Transfer today - feeling flat

[HPLondon]

Hi all,

Had my egg collection on Wednesday (13 collected, 11 fertilized, 8 got to day 3).

Embryo transfer was today, said they had one 4BB blastocyst to transfer and two of the same grade to freeze, perhaps another once they see tomorrow.

Transfer all went all ok, didn’t feel a thing (my previous two were a bit painful).

This is our first private round, we’ve previously done one collection and two FET’s with NHS. This is the first fresh transfer I’ve done.

I just feel so flat and sad, just feels completely inevitable that it won’t work. Feeling very tired, maybe it’s just the hormones. I hope I’m not sending bad vibes to the little embryo.

Anyway, don’t know what I want from this post...perhaps some hope? Not sure my heart can take it though.

Sending lots of love and luck to you all x

[Suzy86]

Hi, I just wanted to say I had 2 failed FETs. Recently had my first fresh transfer and I’m now 5 and half weeks pregnant. I Still have a long way to go but I never thought I would ever see those 2 pink lines so please have some hope. This could be the one you have been waiting for. Whether you are feeling positive or negative though it won’t affect the outcome so don’t feel bad about sending bad vibes to the embryo. Worry and feeling low will not make it fail. Do what you have to do to get through the 2ww but make sure no matter what you take care of yourself xx

[HPLondon in reply to Suzy86]

Thank you, congrats on your BFP - looks like it’s been long awaited too! Xx

[Hidden]

Hi, it was good your transfer went well. It's great you also have frozen embryos ! All looks positive! Third time lucky! I Sending you lots of luck!

[HPLondon in reply to Hidden]

Thank you 🤞 xx

[Hidden]

I think the progesterone makes you feel flat! I feel the same on it and after my last transfer I went to bed that night feeling angry at the world that I even had to go through all this. I went on to get a BFP (it went wrong later!) but there is every chance this could work! 4BB is great and your embryo has no idea about your negative vibes so don’t panic. Sending lots of luck x

[HPLondon in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, progesterone is horrible isn’t it! Sorry to hear about your BFP going wrong, sending luck your way too x

[Zebedee1971]

If it helps, I felt the same. For four days I was so sad, just crying in bursts. Was so negative about everything, convinced everything would fail. Then a few days later, I started to feel a bit more positive, went out and enjoyed myself. Was still a bit anxious at times but not as bad. It's ok to be down in the dumps for a bit - it's physically and mentally draining this IVF lark! Hope you start to feel a bit more positive soon, fingers crossed for you x

[HPLondon in reply to Zebedee1971]

Thank you, it’s so hard isn’t it. Just saw your posts, I hope you got some clarity and good news xx

[Zebedee1971 in reply to HPLondon]

Ahh we got a confirmed negative today. Literally lasted three days. Our embryos implant but don't stick around. Keeping positive though, I'm thinking three miscarriages now so the next one might have a chance right?!

[HPLondon in reply to Zebedee1971]

Oh I’m so sorry. The odds are in your favour for sure, I bet your clinic is looking into all the reasons why and giving you the best chance ahead of the next one. Take care of yourself, sending all the luck your way x

[Zebedee1971 in reply to HPLondon]

Same back

[Sarz86]

Hello, I too had two failed FET’s from our first ICSI cycle which ended in a freeze all due to risk of OHSS. Was heartbroken after both BFN’s, was going through an awful time with bereavement at the same time too so we had a few months break from treatment couldn’t face any more.

Cut a long story short in July this year we did our second fresh ICSI cycle and it was much more successful, i had my first fresh transfer and I am now 22 weeks pregnant and still pinching myself never expected it to work.

Just wanted to give you some hope, never give up I know it is the most difficult journey I felt the same as you.

Sending you all the luck in the world xxx💝

[HPLondon in reply to Sarz86]

Thank you so much for your message, this is so great to hear. Big congrats! X