I'm 8 weeks pregnant today. My next scan is tomorrow and I am just so terrified that the heart will have stopped and the pregnancy has stopped developing, or they will see that something else is wrong. I lost my daughter at 10 weeks two years ago (genetic tests told us her gender and that she had a fatal trisomy) and I just feel like I don't want to be in that position again. We saw a strong heartbeat a bit less than two weeks ago, at 6w2d, but I know that can simply go away, like it did last time. I just don't want it to be all over already. I feel nauseous some days and not others, and I have not thrown up yet. I'm worried it's a bad sign.
I just want to ask—will it be okay???? But of course nobody knows that and there is no way to know until tomorrow.
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Pregnancy after loss is brutal. I was the same - so I completely empathise with how you’re feeling. I wish it got better, but every stage comes with anxiety. I think that’s just part and parcel of being a parent?! I know it’s hard, but try and stay positive. Will be thinking of you and praying for positive news x
I’ve not got that far in my journey yet but can appreciate that it is probably anxiety inducing. Perhaps you can try some mindfulness, meditation and deep breathing to help bring some calmness in the moment. Also something I read years ago may help and I always bring myself back to remembering is that FEAR is only a False Emotion Acting Real… wishing you a strong heart beat and great scan tomorrow 💜
I don’t think the scan anxiety ever left me during both of my pregnancies the emotion is difficult to explain but is very real, let the technician know your anxiety and they will be gentle, I am sure everything will be fine but i totally understand how you you feel xx
Nothing can really prepare you for a scan besides keeping calm and trying to stay positive. I know exactly how you feel but thought I’d send you well wishes for tomorrow. Keep us posted xxx
I’m sorry you can’t enjoy this moment , we are all so traumatised by what we’ve been through in the past that it doesn’t allow us to look forward to these milestones.
Take each day as it comes…one more day 🙌
Wishing you so much love and luck for tomorrow ☘️❤️
Congratulations for becoming pregnant. I guess once you are pregnant, your worrying does not stop. Every week you fear that hcg drop or heartbeat cannot be heard, then you worry if there are any abnormalities. After that you worry about the birth of the child, then you worry if the child will fall sick. Next you will worry if the child is doing well in school, if they are bullied or if they are stressed.
You understand how precious your child is, and you treasure him or her even more.
Your child is happy to have you as his or her mother.
Maybe you can do some meaningful things for your baby to decrease your anxiety and prepare for birth of your child.
I know it will not be easily to relieve the anxiety. All the best to you!❤
Unfortunately it is a legitimate fear and a real possibility that my pregnancy will stop, not just irrational fears. I do hope things will work out but with all of our specifics there really is no saying.
I know it is difficult for you. I also would be in fear like you if I experienced that. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. We can only adjust our expectations and hope for the best unfortunately. You are a IVF warrior! Praying for you❤
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, the ivf journey can be very tough, I keep googling at one point one can relax , because the anxiety it brings is very real. I understand why you’re feeling what you’re feeling given your previous history, just try to be kind to yourself , hopefully tomorrow will bring some good news for you. We can only remain hopeful and pray for the best. Sending you all the best wishes and a big hug xx
Hoping all goes well tomorrow Will be thinking of you Are you aware there is a pregnancy forum similar to this on also on HU ? It will be a great source of support for the future
Right but since I have such a high risk for miscarriage—like 80% because of all the factors involved, I don't think I belong there yet. I am not really pregnant yet, in a sense, since there is not a real chance I will have a baby.
it’s a great group for comfort for those lucky enough to get a bfp and the plethora of questions that might be sensitive to those not experiencing bfps (as the aniexty takes hold!) 🖤
I found my bfp after we lost our first, the hardest, every day was a worry and I’d be checking for bleeding, twinges etc x
I'm so sorry for your loss 💕 - this period is, I think, the hardest time. I had started even apologising to the sonographers in advance saying "I'm sorry if you have to give me bad news" 😞✨
You're nearly there, one more day. It takes such strength to get this far after loss. We're all rooting for the best possible news for you ✨✨✨✨✨✨
No similar experience but my heart went out to you and i want to wish you lots of luck! I sometimes have to remind myself that our brains are trained to focus on worst case scenarios as a mechanism to protect us, but there is definitely a chance of a best case scenario - although i can imagine you daren't trust that yet x
I can imagine pregnancy after loss to be full of anxiety & worry , it’s hard enough getting pregnant going through ivf & so on , so we never really relax after a positive test & even more so after going through the trauma of loss.
I know I will be feeling the exact same as you if I am able to get pregnant again. Sending you so much strength today & everyday
I really hope all goes well at your scan & with this pregnancy ❤️ Xx
Having had losses I can understand how you feel. I think if I get pregnant again I will be so anxious. Thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for you. Please let me know how you get on. Xx
It is a normal fear. If it helps, i started feeling nauseus until week 9 and it was on and off. Then I had nausea everyday until week 22. Some women don't have it at all. I hope that everything goes well and that you receive good news from your doctor.
Good luck for your scan. Your anxiety is completely normal given what you've experienced in the past. Pregnancy after loss is a bit of joy stealer as you have real lived experience that things can and do sometimes go wrong. However, that doesn't mean that everything won't be perfectly fine this time around and the odds are very much in your favour that will be the case. Xx
Hey lovely, hope you managed to get a a little bit of sleep last night! You are definitely in my thoughts today. I have had 3 losses and currently in my third trimester which I still daren’t believe. The anxiety of scans was just so overwhelming and nothing anyone can do or say will be able to take that away from you. I didn’t dare believe each time, I couldn’t even go in with a positive attitude. This journey has made me a ‘worst case scenario’ type of thinker and I honestly thought that going into every scan. I think it it was a form of self preservation. Someone told me once’s that there is no point of having to put yourself through the pain twice, so until you know otherwise to be positive. I get that but it’s bloody hard. Those first trimester weeks were a mental challenge on a whole other level, all I can say is take it day by day. You are clearly a very strong person (though sometimes it sucks to have to be!), just look after yourself and I hope you have lots of support around you xxx
What your feeling is completely normal after experiencing pregnancy loss the anxiety is so hard to deal with. So please try to be kind to yourself keep talking to your partner about how your feeling as you can be there for each other. Try to find something to take your mind off it like trying a new hobby, binge watching something, planning nice treats for yourself and partner like date nights etc, anything really that you can focus on. Sending positive vibes x
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