Hello all
I hope you are all doing okay wherever you are on the journey.
As others before me, I don’t want to upset anyone by posting this but I do want to bring some hope to anyone struggling and feeling like giving up.
A week ago today on the 11th February, our much fought for little rainbow, miracle girl arrived into the world. As I write this I still can’t believe she is here and I am holding her, I never believed it would happen even as I walked into theatre for the c-section. She is just the best, beautiful from head to every tiny toe.
Just to add one more battle to what has been 4 years of fertility struggles pain, loss- her birth turned into an emergency, I haemorrhaged whilst thankfully under GA, which probably saved my life and she wasn’t breathing when born and had to go to straight NICU. Safe to say waking up from GA with no baby in sight was another trauma but on a positive she was finally brought to me about 12 hours after she was born and she is every bit as beautiful and precious as I could have ever imagined. Myself and my partner finally got to leave hospital on Friday and take her home which is a day I thought would never ever come. She is a fighter and I am already the proudest mama.
To anyone struggling, I just wanted to say- I stand with you. I’m 44, and the egg that has given us our rainbow girl was collected a week before my 44th birthday last May. It was my 5th egg collection, 6th transfer, and turned into my 4th pregnancy in 3 years, all others ending in heartache. The 5th cycle I had told myself was the last and it really was the hardest, my belief was at all time low, I doubted things were going well at each stage of the cycle and my co-ordinator and my trauma counsellor dragged me through when I didn’t want to get on the plane to Cyprus for fear it was for nothing again.
My coordinator said we needed to find one golden egg and we did 💕 I reach out especially to those older ladies who live with the fear of running out of time, I’ve been there, I’ve felt it, I’ve cried a billion tears but I scraped and dug deep to try ‘one more time’ my heart wasn’t ready to give up. We’ve suffered financially, emotionally, I have PTSD from losing our son and all that we’ve been through but I wouldn’t change a thing to have finally got our little girl.
I remain part of this group and community and always will, my heart is with all ladies and partners here, we are all stronger than we know and everyone of us deserves our happy ending. Keep fighting, you will get there and we all have each other on the journey.
Thank you to anyone who has ever replied to any of my posts and given me support, you ladies have also help carry me through some dark times.
My journey is on my profile and posts and if I can ever help anyone please reach out.
love and hugs to everyone here.💕