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Unfortunately baby has passed away within the past 24 hours. Not really sure what to do right now or how to handle this situation, whether to let myself go into "labour" naturally or use tablets to help things along. Thanks ladies for always being supportive, were just a little broken right now from the loss of our precious son. ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”

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Babyjoshua

So sorry to hear dat but I pray that God gives u peace and strengthen in this time. Sending you lots of warm hugs.

I literally have no words I am incredibly sorry for your loss I cannot imagine what you must be going through. Thinking of you during this awful time & hope you have lots of support around you xxx

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Klndmr

Omg I'm so so sorry hun... I don't really know what to say and whatever I say won't help you.... I will be thinking of you and I'm Sending you all my strength and love to help you in this difficult moment.. Lots of love ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

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Dreamingofbaby

So so sorry Hun. That devastating for u. We all here for u. Big hugs xxx

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Solly-44

Iโ€™m so so sorry. This is just heartbreaking xx

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Kempton

I'm so sorry to read this. I hope you have lots of support around you. Sending you a big hug. X

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Cinderella5

Oh my goodness I have no words in this lifetime that can make any difference.....I'm so so very sorry! Let the Drs/Midwives guide you on this, they will hopefully help you on what path to take. I'm absolutely heartbroken for you guys, sending lots & lots of love....!!๐Ÿ’”xxxxxx

I am so, so sorry. There are no words.

The pain must be indescribable, but you are so strong, to have gone through all that you have.

Sending love and strength โค๏ธ

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slupton

Sweetheart I'm so sorry. Thinking of you at this difficult time. Sending you so much love โคโคโค

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Kitty230515

Iโ€™m so so sorry! Sending lots of love x

I'm so sorry to hear that! :(

I only can imagine what you're feeling now. I'm sending you all my strength and love to help you in this difficult moment. Big Hug ๐Ÿ’—

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kt_11

So sorry to hear this. Youโ€™ve been through so much and I canโ€™t possibly imagine how youโ€™re feeling right now. Thinking of you xxx

Broken hearted for you, I am so

So sorry xx

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Tugsgirl

Iโ€™m so so sorry xx

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wildchild1989

I am so so sorry to hear this I honestly don't know what to say :-( x

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Lots8788

Oh so so sorry to hear that x thinking of you and big hugs x x

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Lou7744

Iโ€™m so so sorry to read this. Iโ€™m heartbroken for you both. Sending you big hugs ๐Ÿ’• xx

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Bozo_the_pumpkin

So very sorry for your loss. Strength to you during this very dark time

Iโ€™m so sorry.

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Sunshineraye

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear thiS ๐Ÿ’” thought are with u. Take care of yourself through this tough time xx

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Crista240411

Really sorry for what you are going through now.

Its the worst feeling ever.

From my experience, I was told that if I opted for things to develop naturally, then I could go for another cycle on my 2nd bleeding. If I opted for tablets or had to things surgically, more time would be needed for my body to recover

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bms12โ€ข in reply toCrista240411

Weve opted to take the tablet to speed things up as I need some sort of timescale. Go back on Monday for the pessaries if its needed. We wouldnt be mentally prepared enough to start again in a couple months anywa, thinking of maybe taking 12 months out for our sanity as we also had a misscarraige last year. But thank you x

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Sexy376

I really donโ€™t know what to say Iโ€™m so so sorry this is such a cruel world xx

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Gueritarubia

Iโ€™m sitting here crying for you. This is so tremendously sad and unfair! My heart is breaking for you, wished I could give you a big big hug but I guess a virtual one is all I can do. Sending you both strength to get through this. Iโ€™m so sorry...

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lmno

Iโ€™m so so sorry for your loss xx

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chickp

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this. I canโ€™t begin to imagine how you are feeling but know that we are all here to support you xxx

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Emma04

Iโ€™m so so sorry. This is just heartbreaking.

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Missy_22

Heartbreaking Iโ€™m so sorry. I have been there as well. Take care of yourself and get lots of support x

So so sorry to hear this, heartbroken for you. Sending you lots of love x

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Kiedy84

I am so terribly sorry. Life is so cruel. I am devastated to read this.

