Closing a chapter

So after 12 years 2 IUI's, 2 failed IVF's and 3 transfers via DE I completed my family earlier this year. I have 2 beautiful boys oldest is 6.5 and youngest now 9 months. I have been part of numerous forums for advice and support. Fertility and IVF is such a rollercoaster of emotions. There are days when you feel you have a grip of it and have a plan and then there are days when it feels it has a grip of you and you cant face the pregnancy announcements, baby showers and family parties etc. Been there and felt it all. One thing that I didn't do through my whole IVF journey was any counselling but its something I have done post-pregnancy (due to traumatic birth - but that's another story!) During my sessions (which have been brilliant I must say for someone who just didn't like the sound of therapy) I have come to the point of needing closer on my IVF journey and while I have regularly read posts from others and offered advice as a way of moving forward I have decided to come off the forums I'm part of. I have enjoyed following the stories of ladies as they have got their BFP and made baby announcements and have also empathised for those when the news was not what they hoped for. There's no real point to this post apart from my own closure but just wanted to say wherever you are on your journey stay strong - when you think you can't put yourself through any more take time out. You can and you will make it through and find your peace whatever that may be. I very much hope you all get your BFP xxx

[CLou21]

How lovely, good luck to you in the future. I had my first egg retrieval today so only the start for us really 💗✨

[Hidden in reply to CLou21]

Good luck with your transfer. Fingers crossed for you x

[destiny121]

Ahhh bless you and I think this is a lovely post. You have achieved what you put your heart and soul into and now it’s time to just continue with your family. I will do the same when I try for no2 as my lil

One is only 5 months and I hope to give him a sibling and I hope and pray in the near future I can say the same as you.... 😘xx

[Hidden]

Nice to hear everything worked out well for you after all that.

The thing with announcements of bfps and baby showers is that of course you are glad for them and wouldn't wish them harm but you feel sad for you thinking why not me?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Exactly my two nieces were born during my treatment. I was nothing but delighted on their arrival but sad thinking why not me? X

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I felt like that when people were getting married and I wasn't. I explained that yes I was glad for them and wouldn't wish them ill but I was sad about my own situation and most people were very kind when I explained and said how I felt like that as I had only wanted those things for myself.

Next February I will be getting those things for myself but its normal to feel jealous when others get things and you don't that you want for yourself as if you weren't interested you wouldn't feel like that as its telling you that you want that for you.

[Hope4usall]

Amazing you have your family! Best of luck for the future xx

[SVAK]

Such a lovely post, good luck for the future x

[Kat_15]

Hello. 👋What a lovely message. It’s wonderful to read your story had a happy ending. Wishing you many years of happiness with your beautiful boys. Sending big hugs. xxx 🤗

[Franco81]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey.

I’m sure infertility is something we’ll all bare the scars of but it absolutely mustn’t stop you enjoying what you worked so long and hard for. It’s nice that you have continued to support others but you have to move on and enjoy the family you created.

Wishing you so much love and happiness for the future with your lovely family xx

[crisps88]

Good luck lovely. This such a nice post, glad to hear your fantastic ending of two boys beautiful story. Xx

[Melodys99]

So lovely, I will absolutely never give up on having my one baby Xx

[Hidden in reply to Melodys99]

Definitely don't give up. After a bad day a good day will come and you keep going ❤️❤️❤️ and it will all be worth it in the end. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey x X x

[Shelleybean]

It’s lovely to hear your beautiful story. Now go and enjoy your happy ending 😊 xx

[Cinderella5]

Wishing you all the best!xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

Same back to you. I really really hope it works out for you x x

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! Really appreciate it!xx