Am I too old?

[Bluelady-sing]

43 this month

[Klndmr]

Nope! Never too old 💕💕💕💕🥰

[Debrakay1704]

I turned 45 in October and we have a 4 week old. Never to old. I was worried but now he is here I don’t give it another thought xx

[jannah in reply to Debrakay1704]

Well I got married it's been a year and 4 month no luck in having baby...I've turned50 was told I am ovaluting but they dont want to send me for further checks. I've no children. Any advise

[Debrakay1704 in reply to jannah]

Have you been trying naturally or are you having ivf?

[jannah in reply to Debrakay1704]

I was told naturally and I know that isnt possible. My gp is washing there hands off me.

If i new how to handle this than maybe i might get result. The feeling of been fail by them

[andromedae9]

I'm 44 and got a BFP last week. You're not old.

[AliceMoonpie in reply to andromedae9]

If it's not too personal, did you get that bfp with your own eggs?

[andromedae9 in reply to AliceMoonpie]

Hi Alice, not at all. We decided to use donor eggs to increase our chances.

[AliceMoonpie in reply to andromedae9]

Nice. Congratulations on the BFP. Xxx

[andromedae9 in reply to AliceMoonpie]

Thank you! Fingers crossed it will stay! xx

[jannah in reply to andromedae9]

It will stay positive xxx

[Cinderella5]

I wouldnt say that you're too old. Im 42 and still trying however we are using donor eggs to increase our chances are the chances of success in our 40's is small.xx

[80sDiva in reply to Cinderella5]

I am the same as you 💕xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Pumpkins. The oldest lady I have got at the moment is 46, so plenty of time yet, and all depends upon your hormones. Maybe have to move on to using donor eggs? Diane

[Bluelady-sing]

Whats bfp?

[AliceMoonpie in reply to Bluelady-sing]

"Big Fat Positive". No idea why it's big or fat, but positive pregnancy test result. I hated the term, but it's just easier than saying positive pregnancy test result. BFN is "Big fat negative", again referring to pregnancy tests. Get me with all the jargon!

[AliceMoonpie]

Honestly I think there is a too old. Like 60+ is definitely too old.

It's a subject quite close to my heart. My dad was nearly 41 when I was born (I'm the oldest of 6) and I spent my childhood being afraid he would die. He's now 84 and he's had some close calls and his memory is going now. He's a shadow of the man he once was, but I still love him.

I have no regrets about him having us at that age but I wish he was younger (he's 14 years older than my mum) and I always thought I'd never do that to my kids. But things don't always work out as you plan them.

We had our son when I was nearly 41 and my husband nearly 46. I hate it that my child will lose his parents relatively early in life. One of the reasons I really wanted a sibling for him was for when (not if) we die, then he will have someone else there for him. But at the same time that child will lose us at an even younger age. But maybe that's just the price of being a parent - you start obsessing about things that could endanger your child. A colleague told me he wakes up at night in a cold sweat worrying about a black hole engulfing his kids. Maybe my fears are in the same league.

Having said all that, if I could click my fingers and fall pregnant tomorrow (I've just turned 44) I would do it . I'd do it for me and for my son (my husband is kind of meh, whatever).

So I think you're young enough to have a child and to be able to look after it, but there are issues that come with having a child at our age (death and infirmity mainly). Having said that, my brother-in-laws mother died when he was 8, my aunt died when my cousins were teenagers, my dad was orphaned at 13. None of these parents were old. You can't predict with any certainty what will happen.

[Bluelady-sing]

True

I want two in case I did early

[Bluelady-sing]

I must have wasted my time I wish I had been told about being over 40

[emmab178]

Basically time is never on your side as a woman. If you want children then best to get on with it and think about using donor eggs to improve chances.

Get the tests done to see how your fertility is first though. Could be lucky but it's known egg quality drops with age.

[Hidden]

No, you are not. You can do it!!!

[Hidden]

Nope, I am 43 in March and about to embark on my 4th cycle. Have had some BFPs both naturally and via IVF but sadly MC them (3) - consultant doesnt think its age and apparently being pregnant in your 40s is now 'very much the norm' - good luck xx

[SissiAnn]

Nope, Never to old !!!! I turned 45 in October and Im 11 weeks pregnant now 🥰🙏🥰

[AliceMoonpie in reply to SissiAnn]

Personal question alert, please ignore if too personal: own eggs or donor eggs?

[LKT1]

Never too old to try but be wise to have a consultation at a fertility clinic as soon as you can x

[Libsie3103]

I’m 43 in March and about to start on round 3. A friend had twins with her own eggs at 47 last year and I’ve heard lots of other encouraging stories x

[AliceMoonpie in reply to Libsie3103]

Wow. That's very inspiring. Makes me very jealous (although I don't want twins).

A very blond, british girl I once met had been sent to school in India (her parents were budhists or something like that). She was very into the whole positive thinking business and she told me that her hair had used to be really thin, but she had looked herself in the mirror each day and said to herself "I have thick, luscious hair" and it became thst way. I mean it wasn't overly thick but it wasn't thin either.

Maybe that's what we should all be doing: saying "I have young, fertile eggs. I get pregnant easily." I might try it. Can't be any worse than a lot of other advice we're sold.

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Libsie3103]

Own eggs at 47! How!

[Bluelady-sing]

I will try, positive thinking! I am due yo have day 21 bloods again. None since July plus iron levels

[80sDiva]

No never too old I am 42 and still trying 💕xxx

[sadievalentie]

Hi Pumpkin! I hope you are doing well. No hon, it's never too late. I have seen people even trying after their 50s. You just need to be strong and patient, everything else will work out. If it doesn't work out for you naturally, you can always opt for alternatives. There are a lot of options on the table for you. Just visit a good fertility clinic and they will guide you on what's best for you. I have had my baby through surrogacy in my 30s, so age matters but not that much. It's not something that should stop you from ttc. I hope this helps you. Good luck. Stay blessed. Bye!

[jannah]

Hi thank you for such a lovely supportive words. I want to write to my go what can say. Trying to get they attention. At least I can get proper checks. I know you have to pay but the go would know any good fertility clinic than me. I have no idea where to start that why if they could direct me would be great.

You dont feel complete when you find someone to settle with than something else comes up.

We as women dont have long time when it comes to having kids but I wasnt going to have a kid with anyone that wasnt going to stay.

[LKT1 in reply to jannah]

Please don’t waste time on your gp due to your age they won’t really be able to help you (because of nhs rules of who gets help for fertility). This is the regulator/monitoring body who publish info on clinics success. You can find your local and best clinic on here. Good luck x

hfea.gov.uk/choose-a-clinic/

[Bluelady-sing]

Thanks guys

[Alyssa123]

Hey there! How are you? So you have asked something many people do. Age is big factor in this, but don't let it stop you from trying. If you are healthy and fit, age won't stop you from conceiving. But if you don't want to take the risk, then use donor eggs or go for any fertility treatment. There are a lot of things you can do to conceive. Just don't lose hope because of your age. Things will work out if you try. I hope things go well for you. Please keep us updated. Good luck. Take care. Bye!

[LorrieWalden]

Hey. Nope! You are not too old. People are doing it even after 50s and you are worried in your early 40s. Maybe it doesn't work for you naturally, but there are a lot of options you can choose from. You can go for IVF, IVF with donor eggs or even Surrogacy. But don't do just one thing and that is give up. It's a great thing that you are thinking about, do some research about clinics. Visit the best option for you, and get yourself tested. After that the doctors will guide you on what to do next. I hope this helps you. My prayers are with you hon. Good luck. Goodbye!