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Worst fears confirmed - missed miscarriage 😓

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I’ve been too scared to share an update on this, but we got our long awaited bfp after our first round with the Greek clinic - own egg and own sperm. It was like a dream come true, I couldn’t believe it. Our first scan two weeks ago showed a heartbeat and growth appropriate for gestational age, but we booked in for a re-scan today. I couldn’t quite believe that things could really have worked for us after so much bad luck and despite all the reassurances of friends and family, I was extremely anxious. Perhaps I knew it instinctively, but today we saw our little bean hadn’t grown at all in two weeks and there was no longer a heartbeat. I am devastated beyond words and terrified of what’s to come. This won’t be easy, and I know it’ll be traumatic and extremely painful. The worst thing is the hospital won’t accept the first scan as it was private so I’ve been left to my own devices and have to go back in a week for re-scan to check on growth rather than being treated now, which is ludicrous. Still feel so numb 😓

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Lorry1984

Im so so sorry to read this. I've no words that'll make you feel better but wanted to send you some support and love. xx

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Dreamingofbaby

Hey so so sorry to hear this. So devastating for u 😢

Huge hugs for u xxx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply toDreamingofbaby

Thank you 🙏 wishing you all the best with your round🤞🤞

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chickp

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s completely devastating. I hope you can get some resolution from the hospital soon xxx

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Shirazlover2013

Awful news, so sorry for you that you have to go through this. I hope the NHS hospital service can get you in to be seen sharpish so the pain isn’t drawn out unnecessarily. Look after yourself as best you can xx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply toShirazlover2013

Thank you. They’ve given me open access so if I start bleeding I may just head down there as I think I will need help with the pain.

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Missy_22

I’m so so sorry. Painful reading this. My heart breaks for you. Please take care xxx

So sorry to read this, thinking of you xx

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Kyell2

This is awful news. I’m so so sorry to read this. Look after yourself xx

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Lots8788

So so sorry to read this x lots of love to you x

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WaywardGirl

I’m so sorry. I went through the same thing almost exactly a year ago, and it was devastating. Look after yourself x

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Scarlett13

How devastating and cruel and unfair. I’m really so sorry xxx

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Hope76

My heart goes out to you it really does. Surely doesn’t matter regarding scans what matters is they treat you ASAP. When this happened to me it was the next day I went in for medical management as I couldn’t cope with the trauma of going though it on my own. I would ask for someone in authority sorry you don’t need that added stress.

Thinking of you at this difficult time, like you I have a son first go IVF been to hell and back last 2 years trying for a sibling it is the worst thing ever gone through x

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hoping-for-the-best in reply toHope76

Thank you. Sorry to hear you went through this as well. I’ve started cramping more now so will see how it goes as it may happen naturally now I’ve stopped all my meds anyway. This is horrendous, you’re right about that - a living nightmare x

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Hi sorry to hear your bad news if the pains gets too bad do ring your gp and ask for codeine got me through it.

Sending hugs x

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Thanks for the tip, I think I will go to the GP tomorrow x

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aamiller405

So sorry.. Sending you love xo

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Dolly8

Oh I’m soooo sorry. I can’t imagine what you must feel, sending hugs 🤗 to you xxxxxxxxx

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