So, I'm new. And I think you're all amazing.

[JBDawnie]

Hello!

Nice to meet you all. I hope you're having a good week. This is tough, isn't it? Introducing yourself to a bunch of strangers and hoping they can connect with what you're going through. There is so much sadness on here and so much hope and I'm hoping that somewhere in the middle I can find someone who feels like me. Someone who is so ready to be a mum and has so much love to give and is so ready to be a parent, but for so many little reasons it's just not happening as easily as it should. I had an ectopic pregnancy last summer and it looks like I had a previous one I didn't know about, so two years after we started trying, this is where we are.

I'm surrounded by friends with beautiful tiny babies and healthy bumps right now and a family who don't really understand or know how to support me emotionally. I have a husband who is my whole world and my rock and he's going to be such a great dad, but we feel like we're doing this all on our own right now. Our little team is nervous and scared and with all the positivity of moving forward with IVF comes a whole new set of worries. What if I get another ectopic? What if it doesn't work? What if I can't inject myself properly or what if I turn into a raging hormone monster that nobody wants to be around? Do we try again if it doesn't work?... So many questions and worries.

We're all doing this together. Because if you've never known what it's like to lose your hopes and dreams, you'll never quite understand like we do. And no matter what, we are whole people and if this doesn't work and we can't be mothers, we're still amazing people who've given everything we've got. Maybe I won't get pregnant naturally or with IVF. Maybe I'll adopt. Maybe I'll get a dog. But whatever happens, I know the we are strong and brave and capable and don't let anyone tell you different.

It's all going to be ok. Even if it feels like it never will. Xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

Nice to meet you hon. Without a doubt, you'll find people on here who know exactly what you're going through and understand how you feel. You'll also find loads of practical advice, reassurance when you're anxious and empathy when you just need to let the frustration out - which, feel free to do on here

[JBDawnie in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thank you so much. That's all anyone needs, is someone to understand. And sometimes it's so hard to vent or find advice. Xxx

[Kitcat12]

Nice to meet you lovely, there's an amazingly supportive group of ladies on here who I'm sure you'll find an enormous source of support as you start on your journey. As for your worries, totally understandable and normal! I was anxious and very worried about going through IVF but just took it step by step and actually the whole process has been ok. Stressful, and full of sorrow at times, but overall ok. Moving on to FET after suffering a MC before Xmas, anything you need, questions or just a good old moan feel free to message x

[JBDawnie in reply to Kitcat12]

Thank you so much. I'm so sorry for your loss, you're doing so great. Thank you for understanding and being amazing Xxx

[Kitcat12 in reply to JBDawnie]

Thank you lovely, I'm doing my best x

[JBDawnie in reply to Kitcat12]

That's all any of us can do, babes. One day at a a time, just trying to do our best Xx

[Militarywife7]

Its so wonderful to have the support of the ladies on here, theres so many things that run through your mind and its nice to get others perspective, or just generally to ask questions etc We all understand each others emotions and struggles, so we can all relate to you in some way or another. I'm sorry to hear that you have a difficult time, but we are here to support you on your journey when you need us xx

[JBDawnie in reply to Militarywife7]

Thank you so much. Thank you so much for all your support Xxx

[AvaEva999]

Hello dear! Strong post, I must admit. Welcome you to the group! I can assure you that you'll find support here from all of us. Even if we have different journeys it doesn't mean that we do not understand you or won't support.

All your worries and questions are normal. I think all of us have or had the same. I was asking myself all the time if I was ready for all of this, if I was ready for changes, for such hard trials, for medications. examinations, mental and physical pain... What if I couldn't... What if I wanted to stop... But the main question for me was: What if I could never become a mom and would never hold my baby????...

I understood, that all the efforts are worth it! I truly believe in miracles and the same happened to me! I was blessed!

Nowadays there are more and more new methods and treatments, clinics and people who are ready to help! So, why should I stop? What then I live for?

I am proud that I didn't stop and continued fighting for my family! I have a gorgeous 8yo son and 17th week of pregnancy with a little princess. Thanks to the doctors, thanks to the clinics and new technologies, all my friends and family for not leaving me in those hard moments of my life!

Please, fight for yourself, your hubby and your future baby! Believe!

My best wishes and all my prayers for you!

xx

[JBDawnie in reply to AvaEva999]

Thank you so much. It's so good to know people understand how you feel. Xxx

[3005]

Hi 👋🏻

This group has been a great help to me, everyone’s kind words of help and advise and also just knowing you’re not alone in this all consuming journey.

Starting IVF is scary but take it one step at a time and you’ll be fine and we will be here to help you through.

Wishing you the best of luck xxx

[JBDawnie in reply to 3005]

Thank you so much, good luck to you too! Xxx

[Kiedy84]

Hi, welcome to the group, from now on you will never feel like you are doing this on your own. We are always here to support one another, to share worries and hopes that even our closest friends and family can't really relate to.

Stay strong, you got this xxxx

[JBDawnie in reply to Kiedy84]

Thank you so much. You got this too! Xxx

[Debrakay1704]

Welcome and wishing you a positive outcome on your journey. xx

[JBDawnie in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thank you so much. Everyone's been so welcoming on here, it's really nice. Xx

[Debrakay1704]

Good that is how it should be, it is really helpful to have people going through the same especially when you are worried or anxious, people on her are brilliant and help a lot. xxxx