After 6yrs of secondary infertility - of trying Ivf with own eggs, acupuncture, reflexology, Chinese herbs, fitness, eating clean and no plastics & chemicals in our lives - we turned to donor eggs at the age of 45yrs old. We went with one clinic in Greece but didn’t get any viable eggs to transfer as we did PGS testing- so after another year of specialist testing ( as advised) on my husbands sperm and all tests were clear- we changed clinics and got pregnant first time with donor eggs not using PGS testing this time.
My beautiful baby girl was born at 30weeks+6 days due to me having severe pre- eclampsia and being admitted to hospital 2 weeks before she was born on 26th June , she was 2lbs 11oz. She was in intensive care for a week and now moved to a local hospital and in special care were she just needs to put on weight! We still have a long way to go before we can bring her home - but my family is now complete and we are over the moon. I’m so happy to share more of my story if I can help anyone - if you want to be a mum your dream can come true like ours did. This forum has been a godsend so thank you all for your friendship and support over the many years. You women are so strong and can do this too! All the best. Xx
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Awww I'm absolutely delighted for you! I thought your post was early when I read. Hope you are doing ok & your beautiful tiny little girl gets big and strong very soon!!💞💞 Huge congratulations & all the best for the future now that your family is complete!xxx
Yeah 9 weeks early! She was determined to come into this world fighting! Thank you for your well wishes- you are one of strong women in this group who have supported me and many women for years- I really hope you get your dream baby soon. Any idea of timing yet for transfer? Xx
Aww thanks! Yes definitely a wee fighter that you have there....feisty female!!😂 Well now that Nicola Sturgeon has gotten her backside in gear an announced we can ho to Greece without quarantine today it's all go at our end. Hope to fly out end of July. Not getting my hopes up though, dont want to sound beaten but chances of this working are slim....just cant finish up without knowing for sure!xx
I totally get where you are coming from- I’ll pop by to see how you are getting on and keep my fingers and toes crossed for you guys. You so deserve this. Xx
Oh, the tiny little sweetheart. Hope things continue to go well and she fattens up nicely like a little piggie and you can get her home very soon. Congratulations xxx
This made me cry I’m so happy for you. Congratulations she is beautiful. I’m so so glad you kept going. I know it’s hard having a baby in special/intensive care but it won’t last. I did 12 weeks of it! She will fight! I love reading these posts it kept me going and I’m sure this will help others too. Take care xxx
Huge congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl ❤️
I gave birth to my son last year at 28 weeks. We were in NICU for a total of 9 weeks which was like a huge rollercoaster but happy to say he is doing amazingly and surprises me everyday by his shear determination and strength! These tiny humans who are so desperate to come into this mad crazy world maybe small but are so so mighty and strong.
I wish you all well and hope your able to bring your baby girl home soon 😘 xxx
Thank you - wow 9 weeks - it’s already been a 3 week rollercoaster being in hospital before she was born and then another one post birth- however feeling very positive now she just needs to fatten up! I’m so glad your son is well- they are determined little things - and at least I can enjoy my cuddles at the moment and rest up as much as I can before we bring her home. X
She will fatten up in no time ❤️ Enjoy those cuddles, Ollies 10 months, 7 corrected and has just learnt how to crawl and there’s no stopping him now so no cuddles for Mumma! 😕 Xxx
So sorry to hear about the pre-eclampsia but great news your gorgeous girl has been delivered safely!! I’m sure the hospital will do everything in their power to ensure she is monitored and gets bigger now!! (Our brilliant NHS!) Very emotional picture ....will pray she really gains weight now!! Xxx 🙏💕
Omg the nhs is totally amazing! I’d clap them every day - all the NICU and SCBU staff and pre natal and post natal nurses and dr’s were just amazing! I couldn’t fault them at all for the brilliant care we were both given. Thank you for your kind prayers! All the best to you on your journey too. X
Huge congratulations!! Welcome to the world beautiful little one! 😍 So glad that she arrived safely and hoping she now keeps on putting on weight nicely so that you can all be back home together very soon xxx
Ah thanks so much Piccalill, can’t wait til she is home and we can start being a proper family with my son too who is desperate to see her! Wishing you well too in your next steps! Xx
Hope and growth- I think through this I have come out a different person - someone who appreciates everything in life and one who never gives up! All the best to you. X
Thank you Camillage- you too were an inspirational warrior to me too! I remember messaging you when you were going for your successful transfer in spain- I think that your story gave me hope that even after failed donor transfers you could still get your dream! How are you and baby? Are you ready for #2 yet?? Xx
Well..... funnily enough at first we were talking with each other and saying "why on earth would anyone have more than one". Not that we don't want Angus. Just that it is so much work with one we had no idea how anyone would be able to have the tine to fit in doing everything that needs done for more than one. Skip forward a couple of months, Angus had started to sleep in more of a pattern and you get used to whatever the day brings. That coupled with the clinic asking us if we wanted to keep the additional embryos we have.... well the short answer is yes we would love a sibling for Angus.
