BFN 😔

[Alwaysfullofhope]

Hey all,

So after a negative home test on Sunday, I wasnt left in heaps of hope however you read that you can test too early etc so in the back of your mind your thinking I've just tested to early!! Sunday afternoon I started spotting I thought omg this is implantation spotting that's why I didnt get a positive, back to been positive again!! The spotting became worse and turned to a period 😔.. still have to go have your blood test done which now has been confirmed (not like I needed telling) its come back negative!! This is our 2nd attempt with ivf 1st no fertilization 2nd go 3 eggs fertilised only 2 which were of a good standard and only one made it to a 5 day blast so non frozen!!

In the mist of all this I cant help but think maybe I have poor quality eggs?! I'm 29, I have two blocked fallopian tubes didnt think egg quality was even a issue ive been so naive throughout both my goes!! Egg quality hasnt been confirmed and will be speaking to the doctor this Tuesday as want to give my body the rest it needs but also do not want to delay going back for round 3 🤞!! You read so much about the quality of eggs etc but I literally have no idea what quality my eggs are? Is there any way to check? (Is that a stupid question)? I've now downloaded the 'it starts with a egg' on my kindle and have started reading I feel like a massive failure I didnt cut out anything in my other two cycles well apart from caffeine and alcohol.. I didnt look at parafines I didnt stop wearing perfume, fake tan and make up etc I clean continuously in my house and the stronger my cleaning products smell the better i just always compare my self to others, like my friends that just become pregnant who drink wine every night and occasionally smoke on a weekend and it happens for them & I dont do that so why would it not happen for me...need to get out of this mindset... I'm not them I'm me and I need to change what I've been doing clearly!!

Can anyone help with little changes I should make in my life foods to eat products to avoid.. I am taking pregnacare multi vitamins for trying to conceive is there any other vitamins I should be taking i want to make sure this round i do absolutely everything in my power to make sure I get a BFP!!! I cant go though these emotions again!!

Thanks is advance 💗

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Oh lovely I am so sorry about your BFN, I am the same - tested twice - today and yesterday and both BFN and brown spotting and really strong cramps have started - my otd is Sunday

Don’t beat yourself up. You got a five day blasto which shows that your eggs can make good embryos, sometimes it just isn’t meant to be and isn’t necessarily what you did or didn’t do. I know some people love that starts with the egg book but honestly people get pregnant all over the world doing all the wrong things so you not giving up cleaning products isn’t going to have made a difference, you have to live whilst you go through ivf otherwise you would go INSANE and be bankrupt from all the organic stuff

I take royal jelly which improved my results and I am going to start taking ubiquinol or CQ10 for my next cycle as lots of girls on here have had good success with that.

I’m gutted for you that it hasn’t worked and so hope that you are ok and your doctor is helpful next week xx

[L400ynd]

Please don’t beat yourself up lovely!!! That book was the worst thing I’ve ever bought. It made me feel like a failure as well but the more I thought about it I was like no! I will not allow this book to make me feel this way.

I spoke to my sister, who has my niece through ivf. She drank Coca Cola, ate takeaways, used normal cleaning products, hairspray, nail polish etc etc. She didn’t even take any vitamins other than folic acid.

DO NOT lose your faith or your hope. Try and have a healthy lifestyle but allow treats and relax! Maybe take some supplements if you want. I took coq10 and pregnacare and stopped exercising for our second cycle and I went from 1 egg not fertilising to 8 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilised and 1 made it to day 5. It didn’t take but I’m not blaming myself. These things happen.

Much love my darling xxxxx

[Hartley1]

Sorry to hear what you're going through...so tough!

The book is a guide you don't have to follow everything...that'll make you go nuts😂. First 3 transfers I was told we had 'Good embryos ...5 blastocysts'...still didn't get pregnant and I was younger than I am now. Couldn't understand it...was so upsetting...esp when they said good embryos...we had a huge break from ivf almost 3 years as had clinic to choose financial stability, hubby was told to improve quality. I had health issues though they couldn't pin down anything for me.

This time round the bits I did: read the book started going to the gym did yoga. Plastic containers tried avoiding where I could esp heating in them...not putting acidic things in plastic. Stopped using tinned tomatoes. I still had the odd takeaway and ate out. Gave up alcohol however had 2 or 3 glasses of champagne during injections for my sisters 40th silent disco (need some dri

nk for that). Reduced caffeine generally but stopped caffeine after egg collection ready for transfer. Gave up work and relaxed more than my 7 to 19.45 working day...stopped handling till roll receipts all day.

Biggest thing was giving up work for me and supplements which I got from the book. I didnt take all of them but decided to take ubiquinol 200mg twice a day pregnacare vit d 5000iu. Before egg collection was also taking selenium zinc vitamins a c e.

I hope you can see whatever any individual does is different person to person...take bits for what you think are important try and relax and take your supplements and drink 3L of water and all we can do is hope. This journey is so difficult...Good luck always here if you want to chat xx