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Star9

I am so so sorry it is utterly heartbreaking, sending you lots of love xx

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Hope85

So sorry to hear this xx

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ChloeL934

So sorry. X

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Kitcat12

I don't know what to say. Total loss for words. I am so so sorry x

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so sorry. No words but sending you big hugs xxx

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Bluelady-sing

Sorry to hear.

Please call the hospital in Case you need a D&C

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bms12โ€ข in reply toBluelady-sing

The hospital are of course already aware of what is going on and ste prepared for my arrival at anytime with a room already booked and closed off for us. A D&C would be s last resort.

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Bluelady-singโ€ข in reply toBluelady-sing

Ok. I just do not want you to have to go through complications

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bms12โ€ข in reply toBluelady-sing

Of course the hospital would be aware already though? As they have to confirm it.

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crisps88

Omg I am so sorry for you. I really am. So heart breaking for you. Absolutely devastating news I am praying for you tonightzxxx

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destiny121

This has brought tears to my eyes... so so sorry to read this and I cannot imagine what youโ€™re going through right now... be good to yourself xx

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Mifkipi

Can't read this and not reply... I'm really really sorry. thoughts are with you x

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Hopefulholly

Iโ€™m so so so so sorry for your loss ! This is so heartbreaking. xXx

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Joy83

Iโ€™m so sorry. Iโ€™m thinking of you at this difficult time. Big hugs. X

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Apple87

Thinking of you xx

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precioce

So very sorry to read this. You are in my thoughts.xxx

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Prettypender18

Praying for u ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™ Iโ€™m so sorry for ur loss

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Noah1981

So sorry for your loss I donโ€™t know what to say only that your in my prayers xxxx

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Georgie17

So sorry this has happened to you. No words can make this time better but just wanted to say I hope you both manage to get through this and I'm so sorry for your loss xx

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MontsJ

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Sending you all the strength you need for the hard times ahead. You are not alone with this pain, weโ€™re all here to lighten your load. Big hug x

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Noobs

Heartbreaking. So sorry to hear this.xx

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CLDxxx

So sorry ๐Ÿ˜” thinking of you. Take care of yourself โค๏ธ

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GELL18

Iam terribly sorry to hear that... may you both have grace to go walk through this trying time...

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MrsR1988

So sorry to hear this โค๏ธ

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Skippy1982

Soo so sad to hear this๐Ÿ˜ข. Canโ€™t even begin to imagine the pain you & your partner must be going through. Sending lots of love ๐Ÿ’—โค๏ธโค๏ธ

I'm sorry to hear that's happened and it's all so unfair isn't it the way those who don't deserve things get them yet the deserving lose out!

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mimisquiz77

Hi, I am very sorry to hear about your loss.its awful. I am speechless but thinking of you during this sad and difficult time. I hope you are surrounded with people and friends. Take care xx

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WannaBMum

I am so sorry for your loss hun. There are no words that are going to comfort you during this devastating time but I will be thinking of you and sending all my love ๐Ÿ’–

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Gem2410

I am so so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xx

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sarahJE

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this, how utterly devastating for you. Sending lots of love and strength x x x x

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Lowamh

Heartbreaking, Iโ€™m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you xxx

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kitscat

I am so so sorry. What an awful thing to happen. Stay strong. Xxxxxxx

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IVFGirlLondon

Iโ€™m so sorry. Sending you so much strength and love. Youโ€™ll find a way through but itโ€™s an absolutely appalling situation for you right now. Sending so much love x

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Violet5451

I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and sending you so much love xxx

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Shelleybean

My heart is breaking for you right now ๐Ÿ’” Sending you masses of love and strength to get through this dark time xx

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Lynnr54

Oh no, Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. Do what feels right to you. Ask the medical professionals what the risks of each option are and then weigh up the answer. Sending you lots of hugs x

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LHow81

Iโ€™m so sorry your loss. Xx

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Drives

Don't really know what to say... I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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Jaygee

So sorry for your loss. What a terribly cruel journey for you. I hope you find some peace in the future xx

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Alexa3

I am so so sorry...there are no words. No one should ever have to go through this. Sending you strength, love and light โค๏ธ

