BFN 💔: End of the 2ww and it's a BFN... - Fertility Network UK

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Clairenix
Clairenix

End of the 2ww and it's a BFN, I am feeling devasted, I had such high hopes for this round,it was a top quality embryo and my lining was at optimum level,I'd been taking baby aspirin and steroids this round so really confused. I know it's not 100% guarantee but success rates at my clinic are really high for DE and everything seemed to go well up until this point.

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I’m really sorry. It’s really harsh, especially at this time of the year. Sending hugs xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Tugsgirl

Thankyou you,just don't know what to do with myself xx

Tugsgirl
Tugsgirl
in reply to Clairenix

I can imagine.. it’s going to be tough for a little while. Please take care xx

So so sorry Claire. Take time to recover and just be. Big hugs xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Camillage

Thankyou, I just feel like I need more answers, my head all over the place xx

Camillage
Camillage
in reply to Clairenix

Of course it is. We put our all into each round with an unfailing belief that all will be well. It is absolutely devastating for each and every bfn and set back.

You will have your dream. I really with you success in 2019. Big big hugs xxx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Camillage

Thankyou 😘

Good luck for Monday I will be thinking about you xxx

Im so sorry i was hopeful for you too. Please take care of yourself. When something doesnt happen, God has bigger plans for you, this wasnt your time but your time WILL come. I pray 2019 is the year for you. I know how frustrating and upsetting it is to say the least but please do not give up belief hope and faith. It will happen x

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Masha111

Thankyou, I think I'm feeling the pressure more because I'm 41 and don't know how long I can keep trying, we do have 2 frozen embryos left so we will see what next year brings xx

I’m really sorry to read this, Claire. Negative results are sad at any time of the year, especially now. Please know you’ve done nothing wrong and be kind to yourself. It’s ok to cry and let it all out. Here’s to a brighter 2019 for you and us all xxx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Snez84

Thankyou for your message,it is really hard and I'm still grieving from my MMC end of Aug but I know I'm strong and always have to have a plan so will take some time over Xmas to relax and then work towards the next attempt.

Hope 2019 is a good one for you xxx

akpenev3
akpenev3
in reply to Clairenix

Hi Clarenix, I too have had 7 tries @ 41 and taking a break to see what 2019 brings...we will not give up. Faith and positivity is the best medication....may I ask which clinic you are at? I'm in U but thinking of going to Greece for a try. We are thinking of trying Donner eggs to max out chances.

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to akpenev3

Hey there,apologies for the delay,I will PM you with details

I’m so sorry to read this Claire. The pain from a BFN is so horrible. Not having answers can be so frustrating and unfair. Take time to grieve. Take care of each other. Xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Em2405

Thankyou for your message Em, i know it's never easy to get a BFN but just seems even harder at this time of year xx

Em2405
Em2405
in reply to Clairenix

Definitely and it’s seems so bloody unfair too. There’s no justice in infertility. I am so so sorry for your pain. We are always here to talk to and to vent when needed. Take all the time you need. Xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Em2405

Thankyou, I'm meant to be going to see my twin nieces today for their first birthday but their mom is pregnant and I just don't think I can face it xx

Em2405
Em2405
in reply to Clairenix

Don’t go! You need time to grieve and be as sad as you want to be. Don’t force yourself to do something that painful. You need to look after you at this moment in time and everyone should understand and respect that. Xxx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Em2405

I think I'm going to say I'm ill, only my parents know about the IVF we haven't told our siblings and their partners but your right I need to put myself first xxx

Em2405
Em2405
in reply to Clairenix

You take care, like I said we are always here to talk to. Sending love xx

So so sorry. Take care and make sure you talk to someone xxx

Thankyou,my oh is trying to keep me strong and positive that it will work and my parents have been really supportive xxx

I’m so sorry.. Sending love xxx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Jenjen84

Thankyou JenJen much appreciated XXX

Ahhh Im so sorry Claire totally gutted for you! Makes it all the worse when you know they have used top quality embryos and yet nothing....sometimes there's just no reason that the good ones dont work and I know how this feels.....its shit! Sending massive hugs lovely.xxx

Thankyou Cinderella,it really is shit. My oh being really supportive reminding me it's nothing I've done which I know that but it doesn't stop me thinking what if!! We have 2 left so will see what 2019 brings xxx

Glad hubby is looking after you! You havent done anything wrong hun, you know that deep down Im sure and Im sure you're still grieving your lost little one too! Its a crappy time of year to get a BFN - I started bleeding on my 2ww on Xmas day a couple of years ago and its just that wee bit harder at this time of year. Try to let your hair down a little over the festive period. Hopefully better things to come for us in 2019!!xxx

Hey Cinderella,Xmas day now that really does suck!!

