Cancelled Month

[Vegemite]

I started the Estradiol last week and getting ready for transfer next week.

I’ve been questioning the process for quite a while. I don’t need estradiol or the pessaries so why were they forcing this process on me.

I finally snapped and demanded a meeting. I was quite strong from the beginning I didn’t want to do this... I wanted a natural cycle... repeatedly it was never offered. I am private, and just wanted to be treated as a person and heard as a person. I get the feeling no one ever questions the process, as I was made to feel like a crazy woman. They made me feel like if I can’t handle the hormones now, I won’t handle pregnancy. Noooooo! As a pregnancy I want, the extra hardship I do not! They also claimed all the extra hardships didn’t come with side effects which everyone knows is total BS.

This is my body, and being made to feel like I can’t stand up for my body. I’ve cancelled the transfer, and now they have to do an investigation...

Has anyone ever stood up for what they want to try and not try and got the ‘your just crazy’ talk! I’m now in tears... I’ve let everyone down, and I’m not allowed a say in what happens to my body!

[Hidden]

My clinic only do long down regulated FETs they will do natural at a push but really don’t like to because they have no control over timings. They advised the success rates were about 30% lower for natural than medicated. I was adamant I didn’t want to down regulate again this time and amazingly they agreed to a short medicated cycle which is exactly what I wanted to do. I felt so run down from the buserelin last time that I didn’t feel like I was in a healthy place to become pregnant and the cycle was just so ridiculously long!! I don’t have a success story to tell from it but I definitely feel better for it so I feel like so far it’s been the right decision. It’s your body, and I feel like the options should be offered with all the information so you can make an informed choice. Good luck I hope they listen to you so you can move forward xx

[Vegemite in reply to Hidden]

Thankuuuuuu so much. I’m not crazy! I understand the rates and statistics. I’ve done 6 months of Clomid with and egg collection and now this. I just don’t want anymore!

[Kyell2]

I do agree that they do seem to like the control that a medicated transfer gives them.

I was always told that I would be having a FET but the most recent letter from the clinic is that they want a medicated one with HRT. They are saying my longer period cycle is the reason. I’m not so sure so I want them to explain the reasoning when I go in for the consent.

You need to be your own advocate in the Infertility game. I hope that they listen to you and come back to you with a new plan x

[Vegemite in reply to Kyell2]

May I ask how long is your cycle?

[Kyell2 in reply to Vegemite]

When it’s not under any pressure it’s 30 days normally. As soon as it’s needed for any fertility process it refuses to co-operate, when I was prepping for IUI it was 22 days late!!!

Apparently it doesn’t react well to pressure 😂

[Vegemite in reply to Kyell2]

Wow...

I used to be like clockwork. Ever since TCC it’s been crazy... so much pressure