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I'm 8w4d, past few days symptoms have really decreased. Had 3 scans so far with the last on on Thursday and all was well and have another this Thursday at 8w6d. However it's just so hard to believe and trust that everything will be fine. This is exhausting 😴😴

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MissSaoPaulo

These early weeks are nerve wracking. Everything's probably fine but it's hard to relax, especially when we've had a long journey to get here. Hope Thursday is all good news for you and you can settle in and start enjoying it xxx

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bms12 in reply to MissSaoPaulo

Thank you, I think I may feel better after 12 weeks Haha. Or when I start feeling movements haha. It's my first midwife appointment tomorrow aswell x

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MissSaoPaulo in reply to bms12

Nah, when you start feeling movements and you're having a busy day and can't concentrate on them you keep having panic attacks trying to remember when the last time you felt something was!!! I think this is it from here on until they're born - and then it's a whole new round of anxiety until... well, forever I guess. Sorry to break it to you!!!! But again, hope everything is fine on Thurs xxx

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Debrakay1704

It is really hard to relax, I was so nervous up until the 12 week scan and then relaxed a bit more now I have my 20 week scan coming up and the nerves are building again. On the dot week 8 all my symptoms went and I found this really hard, I had to wait until the 12 week scan (I did think about having private scans) but for me personally knew they would be never ending so bit the bullet and said just wait, this of course is not for everyone and by no means easy, take care. xxxxx (totally get your exhaustion, it never goes away)

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Kiedy84

Hi hun, this waiting is so hard, I also struggle a lot with this🙈 I had my 6 week scan last Thursday and will have one this week and I feel like this week been more like a month! Awful. I am trying to stay positive but my anxiety is creeping in from so many angles. I had to activate all my strategies 😅

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bms12 in reply to Kiedy84

It's awful isnt it! I just want to get to January now Haha. I dont think I'll relax until they're about 1 though 🤪😂. Thry just seem so close yet so far! Good luck for your scan only 2 weeks between us. I'll be 9 weeks on Friday x

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Noah1981

I felt like this on my first pregnancy I was quite early on when I found out and I was scanned at 9wks5days and still after coming from the sonographer and seeing my little Noah I still didn’t actually quite believe it had happened for me .As soon as 12 was cane I remember I managed to settle down with nerves and anxiety of what if something goes wrong and thankfully I sailed through it and now Noah is 6 happy and health and I’m sure your little bundle of joy will be too .Try to relax and not over analyse things cause your body and baby picks up on all mummies vibes 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Good luck and ENJOY XX

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Bexta6060

Im just a week behind you with my next scan next Mon, even though the 6 week one was perfect i cant help but get more and more anxious. I still cant shake the feeling that it will all end in a missed miscarriage. I do remember with my first baby that as soon as movements started at 16 weeks and I had a proper bump I could see I did calm down a lot. Hurry up 16 weeks!

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Lynnr54

I agree with the others about it being hard to relax when you’ve been through so much already to get where you are. I found it easier after my 12 week scan. Symptoms do come and go though in some pregnancies (for me they did in my first but not my second) so try and take some comfort in knowing it’s normal (easier said than done I know!) x

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bms12 in reply to Lynnr54

Yeah symptoms are back this morning which is a bit of a relief Haha. Just eager for my scan tomorrow as it means were one step closer to 12 weeks. I have my first midwife appointment today which makes it feel more real x

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mimisquiz77

Hi, unfortunately, I know exactly what you mean. As I was in your position a few months ago. I am now 31 weeks pregnant. Things get better. Especially after your 12 weeks scan and when you can start feeling your baby move. Personally I did mindfulness to help me to cope and talked a lot to my husband and friends about my fears. This helped me a lot. I wish you all the best. Take care xx

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bms12 in reply to mimisquiz77

Thank you and congratulations. Fortunately/unfortunately the nausea is back with a vengeance today so makes me feel a little better about they're progress Haha

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mimisquiz77 in reply to bms12

Good you will see, the symptoms come and go. I have been told by the nurse that it is normal. It’s down to the surge of hormones. Good luck with the nausea xx

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