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Scarlett13

This is so cruel and unfair. Iโ€™m sorry. We are all behind you xxx

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Squeak2

So very sorry for your loss ๐Ÿ’• massive hugs xx

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Core

So so sorry to hear this canโ€™t even begin to imagine how devastated you must be xx

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aamiller405

Oh no so truly sorry for your loss.. Sending love xo

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Lind16

I am so sorry to hear what has happened. My heart goes out to you, make sure you take your time and do what is right for you xx

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Elynn

I am so sad for you. You are in my prayers. ๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒป

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Katgr

So sorry to hear that.. I lost my two ivf babies 1.5 year ago at 19+3 weeks. I went into labour naturally. It was a horrible horrible experience. Leaving the hospital with just my belongings, no babies, the funeral afterwards.. I don't wish this to happen to my worst enemy as the saying goes.

The specialist bereavement midwife will help and counselling will also be offered. Reach out to Sands, a stillbirth and neonatal death charity. Google for your local one. I found them very helpful and didn't feel that I was the only one this happened to.

No words will make it easier. I'm sending you a big hug.

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bms12โ€ข in reply toKatgr

Thank you lovely and I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I went in to labour this morning and delivered our perfect boy at 10.37am and spent all day with him. The bereavement midwife was wonderful! Shes made casting of his hands and feet which she is going to paint for us and we can collect later this week, she took plenty of photos, hand and foot prints etc. She really was a wonderful women and such a necessary job role that unfortunately probably isnt recognised enough except for those if us who have to experience these awful events first had

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bms12

Baby Benjamin Christopher was born at 10.37am after a short 6 hour labour. Born within his waters and was absolutely perfect, the bereavement midwife was amazing, after my panic and genuinely thinking I was dying from the pain, plenty of kept sakes that we will forever cherish. Thank you for all your love and support, were just trying to figure our how life will move forward now. Lots of love xxxx

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Bistbee

Iโ€™m so so sorry for your loss, this is just heartbreaking to read and I canโ€™t imagine how devastated you are. Iโ€™m so glad you had the right support at the time and Iโ€™m sure, in time, the momentos will be such treasured memories of your special little boy. I hope you have the best support network to hold you both up and allow you all the time and space you need to grieve and process this. Sending lots of love and hugs x

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Violet5451

I am so glad that you had this lovely lady to help you through this. It is so heartbreaking to read and I can not put into words how sorry I am. I am sure baby Benjamin was perfect and I hope you can treasure the day you had with him. Again I am so so sorry for your loss.

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Fingerscrossed38

I'm so heartbroken for you. I'm glad the bereavement midwife was able to offer some support in this tragic time. We're here if you need to chat ๐Ÿ’”

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Sarahlou01

So very sorry for your loss. Sending love x

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savido1

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. Sending you heaps of strength and love hun. โค๏ธ

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Debrakay1704

I too do not want to say but my thoughts and prayers are with you. xxxxxxxx Please take care. xxxx

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_MrsC

Iโ€™m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. xxx

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Militarywife7

I'm so sorry to read this, I cant even imagine what you're going through. Please take good care of yourself xxx

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Hope76

Oh my goodness in tears reading this, so very sorry you will be devastated. Thinking of you and your partner at this very sad time x

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Mary80

My dear God....SMH may God give you and your family the strenght to bear this sad news. My prayers to your family. Warmest hugs

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Shirazlover2013

Iโ€™m so incredibly sorry to hear about your baby loss, just not fair after all youโ€™ve been through. I canโ€™t even imagine the pain youโ€™re feeling right now. I hope the medical staff can help guide you through this terrible time. Xx

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Rowly88

I'm so sorry, thinking of you both and sending you lots of love xxxx

Iโ€™m so very sorry for your loss. This journey can be so cruel. Glad to hear you had the support of a lovely person to help you through a very difficult time, hopefully in time you will be able to look back and treasure the short time you had with Benjamin. Take care of yourself xxx

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ChristineB05

I'm so so sorry lovely, this is so heartbreaking. I have no words. I am thinking of you and praying for you. Take care of each other ๐Ÿ’”

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strong-girl

I donโ€™t think anything can be said to make u feel better but take care of urself and remember u r strong the time will come when u will hold that little baby in ur arms and thou u will not forget the past the pain will not be the same sending u lots of love x

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