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After ET yesterday, just found out my remaining 4 embryos can't be frozen, devastated

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I am truly grateful to have one embryo on board and I am going to remain hopeful, but I am so shocked and saddened to find out that the other 4 haven't made it to a good enough quality to be frozen. It was looking so positive for a first round - 12 eggs, 8 fertilised, 5 still going on day 5, one lovely one transferred, was on a high, now to know all 4 have much pressure now riding on this only one. The 2 week wait now feels scary and the pregnancy test will be so hard to do. I know the chances of it working first time are small but I also know I need to still keep positive. Please send us good vibes xxx

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aww you must feel such a mixture of emotions. Sending you lots of luck with this embryo xx

Thank you - it's a weird day xxx

We had three at day 5, one high quality transferred (zippy) one medium quality that was frozen on ET day (George) and was told the last one would be given a day to catch up. Unfortunately bungle didn’t make it. Took me a while to get my head round it as it felt like it was a lost chance. But the process is there to get the highest quality embryo back on board and that’s what you’ve got. The process makes us obsess about quantity but it’s quality over quantity.

My clinic said Only 1 out of 7 couples have the chance to freeze embryos so the odds are stacked against it.

Good luck with the 2ww x

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Scarlett13 in reply to emmab178

Oh wow I didn't know the numbers for freezing were so low! So where are you now with zippy and George? Xx

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emmab178 in reply to Scarlett13

35 weeks with zippy and wave at George when we drive past the clinic

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Scarlett13 in reply to emmab178

No way! Amazing!! I hope you've bought a zippy toy ready for the big arrival and congratulations and I love that you wave at George xxxx

Try to stay positive, it does work first time for many of us, it’s out of your control now so try to relax and plan some fun things to do over the next few weeks. You’ve already done all the hard work x

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Scarlett13 in reply to Se99

Thanks again xxx yes lots of nice things planned for the 2ww xxx

Good luck hun. I know it must be hard to come to terms with about the 4 that didn't make it. There is positive stories of it working first time. There is a lady on here she joined same time I did and we both had the same problems. She went straight for ivf I decided to try naturally she's called Tw1986 hers worked first time hun. If you look at her previous posts you will see. Just a positive story I'd thought I'd send. Hope this is your time hun. Good luck were all here in the dreaded tww lots of love 💗🤗😘

Thanks so much for your positivity and for the story. So how many transfers and rounds have you had? How far into the 2ww are you? All the best xxx

I haven't had any hun. I meant were all here for you in the 2ww I managed to do it naturally I'm currently 4 wk 5 days pregnant 💗🤗😘

We only got two eggs on our first round, both were growing great on day 3 so kept going to day 5. 1 was fine for ET (didn't ask the quality) the other stopped growing so no Frosties. I am now 12+1 waiting nervously for my dating scan on Tuesday. The 7+6 scan seems so long ago!!

Fingers crossed for you and sending lots of baby dust x

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Scarlett13 in reply to PipsM

Oh my goodness what an incredible story - only one transferred, none to freeze, and you've got to 12 weeks. That makes me well up, I'm so happy for you, how wonderful!!! I wish you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy and thank you so much for sharing - that's lovely xxx

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PipsM in reply to Scarlett13

Thank you- hopefully you will be in the same place soon. I was gutted we only got one but now am just pleased with my morning (well evening!) sickness.

Good luck xx

None of our remaining embryos were suitable for freezing I remember feeling devastated when I got the call from the embryologist but after a day of feeling sorry for myself I decided it was best to focus on what I have got rather than what I haven't. Up to now our one embryo hasn't let us down and we got a BFP and we have our 7 week scan tomorrow. It's still early days but just staying positive now that everything will work out OK and I'm sure it will for you too sweet xxxx wishing you lots of luck xxx

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Scarlett13 in reply to Shanks_21

Oh my goodness!!!! That's such a wonderful story, amazing, I'm so chuffed for you and thanks for sharing with me - I can't imagine how you must be feeling about the scan - all the luck in the world for tomorrow and please update us all xxx

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Shanks_21 in reply to Scarlett13

Thank you lovely I will do xxxx

Sorry to hear about your other embies. Everything crossed that your little one sticks xx

Thank you so much xxx

It's easier said than done but please try not to stress and do everything possible to stay happy and to help make this work. Drink loads of pomegranate juice, eat pineapple core, have loads of greens... I did all this during the 2ww..

