Another day, another announcement

[PinkFrank]

I saw my best friend last night for the first time in ages, when I offered her a glass of wine she got a big grin on her face and I just knew what was coming. Isn’t it the weirdest feeling of happiness and your heart plummeting into your shoes at the same time?

I’m over the moon for her but I also cried myself to sleep last night because it’s not us.

Of my 4 best friends, 1 has an 18month old, 1 has a 2 week old, one is due in November and now the last one is 6 weeks pregnant.

Sometimes it’s just too much isn’t it?

Sorry for the rambling post, there’s just nobody who can relate to how I feel in the real world x

[Picalilli99]

Oh it’s just the worst! I totally agree with what you have said and have had similar experiences this year with all of my closest friends. Genuine happiness for them, total sadness for us. You are not alone, ramble away anytime on here because it’s the one place everyone really understands. Sending love and hugs xxx

[PinkFrank in reply to Picalilli99]

Thank you so much xx

[aamiller405]

I know the exact feeling you mean.. As much as you are genuinely happy you can't help but hurt.. And that's OK.. Everyone here understands.. You're not alone xo

[PinkFrank in reply to aamiller405]

Thanks, this is exactly what I needed to hear x

[Bernie150781]

Totally understand this, I had a text message from a friend while I was in work, to let me know she was pregnant, I work in customer services, guest facing and I had to run off the desk and hide for half an hour or so until I could pull myself together, and at the same time so happy for her, don't feel bad for feeling that way, I think its quite normal for people in our situation but this is the best place to get it off your chest as we all understand x

[PinkFrank in reply to Bernie150781]

I managed to make it through the whole evening (with the help of a few cocktails) being happy and asking questions but when I got in to bed it just all came flooding out.

It’s so lovely to know I’m not alone in feeling like this x

[Zala88]

Hey. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt exactly the same and I am not sure if I am out of the woods yet.

But there are always other options. Never give up just realise what your dreams are and how you can make them happen in your own way. If getting that big grin means having a baby of your own then explore every single option going. IVF, surrogacy, tests, adoption, fostering. Your family will come

[Noah1981]

It’s heart wrenching and it’s horrible because it’s lot that we are not happy for them but sad for ourselves xxx

[Core]

I really feel for you, every time I see friends at the moment I’m nervous they are going to announce they’re pregnant and I’m scared about my reaction, here’s hoping it’ll be our time soon xx

[PinkFrank in reply to Core]

Thank you, I think I’ve used up all my happy faces for now so hopefully nobody else has anything they want to tell me! 😂

[Italy300618]

I really feel for you, it's the hardest thing. Does your best friend know your circumstances? I know it's hard for friends sometimes telling you if they know where you are. But of my 3 best friends, 1 got pregnant within a month of trying, has a 12 month old and is now pregnant again, second time of hearing the announcement I prepared myself, but I still cried when I got home. One has a 6 month old and the other is 4 weeks off her due date with an ivf baby. (Happened 1st time) Happiness you feel for them for sure but cant help wonder when and how it will be our time.

Sending you a big hug, and you arent alone xx

[PinkFrank in reply to Italy300618]

Yes she does, they’ve all been as sensitive as possible and tell me first separately from the rest of our friends which I appreciate, but it doesn’t make it any easier does it?

Thanks xx

[Italy300618 in reply to PinkFrank]

Arr, no it doesn't make it easier on you. I get 'I've got something to tell you but I'm really scared to tell you'

Well...I know what's coming 🙈

Look after yourself xx

[LizzieBW]

Hi,

I'm sorry things are feeling raw for you right now. I recently posted a similar post about pregnancy announcements and feeling overwhelmed by the mix of emotions. Totally agree with you, it's a rollercoaster feeling; so made up for someone close to you but having that gut wrenching, rocks in the pit of your stomach feeling.

We can all empathise with you here. One of the most comforting comments I received was "know that you are not alone in this feeling" so I wanted to pass on the warm sentiment. We're here to listen through the highs & lows xx

[Celloheggy]

Ah PinkFrank it’s just the worst feeling in the world. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve cried myself to sleep for the same reason. Hope you’re feeling stronger tonight, your time will come. Big hugs xx

[DiamondRuby128]

Had this announcement a few months ago from my best friend. She’s pregnant with her second. She knows what we’re going through so it took her ages to tell me.

You’re so happy for your friend but inside your heart is breaking...

[Rainbowhope]

I feel for you. I know how you feel. I hate myself for feeling like this but I always do when I hear an announcement. I dunno if it ever gets easier

[Coral86]

Oh bless u m friend told me the same over the wknd ur heart drops doesn’t it is so hard it’s so frustrating and unfair you feel like your the only person in the world who can’t xx

[LKT1]

I felt exactly this same. Happy for them but devastated it wasn’t me. Then also guilt for not being 100% happy! We don’t give ourselves a break. I was the first to start trying from my friend group and like you had to deal with several new baby announcements. However after our second round of ivf it was finally my turn to announce and I’m sure you will get yours to, sadly for us it just takes a bit longer. Best wishes and thinking of you Xxx

[Hidden]

No it's not weird it's normal as it shows you are interested and want the same things.

[Angelguide1982]

Bless you. I know how you feel happy for them but heart broken at the same time ❤send you big hugs