Bleeding after failed transfer

[Linzmm78]

So after my BFN on Tuesday my clinic basically cut me off as soon as I phoned in results. I had to ask what should I expect they said a very heavy painful period, I started bleeding on Thursday but fresh blood not much clots to barely anything today? I don’t know if this is normal as it’s my first transfer fail!

[L2213]

I’m so sorry to hear about your failed round, how are you doing? I’ve had both fresh and frozen failed rounds now and both were painful (but I have endometriosis) I didn’t have clots and they only lasted about 3 days. After treatment it’s just a withdrawal bleed so not necessarily what you’d normally expect. I’m so sorry you didn’t have better news, it’s rubbish, I hope you are doing ok sending you hugs xxx

[Linzmm78 in reply to L2213]

I guess I’m in the grieving process still numb! I’m very very low mood today I don’t know what’s normal or what’s not! The clinic give you nothing on what to expect and out review will be in 6 weeks.

I cancelled my counsellor session it’s not going to bring my embryo back and I feel angry.

So should I expect an actual period soon rather than just a withdrawl bleed? I don’t want to google stuff as it gets me upset.

For some reason everywhere I go there’s someone with a new born sitting next to me or another friend is pregnant.... I want the ground to swallow me up 💔

[L2213 in reply to Linzmm78]

Give yourself time to grieve, I also felt really angry especially towards the clinic for not listening to my concerns. I’m sorry yours hasn’t been helpful, they give lots of info on what to do if it’s successful but nothing about when it isn’t.

Seeing others share pregnancy news or happy with little ones is really tough especially this time of year. Try and plan something nice to focus on and just be kind to yourself, if you need to keep yourself in a bubble for a bit for self preservation then do what is best for you. I’m sorry to hear you are feeling low, remember you aren’t alone, here if you ever want to chat. Perhaps talking with your counsellor might be helpful when you feel ready to.

In terms of the withdrawal bleed, I think this can often be lighter and you’ll have a normal period next month (if you are regular - my next one after my fresh round took 8 weeks to come back. It’s only been a couple of weeks since my failed FET so not sure on how it will be this time.)

Look after yourself and wishing you all the best for your next steps xxx

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Hi, sorry to hear your clinic has not been helpful. It is so horrovle that they cut you off! My clinic said I might get withdrawal bleed and I do not know what it mens. Today I have already started my period which is quite heavy and i also have had period pain. Sending you lots of good vibes! X

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Sorry I meant to say the clinic is horrible.

[Suzy86]

Sorry to hear about your failed transfer. I hope you are doing as well as you can be. After my abandoned fresh transfer and my 2 failed FETS my bleed was very very light and not what I expected at all so I think it’s pretty normal. Look

after yourself. X

[Core]

So sorry to hear about your failed transfer. With my fails I usually start bleeding 1-2 days after and it’s normally pretty similar to a period although weirdly lighter than usual xx

[Linzmm78 in reply to Core]

My normal periods are crippling so am confused on this light bleed but seems it’s common x

[Core in reply to Linzmm78]

I spoke to my clinic about it being lighter but they didn’t seem worried xx

[Linzmm78 in reply to Core]

My clinic at the hospital shut as of Friday till 6th January heaven help anyone that has problems. My doc has put me on an antidepressant that is so strong I can’t function just makes me want to sleep all the time x

[Linzmm78 in reply to Core]

My clinic at the hospital shut as of Friday till 6th January heaven help anyone that has problems. My doc has put me on an antidepressant that is so strong I can’t function just makes me want to sleep all the time x

[Core in reply to Linzmm78]

Oh wow that’s a long time to be shut and not have anyone to speak to! Will you be having a follow up appointment? It’s so tough have you been back to your gp to tell them about the side effects?xx

[Linzmm78 in reply to Core]

Yeah I had to go to GP because the clinic wouldn’t see me a skin tag thing appeared on my cervix in the 2WW with my previous cancer history I can’t have things not checked, got a Gp not my own and she was very unsympathetic to my circumstances and dug out the tag on Thursday and sent it away for testing but thinks it’s to so with the pessaries. I got prescribed some antidepressants but they are so strong I can’t function so took them for a day I couldn’t stand up took me 12 hours before I could put one foot in front of the other. Just going in circles xx

[Core in reply to Linzmm78]

I’m so sorry to hear your GP was unsympathetic, are you able to see a different one to discuss the anti depressants or maybe get some counselling. I’ve used the mind charity before and they’re really good xx

[Linzmm78 in reply to Core]

Getting an appointment with my own GP is a nightmare and Xmas period! I tried counselling I came out feeling worse about myself than I did before I went in, I believe the lady is leaving that did it she’d a lot of cancellations. I think I just need some meds to level me out and think straight I’m not use to hormones they’ve messed me up mentally xx

[Core in reply to Linzmm78]

I really hope things get better for you soon, are your family and friends and OH supportive?xx

[Grazangelique]

Hun, I am so sorry to hear that things are so hard for you at the moment. I know that there are no words that can take the pain away but try to remember that this is just a rough patch and sooner or later it will be over! Hang in there and be kind to yourself x