I don't want / can't have the mission being all encompassing as I don't want it to be to the detriment of Angus. But we will give it a shot and see what happens.
As I had a c section I have to wait for 12 months. And of course at the moment I would not want to travel to Spain with Angus. So, hopefully we can try later in the year xx
Ah yes - I think having two close together in age can be very difficult for the first few years and then it gets easier as they play together etc- we didn’t have that worry as our son is 9 so once our baby comes home he has said he will help me and not play so many video games!! Ha ha let’s see!
Even though I wanted a second a long time ago- this age gap will help me and my son already adores his little sister it’s just so cute already!
All the best for you next transfer- and yes I don’t think it will be all encompassing as you will be too busy with Angus! Xxx
They certainly don’t- always caring so much - even sending photos and videos in the night and when I wasn’t feeling well and couldn’t go and visit her! Just so grateful to them all. X
Thank you - I don’t know if it’s the donor pregnancy was different or just each pregnancy is different! Also before I carried a boy and this time I carried a girl. In terms of the drugs etc it was very easy- I felt more tired and I think I put on more weight but I think it was also due to lockdown and being at home as I was furloughed - so my pace of life just got slower- maybe that we got the best in prep for what she was planning for me!
How old is your first child ? My son is 9 and is totally over the moon to be a big brother - it’s just so wonderful to see the love in his eyes for her already. bringing this baby into this world was for us as parents but for also my son whose longing for a sibling never went away - just like y longing for a second child never went away. Feel free to Pm if you want to chat. Xx
Ah thank you for your kind words but there are a lot of strong and amazing women on this forum - yes thanking god everyday even though I’m not religious! Xx
Massive congratulations to you. So happy to hear your little girl is doing well too.
We had a little boy using donor eggs 12 weeks ago & are delighted with him. I had some issues with blood pressure and got readmitted to hospital just under a week after his birth, but it must have been very frightening for your little one to be born 9 weeks early, so glad it's all working out, hope you have her home with you soon.
Still on BP medication! Final stages now hopefully of it bring reduced, but will have been on it over 3 months before I come off it! Still it's absolutely worth it.
Stay strong, it really can't be easy to have your daughter in hospital, especially at the moment. Wishing you all the very best xx
Hi donor embryos I had 4 put 2 in December got pregnant, then after at 6 weeks my level was dropped , so stopped drugs miscarriaged , then had 1 put back in end of March same again. So got one left and just think there’s no point, 😘😘
The previous goes before that was mine I had a 14 year gap and tried with donor this time but same thing again and just don’t think I have the strength again to go
If you do want to try again I would totally recommend my clinic in Greece - they really vet their donors and only let them donate twice so they know the eggs are of good quality. Pm me if you want more info. Take time out to think about it and decide what you want to do. X
Thanks I will do heads a bit all over the place at the minute, one day I want to and the next I think I can’t do it again, it rips a little bit of you each time 😘😘😘
Congratulations! That is really good news..if it's of any help, I was born at 26 weeks 31 years ago and was intensive care after I was born and I made it! These days, the care and treatment has come such a long way, I'm sure your little girl is going to be absolutely fine and you will be able to take her home soon
It is good to hear stories such as these
as it gives hope! I'm at the very beginning of this whole journey, been TTC for the last 18months/2 years and nothing. I'm fit, healthy, eat well and hormone levels all normal and ovulating but ive just found out that one tube is totally scarred and the other the dye went through but there was no spillage
Haven't spoken with my consultant yet on what she believes the next steps are but as you can imagine my head is going wild! I also have low egg reserve. 9.
I'm looking into taking supplements but not sure what extra I should be taking! I've been on pregnacare for the last 6 months but am thinking of taking Royal Jelly, maca root and Coq10 as additional supplements but not sure if this is too much??!!???
Did you take anything like this to help you along the way?
I also think my main help that I need is to just calm my mind and take each step as it comes, each moment as it comes, but it is extremely difficult.
My husband is very supportive but I just think we are coping very differently. He is very pragmatic and we just need to follow the advice, which of course, I know that is true but it's difficult to follow.
I Don't know if anybody elses husbands are like this...but he is very hard on me in the sense he doesn't want me to get upset and bring myself down as it's not good for me, not healthy..he is in a way happy they have found the problem and we r not going mad and we can work on it. I agree with all of this, but its still hard emotionally as I feel one day I'm really good, the next day I'm upset about it all...its just so difficult.
Be good to hear peoples thoughts on this???
I've also come across this company called Felopio? About tampons they can help reduce scarring and reopen tubes...genuinely dont know if this is a scam or its real!!!?? Thoughts on this will also be appreciated from anybody...
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