Hydrosalpinx and newly single!

[SammyJay]

Hello everyone- I'm new here so I hope I'm posting in the right place! I wondered if anyone here might be able to give me some much needed advice.

I am 37 and I've been diagnosed with hydrosalpinx on one side. My partner and I were referred to start the IVF process but have recently split up 💔. Now I am really unsure of my options as I obviously cannot go through the IVF process without a partner, but without that initial IVF consultation, I fear I'll never have the access to the treatment I need to fix my tube (as I would still like to think that one day I might be lucky enough to have a child). I'm so aware of my age and just don't know what to do 😔

I live in the UK - do you think I'll have to go private?

Any advice so welcomed.

Thank you xx

[Hidden]

Hi Sammy! I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and your split 😢it must be so hard for you! A friend of mine went through a similar thing, her husband left her just before the embryo transfer...so she has 4 frosties. She is obviously very upset...I’m trying to put myself in your shoes and if a baby is really what I want, I would do it with a sperm donor- wont let anyone or anything kill my dream of becoming a mum. This is me, of course, you may think differently I understand that...but there are options to consider.

Just know that you’re not alone ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[SammyJay in reply to Hidden]

Aww, thank you. So nice of you to say ☺️

I'm not so worried about not meeting anyone else, more the worry of will they treat my condition with me being 37, single and so not eligible for IVF anymore? I just don't know. Xxx

[Hidden]

Hi,

I was in a similar situation to you. Myself and my partner were going through IVF but split up. We had the tests ect and then referred to a clinic for treatment. I also had a hydrosalpinx and adhesions on my Fallopian tubes.. I had a laparoscopy last May (newly single) I then had a follow up with my consultant to finally start IVF. It was during this appointment that I had told the consultant that I was now single..he was really nice about it and said that I was still entitled to a round of IVF as a single person on the NHS as I had an identified fertility problem. Fast forward a few months, I started my treatment in Jan using a sperm donor and now in the 2ww xx

[SammyJay in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your comments- so helpful. I think I will keep our booked appointment and go alone. Fingers crossed. Good luck to you on your journey ♥️ xxx

[Hidden in reply to SammyJay]

No problem! Still go alone as you will still have options. You’ll probably be referred for treatment first for your hydrosalpinx before you can start IVF. However, It is a long process with NHS waiting times ect😩. I’m 39 now, so try not to worry..your time will come xx

[Kyra-J]

Sorry to hear this, my ex partner tried to do the same but thankfully I managed to get him to stay to the very end. As he was the main reason my tube go blocked. According to my dr I had the choice to go as a single person as my ex kept saying he won’t do ivf, then he will🙄😌

But according to the gynaecologist who put in my referral made it clear they will not support single person on the nhs.

I was also told I had hydrosalphix when having my lap. I was still referred to my chosen clinic.

When they check me for my base line scan I was told they can’t see any hydrosalphix so they was happy for me to go forwards with my treatment plan.

Fast forwarding time I am now on doing ivf as a single person. To make cost more affordable I opted in for egg sharing program. I will be using a donor sperm.

Best choice I’ve made so far.

Thought I will share my experience.

Good luck and I hope you get what you wish for ❤️👼🏽