all this rubbish going on? He doesn’t wasn’t babies now of course, why would he? We may not even stay together. Then I have the anxiety of finding someone before it’s too late which seems pointless. If I have a baby now at 21, well I don’t want that. I don’t want to be a single mum at 21 with no career, no life. I’m at home all day because if this horrid Coronavirus and all I can think of is my life, how ruined it is, every hour, every minute. It dominates my thinking. I feel so desperate.

[magda22]

Oh sweetheart, that's really rough. My first response, you might think it's weird, is to say amh 8 is not really terrible. It may be officially low for your age, but it doesn't mean you won't get pregnant. Loads of women get pregnant and have babies with amh at 1 or below. It can and does happen all the time. Amh represents quantity not quality, and because you're so young chances are you have great quality eggs. So don't despair completely.

I think it's really smart you are doing egg freezing now. I know it's a horrendous shock to learn your amh isn't where it supposedly should be, and must be so frustrating to have actions stalled by corona virus chaos.

In the meantime you could research boosting egg quality through diet, supplements, lifestyle changes etc. There is loads of info out there. And that means when you do come to do the collections you'll be in the best position possible. It takes a couple of months for these changes to have a real effect, some people chose to have some time before ivf specifically to work on egg quality, so you could view this period for that. Loads of love and luck to you xxx

[Weareback2]

I would say if you can continue with uni. I know it might be off now with the virus but there will be online work that you can do. You need to keep busy and when you start your appointments can work round uni etc. Good luck. X