Ivf strength

[Tealbeach]

Hi all

This forum is great as everyone on here gets it, unlike my family and friends that can’t understand my thoughts and feelings right now.

I’m feeling extremely low at the moment and not ready for the next step on our journey, which is ivf. Just wondered how you all got yourselves mentally prepared for that step in the journey or any tips on remaining strong?

Thanks and best wishes to everyone on their journey to parenthood.

[Keepingfaith85]

Hi Tealbeach, yes this forum is great! It has definitely helped me loads just to realise I'm not alone and when I've needed to ask questions people are always willing to share their experiences.

As for finding strength... I definitely found out that I'm stronger than I thought but also experienced every emotion under the sun. To be honest I think you find a new kind of normal, you just adapt to the process and begin to really trust your clinic. I can't imagine not doing ivf now!

One thing I would say is don't worry about taking a break here and there if you feel you really need it. One month will make no difference in the long run and it's important to make time for yourself.

See relaxation as a project - experiment with new things yoga, meditation, reading etc to see what works for you. It's important to find ways to relax and unwind and if you struggle with being kind to yourself (I know I do) this is actually a great skill to learn.

Only take on what you want to take on. Learn to say no to things/people that stress you out. It's not selfish, it's just giving you the space and time that you need.

Ivf is tough emotionally more than physically I think but it all moves quickly and you feel like you are finally doing something towards your dream of a family. Each step is a huge achievement and even when things are stressful or you have disappointments at least you are learning and therefore one step closer.

Wishing you loads of luck 🍀💕😊

[Tealbeach in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Thank you. We are taking a break and we’ve booked an amazing holiday, so we’ve got something to look forward to. It’s a shame that other people can’t understand the need to take a break.

Yoga sounds good though. I’ve downloaded some podcasts too, so hopefully they’ll help.

Thanks! X

[RhinoCat]

It’s hard to accept that other can just have children without effort and yet others, like all of us on this forum, need some medical assistance . Once you get your head straight and realise , you need it or else you might never have any, it’s been around for 40 years, they are improving every day , they can do things to help you ..... and most importantly at this stage...... if you can have ivf then there is still a chance you can have a child . I told myself try it or accept now that I can’t have any. I finally accepted we could never have any naturally and that was a fact and we weren’t young enough to try for 8 years and ‘see’. It will make sense in your head eventually . I found as soon as I accepted it and got onto the waiting list it felt exciting again . You’re just taking a different route and that is ok 👌🏻 the sooner you let the mope mode go the sooner you are on this journey to at least try what you can 💐

We have all had these thoughts.

You’ll be ok

Love and hugs

Rhinocat x😘

[Tealbeach in reply to RhinoCat]

Thank you, if only I was 5/ 10 years younger then I would have time to sit back and just relax I to it.

I feel like I need to be prepared for the failure of ivf, which I know might sound stupid but currently I’m not strong enough for the injections let alone a negative result.

I will get there and I know I can do it, just not quite yet!

Thanks x

[RhinoCat in reply to Tealbeach]

Bless you😘 Enjoy your holiday 😎