2mts after lap..period has stopped! 20days high reading on fertility monitor! Could I be menopausal?

[AnnieMac123]

Hi girls.. I have my paranoid penny hat on today! But am pretty worried my inside have just decided to give up on me completely! I had a 2nd lap in feb...extensive endo removed.. My ovaries n bowel were all effected so pretty big op and 5wks off work to recover. My amh was only 2.4 so I knew going into this op that my eggs were pretty much disappearing. I had kissing ovaries (stuck together) so I knew extensive work was needed on them and that my egg reserve would drop further after op.

Month after op, My first period came one day early and wasn't anything unexpected. Always have extremely heavy periods but never in pain. I am so regular I can pretty much predict my cycle down to the hour it's due! So this month am a little scared that it's now a full week late. This never happens...I have even done pregnancy 3tests..no such luck! And I so wish I hadn't got my hopes up!!

I am using the clearblue fertility monitor as well in the hope of giving us the best chance of falling pregrant...last month I had 20days of high readings..but no peak reading.

Am now starting to think..That's it..am finally in a menopausal state and that the end of hoping for any little miracle baby! We r looking at donor egg ivf but I was still hoping against hope we could b one of the lucky ones. I have 2friends with endo who fell pregrant 1St time trying after their laps! Am pretty devastated this week... Anyone else experience irregular periods after op? Am I just wasting money continuing to use fertility monitor?? Any advise be much appreciated.. Thanks girls

[recidwen]

AnnieMac I could really recognise the anxiety in this post and had to write. It can feel so desperate and lonely and it is so hard to not dwell in the worst-case-scenario. Your worries are valid though. You’ve had a serious, invasive op and it takes a lot of you. Things probably will be a little messed up for a while. So much stress on your lovely lady bits. I don’t know about you but I felt kind of violated afterwards, like I had let my sweet body down. I just had my tubes cut away from my uterus but things did not and still do not feel right afterwards and I had my op in December. It can take a long time. I think you still have a chance to use your own eggs. If I was you i’d be nourishing, working on mindset and stepping away from the monitor for a cycle. Heal! Then, if I still felt like things were off I wouldn’t waste anytime getting back to the doctors and pushing for other tests.

Here if you need to chat, for real.

Xx

[AnnieMac123 in reply to recidwen]

Thank you so much...u kinda nailed it as to how am feeling! The surgeon suggested that I may loose my tubes during donor ivf or the next lap! He stated that endo b back just as bad in 6mts time..so it's like having a massive count down clock ticking in my head these days!! The girls r taking me on a spa break to help me de-stress!! Here's hoping it works! Hope you feel better soon too... It's all such a heartache!