Positive result vs negative thoughts

[Paris1771]

Hi everybody

Today is our OTD and the result came out positive! I could guess it coz my mens was due on tuesday but didnt come yet! Honestly Im not so happy about it and every bad experience from my last pregnancy comes to my eyes like a movie! Im so scared for my ultrasound wich will be in about 3werks! I even can not imagine that I was able to produce healthy eggs as Im 40 and the dr said that my embryos qualities r not very good! Im just waiting to hear bad news again! Tired of waiting and stress! I have almost no symptoms! Sore breast comes and goes and just a lower backace which I guess coz of my job as Im standing for a long time everyday!

Maybe it was better to go for DE before starting ! I dont know!

Is there anybody who tried her own egg at 40+?!

Thank u so much for your replies!xxxx

[Cinderella5]

Awwww Paris!! I'm so delighted for you honey!!👏😊🤗😍🥰♥️🙌🏻 Cant help with the advice bit but I'm keeping my fingers & toes crossed this is your time!!!🤞🏻xxx

[Paris1771 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank u sooo much! The next bpf will be yours🤞🤞🤞🤞but wish u a pregnancy far from the stress that I am dealing with!

Sending u baby dusts and love to your way!🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘❤️❤️

[Cinderella5 in reply to Paris1771]

Thank you!💖 However I think when we have tried so hard to have a baby, the anxiety that comes with BFP is like nothing we can imagine BUT a BFP is definitely the biggest hurdle so far.....one day at a time!!xxx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Paris1771]

P.S Enjoy watching your friend toasting you with a lovely drink whilst you drink lemonade!🤗😂xx

[Paris1771 in reply to Cinderella5]

Lol! Yes , that’s what exactly I gonna do in my holiday😩😉xxx

[Nuszkahope]

Paris first congratulations and second, you have got to stop that! You are pregnant and all will be ok, stay positive, take it easy and do not stress ... I will be 38 in a few months and I will be trying with my own eggs until I am told that there is absolutely no chance to have a baby with my eggs ... congratulations again x

[Paris1771 in reply to Nuszkahope]

Thank u so much honey! I really want to be positive but it’s out of my controll! Last time I was over the moon when I got the bfp but everything just ruined out after visiting the dr for my first scan! Im too scared too face all of it again! I dont know how to deal with it but I promise to try my best!

38 is much much better than 40 and I do hope u to get pregnant easily this time! 🤞🤞🤞xxxxx

[Nuszkahope in reply to Paris1771]

Please don’t worry, I know it is all out of our hands but we have to be and stay positive, I have been through this hell for 3 years now and will keep going until I am told there is no chance and I should give up x I know that it is easier said than done as I also have bad days, full of worries and panic ... you are pregnant though so try to relax as much as possible xx wishing you all the best and keep us posted xx

[Paris1771 in reply to Nuszkahope]

Sorry that u have been through too much stress as well! Yes, we must try to keep out faith and hope!

I’ll let u know what happens on the scan day for sure! Xxxx

[Nuszkahope in reply to Paris1771]

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻😘😘😘😘 and now go and celebrate that you are pregnant 🤰

[Paris1771 in reply to Nuszkahope]

By the way, my dr told me to start with fragmin5000 injections and continue with baby aspirin75 mg as well till the scan date! However I will start it after coming back from travel on wednesday!

Thought u may will know that! xxxx

[Debrakay1704]

Congratulations xx

[Paris1771 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thank u so much!xxxx

[MissSaoPaulo]

After a loss it can be difficult/impossible not to feel anxious. Don't be hard on yourself if you're unable to feel too positive about the pregnancy right now - it's a form of self-protection after last time. As time passes and things develop it will get easier and as you feel more confident about the pregnancy the happiness will come.

As for donor eggs, I think you're panicking a little and getting ahead of yourself - wait and see what happens with this pregnancy. I had IVF with my own eggs just as I was turning 39 and I've got one in the oven right now (kicking me!!) and 3 in the freezer.

Hope the time passes quickly to your scan and the news is all good xxx

[Paris1771 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Yes, I think Im self guarded and self protected after all those dark days! If my scan result come positive I can make a relief alittle bit but still long way to go!

Ya,i r right. Im overthinking about OE or DE ! I should just wait to c what is waiting for us !

Im sooo happy to hear about your little bean❤️It’s great! Wish u all the luck in the world honey! Thanx alot for your nice text! Xxxxx

[Hidden]

Eeeek, massive congratulations. Brilliant news and I am wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Keep thinking positive thoughts xxx

[Paris1771 in reply to Hidden]

Thank u so much honey! Hope u r doing great! xxxx

[Teekaymix]

Hi everyone,

Congratulations but you need to adopt a positive mindset, don't give up. It's not over until it is over, it can only get better.

It can be a very tough situation, believe me, I just had ICSI and my OTD is on Monday. I have been bleeding for 2 days now. I am not going for the OTD cos it's obvious nothing happened.

I have 2 best friends heavily pregnant (normal conception) with their second children.

I go to parties where women talk about their children and how pregnancy felt but I have to keep quiet in shame because av got nothing to say.

I understand your pain but life has to go on. It can be very disheartening, I have decided not to cry anymore because it doesn't help.

Hang in there, all will be well.

[Paris1771 in reply to Teekaymix]

Hi dear

Yes Im trying to think positive and being realistic at the same time! We have to accept our situation however it’s tough!

Hope u get a bfp honey ! It can be with bleeding but still pregnant as well!

Take care of yourself! Sending lots of love and baby dusts to your way!

[pinksnow]

Congratulations! I’m 40 and 10 weeks pregnant after FET with my own eggs, this will be my first child 👶🏻 I’ve been there, I’ve had 3 miscarriages and spent the first 7 weeks of this pregnancy in a state of sheer panic. But then I had two scans, saw all was well and realised that stressing out is not going to help so I’m trying to chill out and enjoy the horrendous morning sickness and constant boob/backache 🤗 I wish you all the very best and just because we are 40 does not mean we are out of the game! 😬x

[Paris1771 in reply to pinksnow]

Oh honey it is sooo great to hear that! Did u use FE from your40 or it was before that?

I think my last MC had a very deep and bad impact on me that Im still too scared to face it again! But I will try my best to handle with this waiting !

Hope u a great healthy pregnancy! Sending lots of love to your way! xxxx

[Muppetgirl]

I'm 45 and 7 + 5 pregnant with my own eggs. I get my scan on Tues so am understanding that waiting worry. Longing to see that heartbeat. Good luck. Enjoy cos right now your are pregnant.

[Paris1771 in reply to Muppetgirl]

Wow! That’s amazing dear! So impressing! Hope u a very healthy and great pregnancy! xxxxx

[hannahding]

Hey congratulations on the BFP. I can understand why you are scared and stressed. However, I would suggest not to think this negatively. You should be positive and refrain from such thoughts. Keep yourself busy with positive thoughts. I would suggest that you take super care of yourself. Eat healthy good and drink lots of food. PRaying for your smooth pregnancy.

[Paris1771 in reply to hannahding]

Hi dear! Thank u so much! Yes, u r right! Im trying my best! Hope it goes on well! Best wishes to u too! Xxx

[Lowamh]

What lovely news! Congratulations! I also didn’t have good embryo quality and am nervous about the scan in 2 weeks. If guess we have to wait and see but I feel anxious like you do. I wish you all the best x

[Paris1771 in reply to Lowamh]

Thank u so much! Yes it is too much stress that we have to deal with after the 2ww as well! Wish u get a brilliant news on your scan honey! We must just try to relax a little bit! xxxx