I've had lots of hugs today and think I'm cried out now and ready to take on the next round but have said to the clinic I want to try and find out what is going wrong,not sure how possible that is?? I'm wandering whether it's anything to do with my severe allergies and my immune system fighting against something that is a foreign object??

Ive just poured myself a vodka!!

2019 is going to be a better year for us both xxxx

Well it's defo worth sounding out the question. It's rubbish when we don't know why things are going wrong!

Enjoy that vodka, you bloody deserve it!!xx

Unfortunately couldn't stomach the vodka,ended up switching to water!!! Xx

Aww bless you hun.😕😚xxx

I’m so sorry to read this😢❤️xx

Thankyou for your message,it means a lot xx

I’m really really sorry. I’ve just had my 5th/6th BFN. It doesn’t get any easier, only harder. It sucks. But you’ll pick yourself up. You’ll find strength. You’ll go again. We will get our babies xxxxxxx

Thankyou Scarlett, im so sorry too to hear your news,it really does suck,I'm already starting to feel stronger and will plan to go again.

Hope your ok lovely xxx

So sorry to hear this, was so hopeful for you with your top quality embryo. Glad you have a good support network around you - be good to yourself - tough time of year for this news - Thinking of you xxx

Thankyou so much,I've cried lots of tears today but had lots of hugs from oh,my cat and my parents and feeling stronger to carry on. Hope your ok xxx

So sorry dear. Its never easy. I pray you get your desired baby soon.

Thankyou so much Ebony, I will keep the faith x

I have no advice, but wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your bfn. BFN are crushing. Wishing you success & hope 2019 is your year 🙂 xoxo

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to jess1981

Thankyou for your support Jess it really does mean a lot,hope your ok xx

So sorry to hear this. Sending big hug xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Kari55

Thankyou so much,all your messages mean so much xx

Oh hunny 😥 I'm so very very sorry to hear this. It's awful isn't it 💔 please look after yourself beautiful lady at this sad and awful time...this time of year just makes it worse 😥 I'm so sorry hun sending you a huge cuddle right now 😥💔❤💕xxx

Thankyou so much Niki 😘, I've had a real good cry today and already I feel stronger and ready fight on. I've had lots of support today from oh and parents and just have to accept it's not our time xxx

Oh no so sorry to read this I had everything crossed for you 😢 take some time - sending you hugs xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Daisy1245

Thankyou Daisy, I'm going to try and relax over Christmas I'm readiness for the New Year xx

Oh I'm so sorry Claire

I know exactly how you feel. We had two failed cycles with top notch A embryos

But this time we had BC embryos and it worked miraculously - sometimes there's no rhyme and reason but have faith it can and does work- and more often than we realise

It sounds like you're at a good clinic and you're on a good protocol - maybe 2019 is destined to be your year xxx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Saya85

Thankyou for the encouragement and yes it is a good clinic so hopefully I will get some more answers or advice in the New Year. Have a good Christmas xxx

I’m so sorry to read this hunny, sending you lots of love x x x

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Jonesjp

Thankyou,it's much appreciated xx

I’m so sorry that it hasn’t worked for you. I totally understand how extra crushing that is when everything had been looking so promising. We had two failed transfers with top quality embryos, after cycles with much poorer quality embryos it was impossible not to get our hopes up. I will be thinking about you at this difficult time. And have everything crossed that one of those little frozen ones will be a winner in 2019! Take care xxx

Thankyou Picalilli99,so sorry that you have also been through the same thing. Do you mind me asking what your clinic advised or did you have any additional tests? Xxx

No they haven’t really advised anything other than suggesting that DE may increase our chances, which we haven’t tried yet but is likely to be our next step I think. I do wonder sometimes, especially when reading other women’s posts whether my clinic’s approach is a bit limited when it comes to offering further investigations. Especially because we’ve also had 2 MMC and so I can’t help wondering whether there’s something else adding to our problems that we don’t know about xx

It's difficult isn't it when you don't get any answers but as other ladies have said sometimes their is no reason, my clinic did add baby aspirin and steroids this time round because of my MMC but not sure other than that what can be done??

DE do seem to have higher success rates and there are really good clinics to chose from if that's the route you decide to go down xxx

So sorry lovely. It’s so awful isn’t it xxx

It really is,think I'm all cried out. How are you doing? Xxx

Hidden
Hidden

I'm really sorry to hear this Claire. Bfns are the worst especially when the journey has already been quite challenging. Thinking of you xx

Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Hidden

Thankyou JoJo yesterday was a really tough day but got to keep going,we've got 2 frozen left so fingers crossed. How are you? xx

I’m so sorry Claire x

Thankyou, how are you getting on? Xx

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