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Scarlett13 in reply to Rubinaa

I've got pomegranate juice, fresh pineapples, and spinach - got to do my best now for the dot on board. I hope you are doing ok xxx

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Scarlett13 in reply to Rubinaa

Oh I see that you're pregnant, huge congrats xxx not long til the scan?

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Rubinaa in reply to Scarlett13

Yes with twins... so very exciting.

So cut out 4 pieces of the pineapple core and have one daily and you must stop the day you get a BFP... 🤞

Plus whatever you drink please make sure it's 100% pure only.

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Scarlett13 in reply to Rubinaa

Wow twinnies!!!!! Super exciting!!!! Xxx thanks for your tips xxx

It's going to do just great Scarlett13 - everything crossed for you. My last cycle buddy got PG on her first round with a D5 blast, so I'm sure you will get your bfp! Try not to think about it too much hun and 'enjoy' being PUPO for now!! xx

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Scarlett13 in reply to Loopielu

Thanks loopielu and I've got everything crossed for you xxxxx

Hi scarlet

I know your feeling Ive been there but don't worry it will all be good . U still can produce eggs that's a good big positive sign . Just think now about your embie and the rest will leave it to the future . Good luck again and don't worry

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Scarlett13 in reply to LadyMM

Thank you, it's nice to know on here that other people can relate to and understand what this feels like but you're right, I can produce eggs and I have a good one inside, so must see this as a positive first round now rather than being disappointed and sad xxx I hope you're doing ok on your journey x

Oh sorry to hear this news. I can imagine it's a shock- you think the numbers are on your side and the rug gets pulled from under you.

Stay positive - any stress or worry during this time won't do you any good. Focus all your energy on getting that embie to stick.

Sending lots of good vibes and hugs your way. Truly hope this works for you

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Scarlett13 in reply to abcgirl

Thanks abc girl for your lovely kind words, as you know, it's devastating when you get told nice numbers then you have nothing or just one - but of course I'm grateful for my one chance and hope so much that you have a LOT more joy and chances in your next go xxx

Definitely stay positive - we had 6 eggs, 4 fertilised but by day 5 just 1 2bb was left to transfer and the other 3 'expired' (got told that on Mother's Day of all days - was devastating) - that 1 fighter is now a 34 week pregnancy so it can happen! Stay strong and try to keep healthy and positive - wishing you all the best x

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Scarlett13 in reply to Linda78

Wow Linda how amazing! I'm so happy for you! I hope we can be as lucky. The word expired sounds so cold. I was told mine were still growing but weren't good enough to freeze so would be 'discarded'. Such a shock. I've woke up today in a new positive mindset for the one inside me x

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Linda78 in reply to Scarlett13

Thank you - we're still in shock that it might actually happen after so many years of disappointment! Yeah some of the language the clinicians use can be pretty shocking - it's like they just don't realise what they are saying! In terms of waiting and staying positive I found a hypnotherapy cd called belief by Helen McPherson really helpful - it takes you through all the stages of IVF but I found it particularly helpful during the 2ww - seriously have everything crossed for you and everyone else on this crazy journey x

We’re all rooting for you Scarlett. This happens first time for so many people, there’s no reason to say it won’t happen for you! Positive thoughts sending your way x

Thank you for rooting for me xxxx

I just wanted to send some positive vibes your way, I was the same as yourself on the first round of ivf, 15 eggs and only one able to transfer with none to freeze even though all seemed to be doing good after day 3. Unfortunately we weren't successful that time but my second round was similar 25 eggs collect one to transfer but also one to freeze and that one embryo was successful & I am now due in 9 weeks!! Keep being positive xx

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Scarlett13 in reply to Laura3101

Thank you for sharing your incredible story!! It really is quality over quantity isn't it?! So did your pregnancy result from the fresh or frozen embryo on your second round? You must have been very anxious about the 2nd round, especially when all those eggs only resulted in 2 in total - congrats!!!! Hope you've had a good pregnancy and good luck with the birth, beautiful story and it does give me hope xxx

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Laura3101 in reply to Scarlett13

Pregnancy resulted from the fresh embryo so we still have the frozen embryo to use if we need to next time which will save on the egg collection again phew! Defo quality over quantity. This one was a 5ba so not top but not too far away 😊 x

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